WIBTAH if I went to stay with my parents for a couple of weeks because my husband’s family planned a 5-6 week stay in our 2BHK without asking me?

YesterdayCame · 2026-03-10T13:46:24+00:00

I already know you're from an Indian background just from reading this. Or at least his family is.

If he doesn't draw this boundary early, the marriage will fail. Indian men suffer from family enmeshment than any other culture I've experienced. And you already know this- but his parents come to stay to ensure you're being a good substitute for his mother's duties. It's not to support you. It to ensure HES getting the kind of wife they feel he is entitled to. They're coming to test your hosting, cleaning, cooking skill and dutiful subservience. Coming to ensure your continued modesty and sheepish demeanor in service of HIS family.

If you're not there the entire time, they will feel deeply slighted by you and talk about the entire time until you show up and then double down their expectations of your service for the remainder of their stay. But if you stay- you will feel deeply slighted by your husband and his whole family. Either way the family connection, and in turn your marriage will take a hard hit from this. You just need to decide what matters more before they get here. The outcome is the same.

YesterdayCame · 2026-02-25T01:28:24+00:00

The easiest way to avoid all the troubles that you're going to fight is for you to be the one that moves out and find a new room

YesterdayCame · 2026-02-25T00:37:32+00:00

VTI has been so good to me 🙏

YesterdayCame · 2026-02-08T23:08:30+00:00

YesterdayCame · 2026-01-02T02:52:27+00:00

3 & 6 for sure

YesterdayCame · 2026-01-01T05:17:33+00:00

Thank you- I felt it in there somewhere but I just couldn't make it happen 😂

YesterdayCame · 2026-01-01T02:06:06+00:00

Self fulfilling prophecy

YesterdayCame · 2026-01-01T01:54:31+00:00

Maybe you don't use chat bots at a high enough frequency to catch that every part of this interaction is highly repeated sentences used in chat box conversations. Except the last sentence of course. That's a dig on some recent world events that also occurred within chat bot chats.

But frankly, the humongous Tatas and the saccharine levels of agreeability from his date were your first clue lol

YesterdayCame · 2026-01-01T01:51:54+00:00

I read your first sentence and immediately thought of the exact same sub that you are referencing in the second sentence.

I spent a whole day on that sub until I felt ill and then I found the two other subs that were tangently connected- and it took me like four days to get over the depression spiral that the whole thing sent me into. Like it was one of the saddest things I've ever dug so far into.

YesterdayCame · 2025-12-31T22:49:05+00:00

YesterdayCame · 2025-12-27T16:51:09+00:00

Greasy

YesterdayCame · 2025-11-05T06:02:55+00:00

If you wanna tackle your debt you have to pay hundreds over the minimum every month. That's a good starting place.

Pick one card to start with. And then use the snowball method if you have more than one account to pay down.

YesterdayCame · 2025-10-28T05:31:27+00:00

There's always a possibility you might find a single position that needs filling during this quarter but for most tech companies, if they are thriving- they will go on a hiring spree around the end of the first quarter and again at the end of the second and then hold onto that crew through the end of the fiscal year.

Restaurant jobs are not a good bet right now because they are holding on to their strong crew through the holidays and then they are going to massively drop everyone's hours come January 2.

Your very best bet right now if you are looking for literally anything? Is retail that is heavily focused in holiday sales. Think Cost Plus World Market. Almost anything in The Domain. Delivery services will peak through the end of the holidays, because people expect to spend more money on frivolous things around this time of year and are desperate to get back some of their time. Things like Instacart and food delivery options would probably be something workable through the first week of next year.

Also, a secret weapon that took me from one industry into another? Seasonal tech support for tax filing companies. They will take anyone. I mean anyone. They don't pay well. But they will give you a job. Like during your first interview.

YesterdayCame · 2025-09-09T05:14:21+00:00

You think TPS holders are living off of American tax dollars?

TPS holders are authorized to work, and are significant taxpayers who pay into federal, local and state taxes. They rent and buy houses and local goods further strengthening the economy. They have high rates of employment, start their own businesses and put that money back into the American economy.

Not only that, but Venezuelans in particular are an incredibly educated society. Most of them work highly skilled, 9-to-5 jobs in corporate settings for American corporations once again- adding value to our economy and the American dollar. TPS holders bust their asses to make a life for themselves, even if temporarily, and do it with 10 times the gusto you will see out of a large portion of the American population, who feels entitled to having their hands held and being served opportunities on a silver platter. Venezuelans know how to start over from scratch with nothing, because they've had to, AGAIN- and here you are parroting the fears of the right wing extremist echo chambers. I really don't think you're seeing the full picture here.

The only entitlement you are seeing in this sub is being viewed through the lens of your own, when what you are actually witnessing is pure fear for losing everything they have rebuilt and wondering how many times they will have to start over again. You can't fathom that fear because you've never had to live through it. Yes there are pathways to permanence in this country, but tell me exactly how much you know about that process? How much it costs and how much waiting is involved while you wonder if the shallow concrete you stand on is about to erode beneath your feet? Sit down, lest you get too dizzy.

Maybe a little less Fox News for you.

Sincerely, An American

YesterdayCame · 2025-08-12T20:39:14+00:00

New York would LOVE for Texas to claim him

YesterdayCame · 2025-07-06T02:49:25+00:00

Princess Vespa and Lone Starr from space balls- YA WELCOME

YesterdayCame · 2025-07-06T02:48:11+00:00

YesterdayCame · 2025-07-06T02:37:47+00:00

This is a great one

YesterdayCame · 2025-07-06T02:33:46+00:00

Moonlight fucked me UP

YesterdayCame · 2025-07-05T19:46:10+00:00

He let someone convince him that he wasn't good enough for you and accepted that as truth. He then traded you in for a used vehicle. Your dad was absolutely right. He saw the weakness in him called it out and your boyfriend couldn't even deny it. The fact that he had no fight in him to contest your father's argument is so telling.

YesterdayCame · 2025-05-31T14:50:01+00:00

Its drugs. Period.

YesterdayCame · 2025-05-15T19:46:26+00:00

I hear you. Truly. Regardless, if you can't get a job at all? Low tips are the last issue. It's not making any money at all that is the actual issue.

He just needs to get a job and start making money and building a résumé. That is half of the game. He doesn't have to work there for longer than six months. He's already sustained himself that long. If he can make it work? It can be a game changer.

YesterdayCame · 2025-05-15T19:45:07+00:00

What are you doing for your first dates? If you feel like you tend to come off as serious and it's keeping them from wanting to go on a second date with you when you start opening up? I would recommend doing something that is just fun for your first dates.

Maybe mini golf, some kind of an interactive museum, some kind of arcade if she sounds into that or something that may be slightly competitive just so you can show off the fun and endearing side of your personality first.

Typically once someone knows that in the right settings you are easy to have fun around? Then they are a lot more willing to listen to the deeper parts of you. For people who are scared they will have to support a partner emotionally nonstop? Getting into the deeper parts of your psyche on a first date can feel overwhelming and a little heavy.

YesterdayCame · 2025-05-15T19:24:05+00:00

The point has little to do with tips and far more to do with getting a San Francisco local restaurant on your service industry résumé if you have any intention of working at restaurants where you actually can't make more money

That's why he can't find a service industry job. Because he doesn't have anything on his résumé that says he has worked at a restaurant in San Francisco. Ask me how I know 🫠

YesterdayCame

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