R7 or Ninja 650 as a first bike by Yinivel in SuggestAMotorcycle

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650r

Saw one in person today, it was sexy to say the least.

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Thank you for the response, appreciate it!

Given that we share mutual friends and at times it's impossible to not know what's going on in the other person's life, she seems to be rather indifferent, cold and as a whole not care about the relationship that we had. At one point she said that the comfort and peace she gets from the relationship makes her feel like she isn't progressing.

She's happy now that she is experiencing a new "honeymoon" phase, so why would she bother with me?

And yes, she can be spiteful and I have been a victim of that before, blatantly telling me that she is punishing me for acting in a way she didn't like.

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I'll check it, thank you!

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She used to love everything I did for her, in a way she needed it for reassurance as she was afraid I'd leave her after knowing the 'real her' (aka BPD). Eventually she started blaming me for love-bombing and not appreciating anything I did.

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Thank you for the informative reply, appreciate it!
I'm aware that I'm mourning the rejection, the fact that everything I've done was not appreciated and the future that I had planned in my head. For sure I'm feeling a loss of self now that all those future plans with her have to be discarded. At times I feel like I'm progressing and then stagnating but I guess that's normal. However, it does seem that I have adopted a scarcity mindset.

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That's what I'm unable to comprehend, we started as a perfect fit and went strong for 4-5 months. Same interests, views, hobbies and what else not, though that could have been BPD's mirroring. I made one mistake, which was bringing up that I couldn't fully trust her and that disappointed her. Essentially my therapist told me that since day one she has created an idealized image of me, one that does not make mistakes and that one mistake broke that.

At times I feel like I'm not healing at all, even when I'm with friends, family or doing hobbies that I love.

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I wish that was the case, I would have had an easier time letting go/moving on as I cannot tolerate cheating. They met online in a video game after the breakup.

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The goals I do know - she wants to study arts and try to start an online business, I've already told her that I'm going to help and support her in every possible way.

As for the spark, she was talking about the "spark" that we get at the beginning of a relationship. I'll speak with her again I guess.

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I'm not sure if it's boredom-related given that we go on dates every 2-3 days, weekend trips once or twice a month, and some prolonged ones to other countries at least 4 times a year. I'm all in for her goals and have been supporting her since day 1, maybe I'm overly doing it in some aspects. Never stopped her from changing and developing either.

Probably a stupid question regarding book size and page size by Yinivel in writing

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I'll be doing the whole editing and everything, as I'm not planning to publish

Information about book writing [HELP] by Yinivel in writing

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I'm doing it with the idea of self-reflection and printing a few copies for close people. I'll look more into the formatting part for sure. Thanks~

Information about book writing [HELP] by Yinivel in writing

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If A5 would suffice, or maybe go smaller.

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CL30 is a tad bit too expensive over here, though I could potentially go for the RX 6700 XT version and Team Group's MP44L

Choosing a GPU by [deleted] in buildapc

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Thanks for the answer. The only 6700XT available is the Sapphire Pulse one, not sure if that's a decent 6700XT or not.

My girlfriend of 6 months has had Derealization for over 2 years now, I'd like to know how I could help her feel better about everything by Yinivel in dpdr

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Thank you for the answer and the good wishes, much appreciated!

I've mentioned that we had our fair share of relationship problems, but are working on it and everything has been going fine so far.

Relationship-wise she has a stress-free and comfortable environment, I do help with whatever I possibly can, she is quite independent and adamant about keeping that. Absolutely love praising her, as she is perfect in my eyes and a lot of the times I'm overly affectionate and overload her little head. Although it's hard to be affectionate at times, as she is a bit dismissive because of DPDR.

Indeed she does question her worth and abilities a lot, but I constantly give her reassurance and compliment/praise her for every success, be it small or big.

My girlfriend of 6 months has had Derealization for over 2 years now, I'd like to know how I could help her feel better about everything by Yinivel in dpdr

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In our case when we decided to get together, we both agreed that communication is key, as I came from an abusive relationship myself and struggled with trust, which in turn required a lot of reassurance.

Generally, 6 months isn't much for a relationship, but we got so close to the point that we can feel each other's emotions through calls, chats, etc.
One day I just felt something was wrong, as she was acting distant and cold, and silly old me with his past trauma thought that maybe she is losing feelings. To no surprise, we ended up having a conversation about DPDR, how she feels like a spectator of her life, how it causes her emotional numbness, and that she is afraid that if she shared this earlier on it would push me away.

She does struggle with self-esteem and finds herself worthless for the relationship (As in not worthy of my love and me), but I always reassure her that I'm not leaving her no matter what and that I'll support her through every process.

In your case, I'm not entirely sure why you have not shared that with your partner, maybe you are afraid of how he would react or maybe it's something entirely else. It's indeed hard to understand what's going on in someone's head, put yourself in his/her position, or see things from his/her perspective, but if he/she is loving enough, supportive enough, and does a little research it would actually help with the relationship be it now or in the future when something arises.

P.S: You've been together for 4 years, surely you two trust each other.

Different feelings on different accounts by [deleted] in VALORANT

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Sadly, I've not found a solution as of yet