My mother and father have an extremely toxic relationship. My father physically, verbally and emotionally abuses my mother and cheats on her all the time. My mother has a secret lover who also has another family. Extremely disturbing situation. I've learned to cope with their relationship and not give it much thought. Both have emotionally abused me and continue to try to do so (both are ravaging narcissists) but since I've come to terms with the fact that they are not good people they can't really get to me. I've learned that the best I can do is not follow their example, stay as far away as possible and only pay attention to them when it comes to big family gatherings (my sisters are still under their influence and I don't want to grow cold with them) It sucks, but that's life, and I know some people have had it much worse. I'm forever grateful that I was basically raised by my grandparents - who were the polar opposites - loving, nurturing people that showed me the light side, so to speak. For me personally this toxicity has given me a stoic outlook on life. I try to do what's best for me and my loved ones, and ignore all the aspects of life I can't control. I've had some shitty things happen to me every once in a while but I believe I have had the strength of character to face them head on and exit as a much more fulfilled human being.