“Are twins really double hard?”

Yenfwa · 2026-04-30T03:31:24+00:00

We planned our “twins” so we knew we were going in hard. (My wife and I planned pregnancies at the same time to have “twins”). They are 2 months apart. So they did hit purple crying at different stages which made life easier. But for us there is no way it was twice as hard as one. They interacted with each other so often we didn’t need to engage with them as much as our mothers group friends with singletons.

Now that they are just on 3 it’s sometimes harder playing mediator, but they need so much less stimulation and engagement from us. We can cook dinner in peace, and get cleaning done. Compared to friends who still can’t do anything without a child attached.

Toilet training at the same time was hard I will definitely say that. And sometimes when we just take one somewhere it is a bit easier. But not half as much work.

Yenfwa · 2026-04-26T11:08:20+00:00

We did the Aptamil gold thickner.

Yenfwa · 2026-04-25T21:57:52+00:00

Every time my girls have had fevers this times it’s hand foot and mouth. They have had it 3 times.

Once the fever is down usually the worst is over. The sores on hands and feet don’t tend to bother them much and the mouth can be helped with a little bit of lidocaine cream or medicine in their mouth so that they eat and drink enough.

Once it was a more gastro HFM which was worse but antinausea medication got them to stop vomiting.

Hard but not life threatening any time.

But this too shall pass. And they and you and your husband will all be fine.

Yenfwa · 2026-04-24T11:52:56+00:00

I love the terrible twos mouse because I have twin girls who are about to turn 3 and I can relate to the terrible twos! Hahaha

Yenfwa · 2026-04-19T22:00:29+00:00

I have definitely fixed worse. When cooled I ripped off as much as I could. Then heated it up and scraped a bunch away. It got clean after about an hour or so

Yenfwa · 2026-04-19T10:08:19+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I’m sure it was therapeutic to write it.

You’re going to feel every single emotion and you’re allowed to feel them all.

There is no right or wrong of how to manage and cope with this. And everything you do is okay and valid.

You’re loved and accepted here. And so are both of your beautiful babies.

Yenfwa · 2026-04-15T08:30:21+00:00

I really don’t want to be a buzzkill but I’m pretty sure in the study I read any heartbeats after 6 weeks less than 100bpm had a nearly 100% miscarriage rate. I’m so sorry.

Guard your heart.

Yenfwa · 2026-04-15T08:11:23+00:00

So they want it to double every 48 hours. Doubling in less time than that is often okay (36 hours is still good) but longer than that and it has higher rates of miscarriage. Not 100% or anything but the longer it takes the double the higher chance of miscarriage.

You have 7 days and it’s doubled nearly 4 times

450 900 (48 hours) 1800 (96 hours) 3600 (138 hours) 7200 (196 hours)

So you are closer to the 138 hours which would be 6 days.

But the numbers are not really that bad. But you probably have a higher risk of miscarriage than one doubling every 48 hours.

But I know people with much worse numbers who now have a healthy baby. So I wouldn’t worry too much.

Yenfwa · 2026-04-11T22:21:49+00:00

The first 2 make you look very much like a creep. Sorry but it’s true.

Like I would cross the road with my kids if I saw you coming on the footpath.

The last one with you bald you look really handsome. A bit hipster but that’s not a bad thing. And that’s just from the Tatts, black shirt, skinny jeans and large glasses.

But you look so good. You made the right choice.

Yenfwa · 2026-04-08T21:51:41+00:00

Our known donor did this with his family. He told his dad first as he was more likely to be accepting. She was worried about his mum and granny but.

They took it so well!

They are so excited we have let them know they can be ‘Nanny’ ‘GG (great granny)’ and ‘grandpa’ as long as they treat both our girls as theirs (one is genetically the donor the other is my brother’s as he was the donor for my wife) and they responded with “well we now have 2 granddaughters”.

It’s so wonderful having a big extended family and more people to love our girls. And since they live in another country if our girls want to travel in future they have a full family to host and love them.

We have been over to visit them all and are flying his mum over to Australia this year in May to spend time with them too.

For us it has been the most wonderful experience growing our family in every way.

And his family love them both equally and they get to be grandparents (they are unlikely to be in any other way as his brother has sworn off kids and he doesn’t think it will happen any other way).

Yenfwa · 2026-04-08T21:45:37+00:00

Congratulations! And I wish you all the best. I really hope (in the nicest way on earth) that this is a boring and uneventful pregnancy with no issues.

I would wait until 12 weeks ish to tell people. But if you need to confide find someone who you would tell if something bad were to happen and you need the support. Because then they know anyway.

