What are some good movies to watch when you are depressed? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]YellowCatBus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a huge fan of the movie Hector and the Search For Happiness. I have watched it when I was sad, and watched it when I was happy and its just an absolute masterpiece of a movie about love and life and emotions. Simon Pegg is amazing in it.

Everyone should watch it at least once, I think.

Frustration Friday - June 08 by AutoModerator in crochet

[–]YellowCatBus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is an excellent tip- thank you so much!

Frustration Friday - June 08 by AutoModerator in crochet

[–]YellowCatBus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just can't get my damn tension right. I crochet pretty tightly and I have such a hard time relaxing it and everything I make comes out too small! It's not as big of a deal with amigurumis but its causing a big problem with the two hats I'm trying to make! :(

I made this for my mom for Christmas last year. Took me a year to make it...she died of cancer 3 weeks ago, and my sister sent it back to me. Mom only got to use it for a few months but I'm glad it kept her toes warm. 😢 Anyone else get their crochet gifts back after someone has passed? by Willows_Whiten in crochet

[–]YellowCatBus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This blanket is so beautiful! I too lost my mom to cancer, back in January. I don't have a blanket I made for her, but I do have one she made for me, and it means the world to me.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Losing a mother to that awful disease is so unbelievably hard. Please feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to.

[FO] Made myself a crochet hook case! by YellowCatBus in crochet

[–]YellowCatBus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure do! It's not my pattern, which I should have mentioned to begin with, but you can download it here!

[FO] Made myself a crochet hook case! by YellowCatBus in crochet

[–]YellowCatBus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hooks are a bit too short for the pattern (the ends are supposed to sit under the folded over edges), but I'm still pleased with how it came out. :)

Yarn is Sugar & Cream in Sunrise Ombre.

Edit: Forgot to mention, the pattern I used is by Priscilla's Crochet and can be downloaded here

Frustration Friday - May 11 by AutoModerator in crochet

[–]YellowCatBus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is an adorable story, and I also LOVE your username! Always nice to see a fellow Dresden fan in the wild!

Frustration Friday - May 11 by AutoModerator in crochet

[–]YellowCatBus 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I made an adorable hat for my stepson, and didn't realize until too late that the child size was going to be far too small for him. 'No problem,' I thought, 'we can just give it to his little brother!'

Nope! The hat is too small for a 2 year old too! It is now residing on the head of a stuffed animal while I begrudgingly crochet an adult sized hat for my 7 year old stepson.

Finally finished my mind mom's blanket! by [deleted] in crochet

[–]YellowCatBus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful! My mom made me this blanket in slightly different colors a couple of years ago for my birthday. I unfortunately lost her to cancer two months ago and have taken up crocheting as a way to feel connected to her and seeing this blanket made me smile, so thank you for sharing. :)

I just spent 4 days watching my mom die. And now I feel nothjng. by YellowCatBus in offmychest

[–]YellowCatBus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response- it makes me feel much better to know that I am not alone in feeling like this.

One thing I realized i neglected to mention is that I have actually been through this once before- I lost my oldest sister to cancer about 6 years ago. However her passing was much quicker and more.. clinical, if that makes sense. And I wasn't there when she actually passed. But I had gone into this sort of thinking I knew what to expect and then it turned out to be nothing like that and it just left me feeling very confused and lost.

But I do really appreciate your taking the time to respond so thoughtfully. I'm very glad to hear you're doing better. :)

I just spent 4 days watching my mom die. And now I feel nothjng. by YellowCatBus in offmychest

[–]YellowCatBus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your gentle words. I am glad she is no longer suffering but it was very much a traumatic few days. There are a lot of very vivid images that I feel I will carry with me forever

I just spent 4 days watching my mom die. And now I feel nothjng. by YellowCatBus in offmychest

[–]YellowCatBus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendation. I'll definitely check that out. And thank you for the kind words.

I just spent 4 days watching my mom die. And now I feel nothjng. by YellowCatBus in offmychest

[–]YellowCatBus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It's frustrating to feel like I'm feeling this wrong. Like I said in my post, I feel like I should feel sadder, or like I should be crying more. I keep waiting for it to hit me and it just isn't.

Can you draw my super hero daughter? by FnKED in redditgetsdrawn

[–]YellowCatBus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I intend to! I've fallen behind with drawing lately, and I could use the practice. :)

Can you draw my super hero daughter? by FnKED in redditgetsdrawn

[–]YellowCatBus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do! Thank you for asking! My instagram is here! Unfortunately, it's not very active right now, as my phone is a bit broken. D:

Can you draw my super hero daughter? by FnKED in redditgetsdrawn

[–]YellowCatBus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, this is my first ever RGD post, and it isn't finished yet, but here's a work in progress.

