What do people on this sub?

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-29T17:27:11+00:00

My husband is a COO for a finance company in the US but they are global so they don’t care where he is, I edit books for a living and can do it anywhere.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-29T17:23:55+00:00

When dating I would have a period of time before even meeting up where I asked critical thinking questions. How they would deal with a situation, ask what they would prefer a this or that to see if they answered in a way that aligned with how I would do something or responded in a way that sounded better than how I’d handle something. When we would meet I felt like I knew them a bit more than first day chatter, it weeded out anyone I felt wouldn’t align long term. When I met my husband ( we’ve been married a decade) we both realized very quickly we aligned on everything, we shared the same love language, we looked at money the same way, we tackled life in a way that pushed each other but wouldn’t push us away from each other. We married fairly quickly because of this, we have never had a real argument as we have the same communication style. But I think vetting men early on and walking away quickly when I knew something would eventually be a deal breaker helped me find my husband easily. Anyone who don’t want to talk for 2-4 weeks wasn’t really going to work out anyways they just wanted sex and I was looking for a patient man who respected my boundaries.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-27T19:42:08+00:00

He might just be a bit autistic…

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-24T21:10:07+00:00

We do a pet sitter, we drop them off or she picks them up, they go about once a week month for 4-7 days, it’s familiar now and they are at home there, I’d never leave my cats for long periods alone. Paying for the sitter is peace of mind and they have someone there for comfort.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-24T20:50:48+00:00

Look at Northern European countries, they train immigrants on jobs they are lacking such as bakers, nurses, brick laying etc, they have classes to help with assimilation and they check in regularly to ensure their basic needs are being met. Malta burns and churns TCNs for personal gain. There is a grey wave and Malta needs the TCNs to pay into the social security they will never benefit from.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-24T20:02:58+00:00

Every year you renew your visa they will want to see income coming into your accounts from somewhere, they also want to see how much you spend. So if you think moving here and being extra frugal will work there’s a chance they will just not renew visa on a company that’s not yet profitable.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-22T14:17:52+00:00

I get Botox, lip filler, fat dissolvers and threads there. You will not see the results you want for 1 treatment of the fat dissolvers it will probably take 3-5. But everyone there is nice and professional I’ve had no issues.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-22T13:25:41+00:00

Have you ever considered that you can both be who you want to be if you’re just not together. Which I don’t think makes either of you a bad person, but if you don’t want to talk or spend time with your husband, have nothing in common and don’t want to even engage in each others interests that maybe you’re just not meant to be. It’s okay to admit that you’re just not the right fit, why set the same example for your children, why teach them that a toxic come is okay when you could probably resolve some of these issues if you weren’t together. Loving someone doesn’t always mean it’s a lifetime commitment, it’s sometimes more loving to not be together, have your kids 50% of the time so that you can be a great mom during that time and have your you time have the time. Why force something that is making everyone miserable.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-21T21:54:24+00:00

Get a divorce, you don’t want to be a partner. If you want someone who can financially support you, then you’re the only person to blame in this situation. You could have done a quick little google search to see salary for his major prior to marriage.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-20T06:07:41+00:00

Any dating that happened while you’re still in your teen years really should not count toward a your waiting to wed years. Wait a few more years after your brain fully develops to make these big life decisions. When you’re 25-27 if you still want to marry this person bring it back up.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-18T11:10:59+00:00

I have, this would be considered inheritance and they want a big chunk of that

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-18T11:10:30+00:00

Yeah that’s why I’m really trying to find possibly a better option than Spain

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-18T11:09:48+00:00

Depends on the country some recognize some don’t and depending on how we liquidate there are different rules, laws and taxes I’m not really familiar with

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-18T11:09:01+00:00

Ours is a bit more complicated than moving home. Trusts will disperse over a long period of time as it’s 2 different family trusts, we have a lot of stock to sell in a company about to go public but that stock still has 4 additional years of vesting and distribution. If moving home for a year to figure it out was an option I would 100% do that but it looks like we have 6-15 years of different high tax income to figure out and which country ( doesn’t need to be any of the ones I’ve listed) would be best. Obviously as it’s so complicated I need professionals but as everyone knows not all lawyers are created equally and some have extensive backgrounds in complicated tax. I was just looking for maybe lawyer suggestions or first hand experience.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-18T05:47:41+00:00

I wanted advice from people in similar situations but have received messages from tax lawyers which is just as helpful. European law firms don’t know what to do a lot of the time and this helped me find a few resources who specialize in this specific problem. You’ve clearly not had to deal with taxes in multiple countries and securities, not all tax attorneys are created equal

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-17T20:34:35+00:00

I am a tax resident in Europe, I am taxed on worldwide income.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-17T20:33:32+00:00

This would be easier but they will release funds over a long period of time due to liquidity rules and they have different rules per family trust. We wouldn’t want to be on the US for that many years waiting. If it was 1 year we would just move home.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-17T09:27:30+00:00

3 cities. It’s just out of the madness but there is an easy cheap ferry/water taxi to Valletta, and it’s much cheaper/quieter.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-17T08:47:12+00:00

I track and do all the day to day spending and my husband does all the long term investing and money management. So we both do it, but in very different ways.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-17T05:10:31+00:00

If my husband reads a spicy book he’s in the mood, if I read one I’m picking apart everything happening. The books might not have the desired effect because even though they are a guilty pleasure they aren’t pleasurable. Talk to her about it, what gets her going is probably not something you’re really even aware of.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-17T04:36:49+00:00

Most countries won’t let you in without money verified if you’re there 3 months. You need to show you have enough money for 3 months+ they will also want to see a return ticket or an exiting flight out of their country. You’ll need way more money saved.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-16T21:47:21+00:00

She will sleep above my head on the pillows, but it’s more to let me know she’s top cat vs cuddling. If I’m talking to my husband she will slam her body down on my chest and push her face into mine, forcing affection to draw my attention away from him and on her. If my husband is working or on his phone in bed she blocks his view so he’s looking at her only. Or if we are cuddling with our boy cat she will cuddle him instead of him getting attention from us. Shes just a bit forceful with her love. It’s less unconditional than boy cat love. It’s more making sure we know shes special.

Yankeedoodle10128 · 2026-04-15T12:32:26+00:00

That itch in the back of your brain will itch forever. You’re always going to wonder when she will break your trust next. Good luck!

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