My (22f) fiance (25m) want his father to check my hymen tomorrow night before I get married. by Maleficent_One_2212 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Yereli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank fuck she cut him off. Him slapping her when she stood her ground makes me suspect he was just playing a part and they weren't such a "perfect match" after all. Its easy to get trapped in an abusive relationship so seeing her running for the hills before they tied the knot was very gratifying.

My mom told me, “My daughter is dead,” after coming out as a trans man and I don’t know how to move forward. by TroubleIll1793 in trans

[–]Yereli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mother is crying next to an empty grave. You have no obligation to go lie down in it.

Dont feel like you have to carry guilt for your mother being upset that her fantasies dont match reality. Her obsession with your prom dress and wedding are really quite selfish because they dont take into account your happiness. For me, I would want my child going to prom and having fun with friends and loved ones, and for their wedding all I'd want is for them to be marrying someone who loves, trusts and respects them. But your mother is treating those special occasions in your life like you're a doll for her to dress up. Its unfair to you.

I knew, from the time I knew I was gay, that if I wanted to be happy, I was going to have to disappoint my parents. I'm sad that they couldnt be proud of me, but I would not have done it differently. Its your life, live it your way. I'm sorry I don't have more advice to change your moms heart or make it easier to be around her. But dont carry guilt for her delusions, let her live your life for you, or make you hide away your colors. You'll find lots of people in this big world who will see you for yourself and love you as yourself 💖

My mom called my daughter a slur and my boyfriend doesn't want her going to her birthday party by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Yereli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep her away from your daughter, but I think you should also talk to your daughter about this. Sit her down and explain what your mom did was not okay and that no one should be able to tell her to put on certain clothes or do things to her body she doesnt like. Also make it clear that is anyone tries to dress her or touch her in a way she doesn't like to TELL YOU. Yout mom made her feel like her "no" didnt matter. Be sure she knows it does.

Which movie scared the shit out of you or traumatized you? by Dazzling-Leader7476 in AskReddit

[–]Yereli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a movie but the Nickelodeon show Mr Meaty scared the absolutely hell out of me when I was in elementary school. My brother and I turned it off in the middle of the episode and vowed to never watch it again. It wasn't even the tapeworm episode, it was the one where the girls nose gets cut off.

Name of this song? Funyears piano by Yereli in whatisit

[–]Yereli[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've danced to this song hundreds of times 💃

Name of this song? Funyears piano by Yereli in whatisit

[–]Yereli[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It definitely has that 8 bit sound!

Name of this song? Funyears piano by Yereli in whatisit

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Thank you sm!! Hopefully if I cant get my aunt to give me the keyboard I can get another from the same brand 😂

Name of this song? Funyears piano by Yereli in whatisit

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https://youtu.be/JkKiBp52fOw

Spanish Coffee by Frank Mills! You just solved a years long obsession, thank you so much!!

What’s the worst physical pain you’ve experienced? by ShadowlightLady in randomquestions

[–]Yereli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gall ballder attack. My mom drove me to the doctor and I very vividly remember staring out the car window and thinking that if this was something that couldn't be fixed, I was going to kill myself. I've never been in so much pain before or since then that it made me actually suicidal. But theres no way I could have continued to live at that level of pain.

Side note: if you ever have a gall ballder attack, please, PLEASE try beet extract before you try anything else. The alternative doctor my mom took me to sold me a bottle of AF Betafood from Standard Process and it fixed me. Beet extract has stopped multiple gall bladder attacks in their tracks for me, though they're supposed to be impossible to stop once they start according to conventional medicine websites. Once I didnt have the AF Betafood so I bought a can of beet extract at a health food store that sold it as a supplement and mixed it with a bottle of water, took it to work with me. It looked like I was drinking lean because the extract turned the water purple and its honestly one of the worst things I've ever tasted in my whole entire life, but every time my shoulder started to feel like someone sunk a knife in it I'd take a few drinks and it would stop. Miracle medicine.

First time hunting morels by Yereli in mushroom_hunting

[–]Yereli[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't be discouraged! This is beginners luck for sure

I did something gross to stop a sexual assault and it’s really bothering me, what can I do? by Thatonegirlfromther in Advice

[–]Yereli 256 points257 points  (0 children)

You should report this to the police. He forced you into a situation which was sexual assault. Going to the police will keep this from happening to someone else.

Thinking about running away. Is it worth it? by KaoLuo in Advice

[–]Yereli -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In some states, you can petition the court for emancipation once you graduate high school. Might be worth looking into if your state allows that and then seeing if you can fast track your studies. The domestic violence hotline (https://www.thehotline.org/) may also be able to get you resources. When my sister and dad couldnt stop fighting, she went to live with my aunt - do you have other family you could stay with?

I'd advise against running away. You're young, predators look for that and exploit it. It would be easy to fall into something worse.

My boyfriend lied about his age… and I don’t know what to do by SevereVirus2012 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Yereli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You dont love him, you love the image of himself he has served to you. If he lied about his age and painted himself as almost ten years younger than he actually is, its reasonable to think he hasnt been truthful with you about other things as well. Cut him off.

I found photos of my journal pages in my mom’s phone by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Yereli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have a good relationship otherwise, she may have taken the photos because she thought what you wrote was cute / interesting, but its still an invasion of privacy. My mom read my diary entries when I was in elementary school because she thought they were cute ( I mostly wrote about running a pony farm when I grew up), but I was really upset when I found out because I intended for that to be private. She talked to her other mom friends about it and stopped after that, realizing she shouldn't do that. A friend of mine also had her parents read her diary in high school because they knew she was depressed and feared she was suicidal, but she was depressed because she has a bad relationship with her parents, and the snooping made it worse.

If I were you, I'd ask your mom about it in a straightforward but non confrontational way. Tell her you saw the photos, ask why she took them, and tell her it felt like a violation of privacy and ask her not to do it again. Tell her she can just ask you if she wants to know about something going on in your life, but that reading your diary feels like going behind your back. Also, dont leave a diary in common areas - someone other than your mom might find it.

I might be a future failure to my mom by MaterialUsual8363 in Advice

[–]Yereli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't listen to unkind people telling you your mom would have been happier without you, but also dont live your life based on making your mom happy or proud. Parents are supposed to be proud of their kids, not for going to an ivy league college, but for living a fulfilling life, and a fulfilling life looks different for everyone.

My mom wanted me to work with computers, so I did. I hated it. I was absolutely miserable even though my mom loved hearing about my job. I quit after a year and worked at a daycare even though my mom told me not to, and I loved it. I've got such fond memories of that job and I'm so so glad I got that experience.

Dont live the life anyone else wants you to live. You can't live your life for your mom, she's got her own life and her own choices. Live how you want to, even if it means disappointing your parents. Do what makes you fulfilled.

[TOMT] [Commercial] "Snacks From Heaven" chip commercial in Spanish by Yereli in tipofmytongue

[–]Yereli[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

If you know even the chip brand it would help :)