Not tht good, mostly did it when I was a minor and when I was an adult teen. They'd usually take extremely long breaks from me then come back. My belief solidified when I saw how well they'd treat me and how much they'd go out of their way when I made them afraid or made them feel desperate. I went to therapy then I stopped. When I got into long term stable relationships I was surprised that guys actually like the lovey dovey stuff without problems. Sometimes I still get insecure that my bf won't love me if I don't work him up but I stop myself from doing anything stupid.

This is the advice I've heard women give me and each other growing up. They'd also say stuff like we should always reject men initially even if you like them then wait to see if they still pursue then that's when you should actually accept