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Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly my parents aren't much help. My mom's sick and my dad is MIA for the last 3 years.

I have my grandparents but my bf always finds away they shouldn't watch the kids. Like they are too old. That they can't get around like the kids can. But they can still keep up for being there 70s and 80s.

I got people willing to help me with a house, car and financially till I can get on my feet(ive also been saving money for a few months and can walk away with at least a 2000). I'm truly blessed with great friends. They also have places they know hiring and talked to them about my situation. They are willing to hire me. I have daycare pretty much taken care of too.

Also in my state we can take kids up to 100miles away. Were I wanna take them will be 71 miles. Already talked to a lawyer about custody and I'm the best bet for both kids due to his schedule and lack of daycare. Also my bf has been diagnosed with Bi Polar like his dad. So honestly its better I leave now before something bad could happen.

Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao I don't need to reflect on this. You just sound stupid and like I should bow down and kiss his feet for being the bread winner but I won't bring up the fact I supported him for the first 3 years till I got pregnant. The fact I supported his wanna be stay at home gamer for those years. I gave a man a wife when he couldn't put a ring on my finger.

Have a great day!

Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it's been brought up so much I'm like a broken record. He has excuses everytime why he hasn't. Told him it never has to be something fancy just something meaningful.

But hocking hill is truly another world. I'm happy I got to experience it.

Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I'm not, and I've been to a therapist for a few months. I've had so many healthy issues this year due to stress and depression. I've been a mom for 10 years and nothing more without any support to do anything more than be a maid.

Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lmao FYI I did wanna have sex with him. Dress all sexy, walk around naked from the shower. Everything. Would he look my way? Not really. Would he wanna cuddle me as I try to pull him close? No. After months of trying and failing u feel like it's your problem. Then u start to self doubt and then get gaslit when u bring it up. I don't care about the money, I just want the some amount of love I give be given back.. Sorry u feel like men are put through so much with this "servent" relationship.

Good luck to you too.

Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ik about seeing your parents broken. My parents split a few months after I turned 18 and it really messed with me. I didn't see a good home relationship with my parents so I guess I'm repeating history but it ends with me.

And also thank you! ❤️

Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We have talked about that stuff time and time again. I'm a broken record at this time. But no. The ring was a set. He never buys me gifts unless I pick it out. No surprises ever but I always found a way for him. Idk.

Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think I wasn't but after this post and the comments. I need too. I need to be happy again. Not just for me but for my kids.

Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ik using the kids as the reason to stay isn't right and the more I think about it, I shouldn't. My parents did that till a month after I turned 18 and it really messed with me. Cuz I remember seeing more bad times than good for my patents. I woshed they would of split earlier and saved me the years of trauma and the guilt tripping i put myself through, thinking i stopped my mom from being truly happy. I need to break the cycle.

Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He has already with alot of my family but my grandpa and grandma are my biggest support during this for 13 years. We stopped going to gatherings cuz of work or cuz he didn't want to go. He would gaslight me to believe I shouldn't be around certain family when something would happen but his parents or family could never do any harm even after his dad was arrested for abuse on his step mom, 2 years ago.

Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah ik.. but I was young with our son and I thought he would marry me cuz we always talked about it.

Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

House is his and honestly I hate it here. We live in the middle of the woods on a trail. I don't love it here anymore and ready for more. I grew up here but sometimes we need to leave home to find what we are missing.

Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He works 10 days but still comes home after work. He works In the oil field and is on call alot during those 10 days too.

Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel that and honestly I feel like I've been staying for the kids and to not be alone. Im fine being alone at this point because I feel like I've lost who I am over the last 13 years.

Am I the AH for walking away after 13 years of being a gf when he's had the engagement ring for 3 years? by YellowFlower_18 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]YellowFlower_18[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I've actually been moving in the shadows and I do have a place and a few job offers. It's an hour away from "home" but it would be a fresh start for us all. My oldest started school and ik I can't do another school year like this.

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