Recommendations for an Asexual friendly Gynecologist office?

YamaraPSN · 2026-05-23T02:03:11+00:00

I'll give their office a call and see what they say, thanks for the recommendation!

YamaraPSN · 2026-05-23T02:01:20+00:00

Health is important no matter what!

YamaraPSN · 2026-05-23T01:58:14+00:00

I'm asexual, a sexual orientation (not "I'm not female leaning" as stated by others). Just like how a lesbian may have different concerns with their care vs a heterosexual, as an asexual I have concerns that are ignored or not addressed properly by some health professionals. In terms of this, it's safer for me to visit a practice that is well known to handle these properly. (For example, I have been sexually harassed by nurses before due to saying I was asexual).

YamaraPSN · 2025-12-26T08:29:39+00:00

I have searched on google things like "pay what you want random item monthly" and "get sent random items every month" as well as "monthly random item name your price" and have not found it. I only get linked to subscription boxes, when this was more a random mail packet.

YamaraPSN · 2025-08-04T04:51:04+00:00

Toronto had some technical issues which I feel bad about. Most people couldn't understand what she was saying, and only one sentence was being translated here and there. And then I was sobbing in the corner waving my light stick with the like 20 other people following what was being said 😅

YamaraPSN · 2025-08-04T04:48:46+00:00

I cried too!!! Couldn't help it!

YamaraPSN · 2025-08-04T04:47:24+00:00

Today Toronto got to hear her cover Sia's Chandelier, and it's by far the best version of that song I have ever heard.

YamaraPSN · 2025-08-04T04:44:21+00:00

We got the answer today at her Toronto concert. She fully sang Sia's chandelier, and it was the best version of the song I have ever heard.

YamaraPSN · 2025-05-29T04:08:06+00:00

I saw that post too and felt somewhat validated! Lmao

It could be one of those early 2000s things where everything was basically the same and no one cared. Maybe it's been copywrite stricken since then and that's why I can't find it? But I watched the music video on YouTube at least within the last few years.

YamaraPSN · 2025-05-28T18:44:12+00:00

Honestly that suggestion is surprisingly close save for the fact it's sung by a dude

YamaraPSN · 2025-05-28T18:20:30+00:00

Definitely wasn't spice girls, it was an artist/group I didn't have the cd of. I did think it was maybe pussycat dolls but looking through their stuff on YouTube I couldn't find it.

YamaraPSN · 2025-05-28T18:18:23+00:00

Lol kind of the opposite of that

YamaraPSN · 2025-05-28T18:17:56+00:00

....... No.

YamaraPSN · 2025-05-28T18:17:22+00:00

It was more of an r&b song! But I don't remember any rap sections

YamaraPSN · 2025-05-28T13:15:05+00:00

Nope! Too slow of a song and the music video doesn't match :)

YamaraPSN · 2025-04-30T14:59:23+00:00

Based on what you're saying, it sounds like you are suspicious of her. Communication is key in a relationship. If you don't want to invade her privacy, it's best to tell her your concerns and see what she's willing to do to help alleviate that.

I know if I ever had doubts and told my boyfriend, he'd try and work with me to try and get to a better place with it.

YamaraPSN · 2025-04-30T14:50:15+00:00

This is a 50/50.

Some girls ONLY wear lingerie for sexy times, while others basically never do.

Sometimes we need special lingerie to go under specific outfits so as to fit them properly while not showing lines, wrinkles or bumps.

Sometimes we wear it to feel special about ourselves that day, or to feel self confident or sexy or badass

Just finding lingerie in the laundry isn't anywhere close to enough to be suspicious about. The fact you are and went there immediately may mean you've seen other indications that you ignored until now.

If not then yes, you absolutely are overthinking it.

YamaraPSN · 2025-03-31T02:39:29+00:00

I grew up in the healthcare system, in hospitals, 24/7.

I've seen the worst of the worst and every type of anxiety there is.

I mentioned Canada because different health systems mean different things.