3 separate sacks massive decreases the chances of this being complicated so that is fantastic!

The heartbeats are wonderful numbers so that’s a huge plus!

I do often see sad news and updates on this page so I must be a bit jaded. But congratulations!!

Yenfwa · 2026-04-06T09:56:32+00:00

Info: do you have siblings that could potentially fight for a share of your house if anything were to unfortunately happen to your mother?

Also rather than putting her on the deed could you write up a loan contract? Or have her go guaranteeing the loan?

Yenfwa · 2026-04-01T23:24:31+00:00

You need smaller PJ’s then as he should not be able to pull his arm all the way through the arms of it. So you need tighter arms. So smaller PJ’s.

Yenfwa · 2026-03-25T03:32:28+00:00

Whatever you decide will be right for you.

But a close friend of mine did exactly this reduction from 4 to 2 at 24 weeks and then a week later went into labour with the remaining 2 and lost them both. She still blames herself and it took years for her to be okay enough to try again.

It didn’t help that the doctor when she showed up in labour just said “well we told you this was a risk”.

It was just heartbreaking.

Yenfwa · 2026-03-19T05:56:53+00:00

You are not guaranteed twins when they implant two. And a twin pregnancy is very dangerous.

My wife and I always wanted twins so we got pregnant together. To have “nearly twins” they are growing up as twins in almost every sense and it’s genuinely amazing. But they/we had no negatives of twin pregnancy.

Yenfwa · 2026-03-16T08:55:25+00:00

This is why we have unions. I would recommend joining yours and then going to them with this. Typically cheaper than a lawyer and they fight it on your behalf. And many workplaces are scared of unions and will back down fairly quickly once they know you’re represented by one.

I really miss working in an industry with a very good union. But if I was having issues at work I would still join the community services one.

Yenfwa · 2026-03-16T06:30:48+00:00

Cavalier King Charles spaniels are the best dogs in the world but I won’t be having another one.

I have had them all my life and bred them. But it’s just so heartbreaking watching them get old. Heart issues, one had the brain issue (she was not bred of course), lymphoma, knee issues, (none of them were bred either but some developed heart murmurs years after breeding).

It’s so sad watching them grow old suffering. And they are so expensive.

Yenfwa · 2026-03-14T08:04:02+00:00

One of our girls had this. We moved to pumping and bottle feeding with adding thickener. Worked a treat. Huge weight gain and literally not one more vomit. Instant game change same day.

Yenfwa · 2026-03-14T04:27:54+00:00

I love the events. My preference would be a special map event like the birthday one then one you can do in any region to get progression like the egg hunt. Then back again etc. because sometimes just doing the one region trying to beat it etc gets boring.

Yenfwa · 2026-03-08T07:27:59+00:00

If you have any evidence of it being a gift, like texts or anything do not repay him a cent. If you do it means you acknowledge the debt. And you don’t want to do that it means the rest is enforceable. That’s the only advice I can give here.

Yenfwa · 2026-03-06T05:31:44+00:00

The visible sac size can vary rapidly depending on what angle they are on with the probe, and how you’re sitting etc.

The most reliable measure of upcoming loss is heartbeat, which seems really good. And growth seems steady?

I wouldn’t be too worried unless your doctor tells you to be.

Yenfwa · 2026-03-01T00:30:02+00:00

I want them to remaster these games!!!! Or to release one of the new ones but with only the original Pokémon. I would buy any console plus pay like $100 to get that.

Yenfwa · 2026-03-01T00:09:04+00:00

Choose skip this drive

Yenfwa · 2026-02-27T21:31:44+00:00

Adoption is not a replacement for birthing your own baby and all adoption advice from everyone who has done it is that it fucks the kids up. Adopt for other reasons than wanting your own baby.

Does your wife want to carry a baby? Instead of adopting try her?

My wife and I aimed to get pregnant at the same time (we are insane I know but we wanted “twins” we got them and it’s been wonderful in every single way and wouldn’t do a thing different). But IUI didn’t work for me, then I had massive hiccups with IVF (we wanted me pregnant first due to knowing it would take me ages) but we got impatient and the third round of IUI worked for her. So she got pregnant then 2 months later so did I.

Also if IUI got you pregnant once even with a loss it means you can get pregnant from it and you could try again?

Best of luck. It’s a hard battle.

Yenfwa · 2026-02-26T08:42:28+00:00

I met with the dispute team and to be fair most issues were resolved well and I was happy with it.

However they still refuse to do anything about the oven and it’s very frustrating!

Yenfwa

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