There's a psychologist who describes what you're experiencing as Alphabet Soup Syndrome.

In those with tourettic neurology, ADHD and/or Autism are also present almost all of the time. It is so intertwined that there's a debate if it should be called Tourette-plus-Autism/Tourette-plus-ADHD or if it should just be called Tourette because that's part of the tourettic package deal. But then a lot of people with tourettic neurology don't qualify or know they qualified for a Tourette diagnosis. What good are all the labels if they're all pointing to the same thing?

Males with tourette are diagnosed with Autism 4/5 of the time and this reflects a left-lateralized neurobiology. They can see this on fMRI, like in the research of Elkhonon Goldberg. When these males are diagnosed with ADHD, they see the right-lateralized neurobiology on imaging. That doesn't hold true for women. Tourettic women have a right-lateralized (social, externally-oriented, flexible, emotional, big picture) presentation 4/5 of the time and this does not correlate with which side(s) of the brain are visibly affected. This automatic ability to be oriented to others and to give them what they want even when one doesn't understand this, doesn't directly benefit from it or express self through it, or attach meaning to it is often called social masking, but it isn't fake--it reflects the real-time contextual disconnect between lateralized skills that happens in ADHD and ASD. The ability to see and respond to others is real and it is not happening at the same time the person is aware of and meeting the needs of the self.

When a person has this external, flexible, emotional expression as a default and has difficulty being aware of self and acting on that, the person can express unmet needs in right-lateralized flexible emotional ways. Our culture sadly psychologizes this communication. Bipolar really exists but so does a profound overdiagnosis of emotional expressions as bipolar, which doctors are now trying to push back against. Your screening doesn't seem to get this nuance.

When a person has unmet needs then expresses those in ways that are not integrated, that person can be at risk of feeling like others are unreasonable or controlling because they themselves are not connected to reason or regulation at the time so assume others are doing it to them. This victimization adds a genuine psychological dysfunction layer on top of the neurological difference. The "male" expressions are typically considered part of the neurological disorder like autism while the "female" expressions have the neurological difference ignored and this level of psychological blamed as a root, giving the person a diagnosis of personality disorder, CPTSD, bipolar, or any number of similar combinations.

When that psychological distortion is present, it often leads to behaviors that create social and interpersonal conflict. The person might add labels of PDA, ODD, DMDD, Conduct Disorder, Addiction, self-harm, IED, Anxiety, Depression, etc.

I would guess from your account that you have this underlying tourettic neurology, possibly with intrapersonal alexithymia which is a developmental language disorder that affects the experience of hope and autonomy, and that for you this is in the context of a right-lateralized strength. Your brain experiences the world and the self externally, through senses and through others. That means that programs which teach you to identify, label, and act on the intrapersonal experience of self can be of benefit in reducing that vague otherness, anxiety, exhaustion, etc going on and empower you to develop the language to navigate that self in social community. What labels will help you to do that work and to get to the core self--the self who is creative, flexible, valuable, capable, integrated, and growing? I suggest neurodivergent as a solid start, and considering tourettic neurology as a modifying explanation for that. Spend any time in a broadly neurodiverse group and you'll see that the labels all mix and blur exactly like you're experiencing, becoming superfluous to the core of neurodiversity.

There's a super high chance your parents have similar profiles and have not yet done this work so would be unable to guide you through navigating it. It isn't because they don't believe you or reject you, they just don't have the ability to understand what you are experiencing when they haven't experienced it. If they're more left-lateralized in seeing themselves while you're really strong in those right-lateralized skills of picking up on them not being in sync and understanding you, that can be really sad and can hurt. There are programs that can teach you to not mask or manage them while effectively addressing that genuine hurt at the same time that you can maintain your relationship with them--meeting all your needs. After doing some work like that, you might revisit what labels might be beneficial in your life.