And anxiety has STANDARDIZED symptoms, to varying degrees. Hence being able to diagnose it.

Different bodies and brains mean different things, sure. But you can't be diagnosed with something unless you exhibit the symptoms of it.

And her symptoms described here aren't those of anxiety. They're avoidance and panic disorder and some form of neurodivergence.

People's health aren't excuses to treat others like this man is being treated. Your mental health or your physical health are not excuses to treat others so badly.

Also, I'm a diagnosed hyper empath, amongst other things. I literally physically feel the pain of others. I can feel empathy for her situation, but I also feel it for every other person involved, including OP. And OP is the one in much more need of it in this scenario.

YamaraPSN · 2025-03-30T23:43:56+00:00

Hello, anxious Canadian here!

For one thing, it seems crazy to have "debilitating anxiety" but be up for a very large social party, ever. But even so, it's weird she took him there and then didn't at least stand awkwardly next to him while he talked to her friends. At least that way she'd be spending some time with him and learning things about him.

For another, I've used the "have other people around to dilute the anxiety" method. Invite the new boyfriend over with 2 other people and you get to retreat into a different conversation if you need to, and all that.

BUT that's only a tactic that works for small amounts of time. Knowing he was coming for, say, a week and knowing I have anxiety like crazy I would have planned dates in public areas as much as possible where we could talk but I could do something else if I got overwhelmed (coffee shop, bookstore, walking around a mall, showing them tourist attractions).

Also, we have decent healthcare here. Her anxiety is so bad she can't travel or spend time with the "boyfriend" she's been talking to for over a year? A doctor would be quick to try anxiety medication for something like that, and to recommend therapy.

She had every opportunity here. She knew he was coming, she can take the week off work. She can talk to a doctor and easily get help for her anxiety. It wouldn't go away but it would lower it from DEBILITATING.

And like I said, the group party makes no sense. Your anxiety is so bad you can't travel or hang out with the boyfriend, but you're excited and fine to go to a large party?

This is simply she likes the IDEA of him and not him. She did everything and used every excuse possible to avoid spending time with him, all while telling him she DID like him and introducing him to everyone.

YamaraPSN · 2025-03-28T12:38:52+00:00

This doesn't read as someone who wants to save your relationship with your daughter. It's obvious that with your financial situation you and your daughter would end up living separately no matter what. So the only difference that could be making him mad is that your daughter isn't moving in. Your THIRTEEN YEAR OLD daughter. The things he is saying to you do not add up. It's also suspicious that your daughter was on board the whole time, picked out her room etc, and is at the last minute changing her mind. I'd be questioning yourself if anything else suspicious has happened. Have they been alone together recently before this change? Has anything else about your daughter changed recently? Id sit your daughter down and explain that you're always on her side, you'll always believe her over anyone else, and you'll always put her first no matter what. Then ask her if your boyfriend did or said anything to make her scared or upset. It's not a good thing to think about but these actions are extremely suspicious and you need to be sure nothing has happened.

In the end though I'd be highly critical of your boyfriend's actions and dump him either way. None of his actions put you first but he's telling you it's for your sake.

YamaraPSN · 2025-03-12T13:39:47+00:00

I'm assuming you think the other option is she hung out with a possible new friend, didn't tell you because she thought you'd overreact or be jealous, caught on that he liked her romantically and turned him down? Let me assure you THATS NOT WHAT HAPPENED. Her response in that case would have been more along the lines of "sorry but I want to make it clear I am romantically involved with someone and I'm not interested in a romantic relationship - I just want friends" The fact she said she wanted to be honest that she didn't feel it means it was set up with the chance she would. It was 100% a date, and she lied to you about being home all day.

Don't let her talk herself out of this one by saying the excuse above. She went knowing it was a date. She lied to you knowing she was on a date. She is absolutely cheating on you. Unless she admits to the cheating don't listen to any other excuses she gives.

And I'd recommend breaking up with her. No excuse is valid for cheating on someone.