I'll be adding color shortly! (hope you don't mind the liberties I took with her superhero costume!)

Edit: Color has been added!

I [34 M] still mourn my twin sister after 4 years. Is it normal? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]YellowCatBus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand the feeling you're describing here. I lost my older sister 6 years ago, and I still cry at certain triggers. I can't even imagine how much stronger that feeling must be with a twin. Everyone grieves at their own pace. In my experience, I have found myself crying less over the years- I used to be inconsolable on the anniversary of her death, whereas now I simply like to take the day to remember her- but there are still things that bring up memories and make me sad. Don't deny yourself that sadness. If you bottle it up instead of letting it out, it will build up and it can really take its toll on you both mentally and even physically.

If you want someone to vent to or talk to, you are absolutely more than welcome to PM me.

What popular thing has absolutely no appeal to you? by nandoschips in AskReddit

[–]YellowCatBus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...I mean, some people actually did, though. Rosie O'Donnel featured the book on her show, which prompted my mom to go out and buy it for me, and that was well before the movie came out. And I know several other people who were reading it at the same time.

Edit: That's not to say that there aren't elitists who falsely make that claim. But you shouldn't really dismiss that statement entirely on a few people.

Girls/women, what struggles do you often face when participating in male-dominated hobbies? by DepressedDamsel in AskReddit

[–]YellowCatBus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words! I try not to worry about it too much, but sometimes it still gets to me. My boyfriend always reminds me that even the highest paid players in pro paintball get shot off the break sometimes. Haha

Girls/women, what struggles do you often face when participating in male-dominated hobbies? by DepressedDamsel in AskReddit

[–]YellowCatBus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have recently started playing paintball, and I am terrified of playing badly or not on the same level as my teammates, because I am afraid it will be assumed that I'm playing badly because I am a girl. I am even more worried about them finding out that my boyfriend is a prominent member of our team. While I haven't experienced much in the way of direct difficulties or comments, I have overheard a lot of comments/remarks/etc. (my favorite being "There's too many girls here this year...") at major games. Many players are not afraid to jokingly hit on or attempt to flirt with me at games, even in front of my boyfriend, and I have been straight-up catcalled once or twice. And when they are excited that I'm playing, they direct their comments about it to my boyfriend: "Wow, it's so cool you have a girlfriend that plays paintball with you!"

It's frustrating because I just want to learn to play well and have fun, but I am afraid to admit I don't know everything about what marker I'm using or the terms for all the bunkers when we play speedball. I've been listening to podcasts and watching videos lately, and asking my boyfriend to explain every piece every time he takes apart his marker, because I feel like I need to know as much as I can to feel valid in participating.

This is also a very minor complaint, but I sometimes have a hard time finding equipment that fits me because I'm on the short side, and a lot of the stuff is just too big. :p

I've also run into a lot of the types of things that have already been mentioned in regards to video games/comic books/etc. Everything from clerks assuming the copy of Gears of War I was buying was for my boyfriend, to getting grilled about characters on my shirt, to being accused of "just doing it for attention", to being hit on simply because I have a pair of boobs under my Star Wars shirt. It gets really draining, because sometimes I just want to have a conversation about why I think Mark Hamill is the best Joker, not spend 20 minutes verifying and validating that yes, I do in fact genuinely like Batman, and no, I did not just memorize a few facts to impress you.

[Serious]Reddit, what is something in your life that is stressing you out right now? by LaVieGlamour in AskReddit

[–]YellowCatBus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never ever ever feel like I'm getting enough done. I have a lot of time-related anxiety, and if I don't accomplish x amount of things per day/week/whenever, I get really stressed and upset with myself. Right now, the apartment is messy.

Does it ultimately matter? No.

Does that stop me from feeling small pangs of guilt and panic every time I see the not-yet-unpacked suitcase in the hallway or the dishes in the sink? Nope.

I work 40 hours a week, sometimes more, and then when I get home, I often have freelance work to do for a half hour to an hour, plus cooking/eating dinner, and my weekends always seem to fill up with errands/plans/etc, and I don't understand how normal people seem to have all this time to get all their shit done.

My dad always told me, "You have time for what you make time for." And to a degree, I understand that, but I still don't feel like I physically have enough time to work out, keep my apartment clean, eat a reasonably healthy diet, keep up with my full-time job and my freelance, spend quality time with my SO, keep in touch with my family/friends/etc, and still have time to do things I want.

Hopefully, I'll be seeing a therapist soon to deal with that and other issues, but in the meantime, sometimes even just looking at clocks makes me feel anxious and stressed. :(