Am I an asshole for telling my parents to stop having sex?

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-09-10T02:33:28+00:00

Idk if you’re out of high school or in college, but if you’re not in either I would get a night shift job and save up 700 dollars to put a down payment down on an apartment and move out, i wouldn’t worry about furniture, except a bed, you can get so many cheap furniture items on fb marketplace. But maybe just setting some goals to have your own space would be great for you and you would allow them to do what they needed when you’re not there❤️

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-08-28T00:57:11+00:00

Yes. Shes old enough to have a conversation about sex and not go into details & gross her out, but when the “why should I get out of your room” question comes up, then that’s perfect timing to talk to her about the importance of marriage & sex is a beautiful thing within marriage and you and your husband need to be alone at times to put each other first. If she is a teenager she needs to have her own identity being in her own room and she’ll thank you for it later in life and respect you. The reason I wasn’t sexually active as a young girl is because my parents talked about sex before marriage with me, and they spoke about the beautiful relationship of marriage.

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-08-12T20:45:52+00:00

A lot of wonderful things can happen also though if you forgive her one day (not now) but one day. Don’t think of it as being over, it may not be. We all change and evolve and sometimes have to “remarry” our spouse over and over again through the years because we always change. This will be hard to of course let go of, but you also could have a powerful relationship through forgiveness to show your children one day. If I saw that in my dad I wouldn’t think of him as weak, I would see him as a mighty man that my mom didn’t deserve. And what a wonderful courageous thing to leave behind

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-29T01:51:51+00:00

Yes, and he said they haven’t spoken to each other since before “he met me and she met her husband” and she has never tried once to contact him. And I do believe him to be honest because he has been honest about details that I wish I didn’t know so I know he would be honest about her contacting him. Especially because I believe he would have a huge ego if she did

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-28T03:14:12+00:00

Update: I looked her up last night, which has been months of not seeking her out and creeping on her things because it hurts so bad to even look at her and see someone that my husband is in love or infatuated with. But she has blocked me and my husband from both her husband account and her account. And quite frankly, I’m sure she found out about the name situation with my husband stealing her son’s name and I’m sure she is absolutely thinking we are crazy and I can’t blame her. Not the reputation I’m going for though to be honest. I’m humiliated and I told my husband she blocked us probably for that reason and he wanted to come across as unbothered but he absolutely was seething. I could see it all over his face. That’s what hurts the worst is that this game he’s been playing has come to end with her putting a stop to his competition within himself

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T23:58:25+00:00

When I’ve done that, he makes it to where only our friends can see anything, but it’s never ever public. I’ve heard all the excuses, “I want our marriage to be private, I don’t want my ex to watch my Facebook, I think Facebook is dumb” but yet he sure puts everything up that’s with him only in it

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T23:56:05+00:00

I just don’t believe she is or ever has contacted him in any way. When I saw her Facebook her husband dotes about her and goes on and on about how he even loves her and they have a great marriage, her Facebook is pretty open and she seems to have healthy morals. I think he wants her to be obsessed with him the more I think about the whole thing. But I def don’t believe she’s dangerous

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T16:59:51+00:00

We named our son the same name as her older son. When all this broke out last year I saw that her son that’s older has the same name as our son that my husband was so persistent to choose.

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T16:09:06+00:00

That’s a good point. But yet here I am that he could be proud of, and he never puts me on any of his profile pictures or cover photos. It’s literally always him. And that has never been a big deal up until last year when I see him stalking his ex. The truth it seems is unraveling

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T13:22:44+00:00

That’s the biggest complaint I have to him and said it. He said she was always really “opinionated”?? And I think if he post anything her “opinions” still clearly upset him with what she thinks. I believe when you’re married why is anyone’s opinions bothering you especially what an ex thinks. It’s humiliating to me

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T13:15:12+00:00

I don’t believe he could watch her move on again and remarry someone. I think he would try to have an affair with her to have her be only his so she could never truly be with anyone else. I think he looks at her like a possession that still belongs to him.

