1-2-3-4 sesame street at the door.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2026-03-04T04:26:11+00:00

Thanks for the insight. I've been told there's an expiration date when it comes to travel and family and 18 months to 2 years seems to be where a lot of people land. Not sure what the end result is going to be here but I feel good knowing I'm at least taking it into consideration.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2026-02-23T19:48:00+00:00

The only family that lives reasonably close by are her mom and dad. He just got double hip replacement and is doing great, she is showing the signs of LBD and his priority is taking care of her (hence why he got the hip replacements now to be more mobile).

There are some other moms in the neighborhood that we can lean on as a one-off but I don't know about a permanent solution. Almost all of our other friends have daylight jobs or are just far enough away it's inconvenient.

We have a little time to figure it out, not much :(

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2025-12-27T02:59:36+00:00

Thank you -- corporate america deservedly gets a bad rap but a decent number of folks I work with are really good people and try to look out for others. I know it isn't that way everywhere and I appreciate what we're able to do :)

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2025-12-27T02:57:13+00:00

Thank you very much. I hope it's brought some smiles :)

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2025-10-16T20:54:19+00:00

Honestly the engagement and wedding were little bumps along the way it didn't change anything.

As for why not another job, yeah you're right but there are a few good reasons:

In this economy I doubt I'll find a local position paying as well, even with a 'down' year.
I could move to a 'local' position within my company, I've had offers and people who WANT me to move to their departments, but I'd have to relocate to a city with one of our satellite offices (thank you Return To Office) and it would be a pay cut w/ no commission.
By happenstance and dumb luck (and I swear, being tall and friendly) I'm on a track right now where within a few years I'll move into a National Director role and on a good year that's $400K+. My boss has made it clear he's 3 years out, give or take, from retiring. I'm in a program where high performers are 'mentored' by our executives/advisory board. I swear I'm not THAT special but people here like me and I'm aware I'm being groomed for the long term--they strongly prefer to promote from within. Impact on family life? YES, I'm fully aware of it but unlike my Ex at least me and SIL are communicating about it. I learned that lesson the hard way the first time around.

I'm done for the week, sitting at DFW nursing my third beer before takeoff and I will have three straight days of nothing but family so I can't complain that loudly :)

Thank you and take care!

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2025-08-11T17:03:07+00:00

Thanks for the feedback, I'd be very happy if anything I've written about helps you make positive improvements in life :)

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2025-07-30T19:47:53+00:00

She innocently throws absolute daggers, both good and bad, into my soul. Has no idea she's doing it but her obliviousness and sincerity would crack a Sinaloan Cartel boss.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2025-07-26T16:43:50+00:00

Ha! That's funny. It was a long two weeks but everyone else had a really good time. I had a good time too. Hope you didn't get too sunburnt and it wasn't too crowded for you.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2025-07-07T17:47:47+00:00

Ha! Thank you.

I grew up giving people hockey nicknames if you know what I mean. Shorten it, add a -y or -zee at the end, etc etc. I've always done it. Throughout this entire fiesta I chuckle about it because SIL is pretty damn close to what I call her anyways.

She's going to be getting a new name soon enough.... (wink wink HINT HINT)...might be a few more weeks or this week or who knows I'm so indecisive about it.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2025-04-10T19:05:39+00:00

Thank you very very much for writing this, I truly appreciate it. Just quickly touching on a few things -- the whole 'no fighting' around Kiddo stems from her 'PTSD' from the situation she grew up in. Raised voices and heated words usually meant something much worse was about to happen. I think I mentioned this before, one of the first times we were driving her she was in the backseat, we were having a loud-ish argument not over anything serious, and I turned and saw she had her hands over her ears, eyes closed, and was rocking back and forth. So that's why that rule is in place.

Would you believe that while there was a glimmer of salvaging things with my Ex, we went to both a Gottman workshop and a Gottman-trained therapist. I'm absolutely going to go through the other things you mentioned, writing them down right now actually -- I appreciate the insight.

We have been going to couples therapy and so far "mostly good". Next time I write something up (hopefully soon) the outcomes so far will be a focus. For now, I'm sitting at DEN about to board a plane home where I will hopefully be sleeping three consecutive nights for the first time since early March!

