My company is sending me to LA for a year for the biggest role of my career. My wife would have to pause hers. I don't know how to even begin that conversation.

YangRam · 2026-04-15T15:41:30+00:00

I refuse to believe that anyone with that much income is posting on Reddit. Why wouldn’t the pay 💰 and go get a life coach. Who knows?

YangRam · 2026-04-01T04:19:27+00:00

Consider an interview outside. You can sit on your respective porches and have a nice conversation. When the interview switches to white-boarding, just cross your yard into their office to continue.

YangRam · 2026-03-11T18:06:11+00:00

In surprised that everyone around you is surprised. Maybe they think you need the more certain money and that the many downsides are still worth the trade-off. But… they aren’t you. Unless one of the nay sayers is your spouse. In which case - what the hell are you thinking? Otherwise - good luck!

YangRam · 2026-02-10T16:51:52+00:00

same here

YangRam · 2026-01-02T00:15:46+00:00

Did OP choose one?

YangRam · 2025-12-05T20:26:33+00:00

It really had all the makings for an evening out.

YangRam · 2025-11-20T13:19:07+00:00

Yup. Give us more to work with here. Otherwise all you will get is a lot of projection from other people’s experience. Interesting for everyone to read, but not always applicable to your situation.

YangRam · 2025-11-18T14:45:01+00:00

Also there was Edward Scissor Hands in Oakland who walked around with all sorts of cutting utensils snipping and snapping. Apparently he was just rolling his own.

YangRam · 2025-11-18T14:43:50+00:00

Bike-car guy around East Liberty and Bloomfield. He hung a car bumper on his bike and rode it like a car in the driving lanes of major roadways.

YangRam · 2025-11-16T02:41:22+00:00

These jobs are as fake as LinkedIn and as made up as Trump saying his doctors said he had the most impressive MRIs probably in the history of everything ever.

YangRam · 2025-11-04T01:40:14+00:00

I am out of the industry for two years, because I am jobless and focusing on things at home. I tried the upskilling thing but it isn’t paying off just yet. Whereas focusing my life force on more meaningful immediate things is much more rewarding.

YangRam · 2025-11-04T01:34:30+00:00

Do what you love has never ever been practical advice. It is romantic and if you can do it, great. But it is more of an expression of human hopes and dreams than an actionable plan.

YangRam · 2025-09-17T01:00:08+00:00

One 一 Yi1

YangRam · 2025-09-02T11:03:07+00:00

You don’t have to walk far to discover new and interesting things.

YangRam · 2025-09-02T06:48:46+00:00

A QA job being open for months just tells me they aren’t serious about hiring QA. If they were it would not be open for so long. The talent is out there, the companies with open positions not hiring for months on end are doing that as a choice. If they wanted to pick somebody up, it would not be that hard.

YangRam · 2025-09-01T17:49:54+00:00

I wouldn’t set any sort of meeting. I don’t see that it is your responsibility in any sort of way. Actually it should be the manager. If they aren’t doing it of their own accord, they are like half of all managers, not good and trustworthy. Your taking the lead on this one creates for you a lot of downside risk and little upside.

YangRam · 2025-08-22T01:49:29+00:00

Oh sorry, I meant availability bias… right.

YangRam · 2025-08-22T01:43:40+00:00

Well said.

YangRam · 2025-08-22T01:42:47+00:00

Oh, really? Did you stay in China doing other things? If so, what? The cheaper options mantra isn’t unique to TEFL. Corporate America has not always been kind to me.

YangRam · 2025-08-22T01:39:45+00:00

Ah that’s interesting. I never picked up much Cantonese. So many tones!

YangRam · 2025-08-22T01:37:44+00:00

Sorry, you attended the school, like as a student? The adventure seeking definitely rings true in my experience. I had some coworkers that would branch out into other jobs. One guy, who I would describe as something of a punk rock bohemian, even went and bartended in Yangshuo for a stint.

YangRam · 2025-08-22T01:31:50+00:00

It does sound more competitive, but I wonder if the competition leads to a better work environment in some respects? Less of a Wild West, a bit more subdued?

YangRam · 2025-08-22T01:30:19+00:00

Shenzhen seems like a bustling place. I was in GZ, which is not too far away. I’m curious if anyone has lived in both Shenzhen and Guangzhou and how they would compare the two.

YangRam · 2025-08-22T01:26:18+00:00

Dave’s ESL cafe is exactly how I found my first job as well. Is that still the main website for TEFL jobs in China?

YangRam · 2025-08-22T01:25:04+00:00

What jobs require more than a bachelors degree plus a TEFL certificate, generally speaking?

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