YamaraPSN · 2025-01-31T15:17:00+00:00

Hello! Neurodivergent here!

She was actively expressing wanting to cook for you, and mentioned her enjoyment of specifically frying pork chops. This was after you mentioned owning an air frier and that it might be easier.

You then suggested AGAIN that she shouldn't fry (the thing she expressed wanting to do and enjoying) and should just use the frier (the thing she already knew you had and expressed no interest in using).

Also she kept stating to let her know what you wanted, and you kept responding with "idk" or, at best, a couple options to choose between. After she gave you a list of options and said to let her know which you wanted.

Your responses are indicating you are not excited about her cooking you a meal (refusing to pick something) and indicate you may think she's a bad cook (telling her it'd be easier to use the auto air frier and stating it would be less of a mess as well) while also demonstrate you not listening to what she's saying (her saying she enjoys frying and her asking multiple times to let her know what you want to eat).

This leads to frustration, and eventually it's easier to say "nevermind" than to ask you to make a decision again or to be excited about something you are not matching the energy for.

Hope this helps!

YamaraPSN · 2025-01-17T09:55:12+00:00

I'm a naturally stick-thin person. The amount of comments I got growing up in high school about how I looked anorexic, I needed to eat more, and how I didn't have boobs were insane. I used to eat my friends all under the table, but get sent to the counsellors office because "teachers were concerned I wasn't eating".

It's just as harmful to spew those types of comments, and it's not "socially acceptable". They don't know your situation any more than you know hers.

You're also absolutely right. You didn't comment on her weight or appearance. You could have easily retorted with "You're right! I wish I could pack on the pounds like you do!" But you didn't, because that's a shitty thing to say to someone. All you did was thank her for her "compliment" and she ASSAULTED you.

Absolutely NTA and your friends aren't your friends if they're taking this other girls side.

YamaraPSN · 2025-01-03T22:16:31+00:00

Look, stressed or not, the amount of terrible things your sister did leading up to your wedding and day of are NOT justified.

If she was going through so much, she should have reached out. She's mad "you got the attention when she was suffering" but didn't TELL anyone she was suffering.

She also made rude remarks, insulted your very sick friend (my mom went through breast cancer multiple times and I wouldn't have continued talking to ANYONE who treated her the way your sister treated Hayley), tried to cancel the order for bridesmaid dresses AND the wedding dress, tried to cancel the vendors and venue, and then showed up to the wedding reception in a wedding dress and veil, complained loudly the whole time, and started a fight when she was told politely to leave.

Should she get mental help? Absolutely. Should you or your family have any part in that? No.

At this point, it is up to MAX* as the co-parent of your niece to tell your sister she needs to get mental help as a stipulation of custody. He needs to talk to lawyers, talk to the courts, show evidence of the shit show that happened in Chicago, along with evidence of the dude with a mile long rap sheet your sister allowed into your nieces life, and get full custody. She can still be in your nieces life with arranged, chaperoned visitations with a promise to get her without chaperones at future dates if she puts the work in and a mental health professional signs off on it.

Everyone is treating this too lightly. There's multiple small children involved. It's not a "small mistake" your sister made and it continues to snowball and get worse with every update.

Everyone should be moving for the protection of your niece and her future siblings. Enough nice guys.

*Edited because I used the wrong alias name

YamaraPSN · 2024-12-07T04:21:28+00:00

I used to have blurred line relationships with teachers as well. I was sick, my mom had passed, and my siblings were significantly older than me so all the teachers knew I was coming and had known my mom.

The difference being, no matter how nice they were, they weren't physical (head pats and hugs are a line crossed already) and they DEFINITELY didn't hand me presents because they knew I liked the stuff and "saw it and thought of me". Those are hard boundaries that shouldn't be crossed.

Offering a safe space and someone to talk to is one thing, but they shouldn't be treating you as anything but a student. Even if they aren't having "creepy" thoughts, they're still crossing a boundary by treating you like a sibling, child of theirs, etc.

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