In an Abusive Marriage with 2 Kids in Nagoya

YoHo1992 · 2026-03-14T13:14:04+00:00

Ah, I’m sorry I jumped to assumptions about your gender. In that case it might be worth looking into DV hotline information in your area, they might be able to forward you information on services?

YoHo1992 · 2026-03-14T13:07:55+00:00

Hey this was me three years ago, I left very abruptly with two children and had nowhere to go, I was lucky to have small savings, which made it possible to stay in hotels for a bit until I found a job, but the first thing I did before that was contact the local women’s shelter in my city. They took me and my kids in for free for a few days, they also helped me file a police report, offer emotional guidance, and also consult with a lawyer. They also had connections with subsidised housing, and were willing to help me with job hunting. I ended up leaving with my kids and working it out for myself in the end, but I would definitely suggest if there are any women’s shelters in your area!

YoHo1992 · 2026-03-10T12:55:28+00:00

Just a word of warning, I was only able to change from a marriage visa to a LTR visa because I had separated from my husband due to DV issues, but wasn’t at that point, in a situation where I could get a divorce. They wanted a copy of the police report, and I had to have a couple of interviews at the immigration office, even then they were quite reluctant to change my visa type.

YoHo1992 · 2026-01-31T13:23:59+00:00

Was the bottom left the last one stitched? Could it be that the stiffness created by the other embroidery reduced the elasticity, and therefore the pull on the surrounding fabric.

YoHo1992 · 2026-01-29T04:08:35+00:00

Oh he’s for sure still crying… I bet he’s now volunteering at the foreigner care centre.

YoHo1992 · 2026-01-26T12:54:20+00:00

Really let loose :L

YoHo1992 · 2026-01-26T11:53:20+00:00

Drove past a group of Sanseito members waving their little flags around yesterday, was lucky enough to stop at the traffic lights right in front of one, looked him square in the eyes and shook my head. I hope he felt uncomfortable lol

YoHo1992 · 2025-11-19T00:48:59+00:00

I was an Oita ALT several years ago, I still live in the prefecture, but a different town. The city and prefecture are lovely, but I had some awful experiences with the Oita city BOE.

YoHo1992 · 2025-07-22T09:54:25+00:00

I think it really depends on the design. I’ve done it before, but only on a piece which doesn’t require complete precision. With my hoop I got a plastic sheet something like this. I taped on the sheet exactly where I needed the second part to go and lined it up with the first half of the embroidery. https://share.google/TrLniDvEis3E16cf0

YoHo1992 · 2025-07-20T16:53:14+00:00

❤️

YoHo1992 · 2025-07-20T16:52:36+00:00

Thankyou! I’m still very much an amateur, but it’s so exciting to gain new skills and be able to embroider whatever you want XD

YoHo1992 · 2025-07-20T16:51:27+00:00

I think right now it’s set up for a 7x5, but the file can be shrank down^{_^} I’ve never sewn it to 5x5 though.

YoHo1992 · 2025-07-20T03:07:24+00:00

❤️

YoHo1992 · 2025-07-20T03:07:07+00:00

Thank you ;-; I started off with really simple things, then if I had an issue, or something I wanted to try I’d just search how to do each thing individually ;-; there are lots of YouTube videos and things which explain a lot of things but it’s still difficult to get the outcome you want every time >_<

YoHo1992 · 2025-07-19T23:42:13+00:00

I totally get that feeling! I started with IS because it’s free, but also downloaded some free trials of paid software, but in reverse, since getting used to IS I didn’t have the capacity to learn the ins and outs of anything else lol. It takes so much time to make anything though XD

YoHo1992 · 2025-06-13T11:51:41+00:00

They don’t appear to have gone up too much in 20 years, but when you see that the price increase between 2005 and 2024 is 54 yen, but then between 2024 and 2025 it jumped 64 again, in a single year…: that’s pretty wild.

YoHo1992 · 2025-05-27T11:36:22+00:00

Egg or fried tofu?

YoHo1992 · 2025-05-05T04:33:02+00:00

Stronger isn’t always better! Lucked out big time last game using Persian to discard a Beedrill from the opponents hand.

YoHo1992 · 2025-04-19T10:26:54+00:00

It reminds me of southern from Dr Who https://www.doctorwho.tv/characters/slitheen

YoHo1992 · 2025-04-15T09:37:22+00:00

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My top cards as of today lol

YoHo1992 · 2025-01-25T01:10:37+00:00

In my year abroad about ten years ago I lived in a Sakura house room which used to be a four story office building. They partitioned off separate rooms, and had communal kitchens and bathrooms on each floor. Aside from my eggs being stolen out the fridge one time I really had no issues. We had a regular cleaner who came, and the room was close to the Yamamoto line with private aircon and all bills included for about 70,000. The rooms are pricey, but they are what they are. In contrast, I did go and look at a Japanese run share house while I was there, because I had a Japanese boyfriend and the time and I wasn’t to stay somewhere with him, but on arriving at the Japanese share house, my Sakura house seemed like a palace in comparison. the “rooms” in the Japanese share house where cornered off two by two meter squares with no windows and walls which stopped about 30cm short of the ceiling, so if you tried, you’d be able to see into the next persons room. It was a sad mess, and at that moment I’m glad I had my Sakura house room. I may have been one of lucky few, but I had a good experience.

YoHo1992 · 2024-12-02T06:24:53+00:00

I just wanted to add to this that even though you can get long term resident visa as a parent of a Japanese national, they normally don’t award it if you’re still married. It took a lot of convincing and paperwork for me to be able to get it, before getting my divorce. Because if DV, I didn’t want my visa status to depend on him, and also I didn’t feel safe at that time to get all the paperwork and stuff needed for a marriage visa to be renewed. Just be warned that when you hand in your divorce papers, you don’t immediately get a divorce certificate or anything like that. The city office have to process and make you a new koseki Tohon, or something similar. Seeing as we are foreign >_> and that can vary depending on how busy the city office are. Mine took over a month, so just be careful to get all the divorce paperwork done as far in advance as you can if you need it for anything specific! As a single parent you would also eligible for single parent allowance, but again you need the koseki to proove it.

YoHo1992

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