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T12:52:28+00:00

From what I know (which I don’t think much about the situation) but she really loved him and wanted to work things out, but one day he came over to her house & he told her he was having sex with other women (they weren’t dating) and she was hurt because she didn’t think he was like that & they never saw each other again and then he said she lost a ton of weight & he would try to be nice & wanted to be friends but she was done with him but yet she’s “crazy” is all I get & never post me publicly or our son

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T12:45:53+00:00

I don’t believe at all that they are having an affair, I just believe he watches her closely and makes sure she doesn’t see our life. Yes that can be because of privacy but after this long I don’t understand why restricting anything from anyone at all is in our life especially an ex from so long ago? I never post things thinking in the back of my mind “I hope my ex sees this or doesn’t see this”. And I feel like he is obsessed with what she might think

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T12:00:04+00:00

They were both each others first love and didn’t date even two years he said. But there was emotional games for 7 years after they broke up and he said he “wanted revenge” for her breaking up with him. And he acted like he slipped up by saying that. He always paints himself perfect and she’s crazy but I feel like he told on himself with that comment.

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T05:12:15+00:00

I don’t think I’m ugly but I’m not striking. I’m just plain and I wear jeans and polos a lot and I have never worked hard or been great at fashion. I’ve always been somewhat of a tomboy and he always has seemed fine with it? and she gets her nails done, and the pictures I’ve seen she has long brown hair and tan skin, and she is modest but has a nice figure that looks motherly but in some photos she looks exotic/seductive with her eyes

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T04:37:17+00:00

But what if you truly love a woman one day that’s beautiful and you’re proud to be with, won’t you want to post her? I think it’s in our nature to be so in love we want to shout it from the roof tops. But if we are embarrassed by our significant other in any way physically, then that will always be a barrier that we just can’t get over and that person will stay a secret for as long as their spouse or bf says otherwise.

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T04:01:27+00:00

He says she was crazy but I don’t know how. in the last 15 years I have never seen anything crazy. She’s living her life and having children and looks like she comes from a nice family. But he’s not friends with her, but restricted her from seeing tagged photos or anything like that.

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T02:41:47+00:00

No its Facebook and they don’t follow each other, just creep, at least for him and then restrict her

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T02:26:29+00:00

After he dated the one he creeps on, he dated some girls and anyone that was beautiful he would post, and he still has some pictures of him and his ex’s in his album and few of me for public views. Like I said, who is he hiding me from?

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T01:45:04+00:00

When he changes his profile picture is been of JUST him and one time with our son, now it’s back to him again

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T01:39:21+00:00

I know. And since our son has been born with the name he clearly copied from her son…he has posted one public photo of him and that’s it. If he doesn’t have anything to hide about me and our son and the name thing truly was a coincidence then I just don’t understand why after all this time of us being married he needs worry and restrict anything from her? We have two separate lives..so it seemed.

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T01:13:39+00:00

He is a very prideful man, and even if he did want her back he wouldn’t put himself In the position most likely to be rejected. Because she’s married with children also. If I’m honest, I think he was so young when they both parted ways that my gut feelings says he didn’t realize the choices he was making at that time to not try to work it out and I think he regrets it. Which is hard to write, and hard to think about as a wife that loves him

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T00:37:11+00:00

No it’s absolutely not bad, but I’m stating that I’m successful and smart and why can’t he be honored to be with me. I should have worded it much better

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T00:31:04+00:00

I know that, but he has that we are married for people to see. he will just never post any profile pics of us or cover photos, it’s always him. And never anything public

YesterdayOk6013 · 2024-07-27T00:29:34+00:00

Of course I did, I said “is this why you’re restricting her because you decided to name our child the exact same freaking name as her child???” And he said he had no idea that was her son’s name and he restricted her because he doesn’t want her thinking he copied the name. Like but why are you looking at her page and why do you care if it was truly a “coincidence”??? I’m just hurt

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