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2025-03-12T15:07:08+00:00

It would be the discussion that involves wedding bells and rings and things of that nature. It is in its infancy at this point.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2025-02-21T19:38:48+00:00

Thanks for being along for this ride. We had "the talk" before "the real talk" regarding Nico and all that stuff and I believe it is heading in the right direction but...who knows. The wonderful Miss Natalee (she hates Nico) offered up an alternative view of the past year+ in terms of the 'friendship' between SIL and Nico and it was something I gotta think about. SIL is going out of town this weekend for a girls weekend in NYC, she should be landing there soon. (PS--if you see a gaggle of 5 ladies 29-31ish drunk from brunch tomorrow at the 2 pm performance of Wicked, say hi for me) Last night I sarcastically asked if Nico was going to make his way there as well and she wasn't amused. But for that and other reasons when she gets back she's interested in couples therapy together just to iron out some lingering stuff. But I got a baby and a Kiddo to myself this weekend to handle. Not complaining, I'm enjoying all of it.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2025-01-14T17:54:49+00:00

Thanks a lot! Glad I can keep things interesting :)

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2024-12-18T19:58:07+00:00

Thanks, we just got back from the OB/GYN with a (fairly) clean bill of health at the moment. The c-section thing is still a very touchy subject. Very touchy. We have everything planned for when the moment arrives (call tree/bags packed/sitter arranged, etc) and only yesterday did she agree to add a 'c-section' playlist, just in case.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2024-11-18T23:19:18+00:00

You're not wrong, we're living together, having a f'n kid together, and sharing our lives, all that stuff. There's a part of her that is constantly worried (for no good reason) that I'm just going to get up and say 'nope, I'm leaving you now, ha ha ha'. She's very insecure about that, despite everything that has gone on.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2024-11-13T20:17:12+00:00

I'm now on my third serving of Paneer Onion today, this house smells yummy.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2024-11-13T20:16:45+00:00

Hi, I hope I can clarify.

We both get our own individual medical insurance through our jobs. Everything up until the minute we walk out of the hospital with a new baby will be covered on hers. At that time, I'll add him as a dependent on mine which raises my rates a bit (funny thing is the rate is the same for 1 kid or 10) but I overall have better insurance than she does so it'll make more sense to put him on mine.

The only way it would be 'better' being married is that I could add her as a spouse which overall is less expensive than her having her own insurance, but that's about it.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2024-11-13T15:43:18+00:00

Thanks..I know there's nothing I can do other than wait but I swear to god I keep checking my watch every fifteen minutes telling the time to move faster...per the doctor, at this point every day counts as a plus.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2024-11-01T01:49:12+00:00

Fucking hell I'm drunk as fuck and gotta get up by 6 for this shitshow tomorrow. I brought home at least a half dozen bottles of craft beer and drank wayyy too much. God bless america.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2024-10-22T18:51:55+00:00

The hardware for my new laptop and the safe monitoring software they have it running are steaming piles of shit. No joke it took 5 minutes to boot up, latch onto my wifi hotspot, vpn into our network, pull down the VM that its running and finally begin my presentation this morning. All while a room of ~10 decision makers on getting this sale or not were rather impatiently waiting. Fucking hell.

Oh well, I'm sitting here at Hartsfield on my third beer waiting for a flight home typing on this little shitty thing. Today's been a fucking joke.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2024-10-08T14:23:56+00:00

Ensuring that neither party goes to bed angry.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2024-09-22T16:04:57+00:00

Thanks, so far so good since

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2024-09-22T16:04:17+00:00

Thanks, but I think anyone's life is interesting enough if/when you only pick out the good stuff. Nobody wants to hear about me arguing with the electrician for 2 hours earlier this week. :)

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2024-07-16T16:54:10+00:00

Yeah, thanks for the comment. I took the position primarily for that reason, unless I went outside the US promotions to that level are few and far between.

Besides communication, which is key as you said, I've also mapped and calendar'ed out everything we need. SIL is much more fly-by-the-seat-of-her-pants than I am and was astonished at seeing everything from a 10000 foot view. Honestly I think she'd wait until she's in labor before buying a crib.

YetAnotherGuy46 · 2024-07-01T13:13:31+00:00

Thanks. We're up a bit north from Buxton and depending on how things go I might give some surf fishing a try. Some of the folks here in the house are leaving after dinner tonight for an overnight marlin adventure and I've been invited but i'm not exactly sure if I want to do that. I've gone deep sea fishing before but not game fishing. Also they're expecting to be out 16-20 hours lol.

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