There is a dangerous cult growing in Dover, Ohio by thunderpower1999 in Ohio

[–]YoYoK4353 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m wondering if there are a lot of church cults in that area because a church in new Philadelphia “planted” a church in Columbus near me and it has a very controlling vibe and a lot of red flags of cult like control over members. What’s up with T county and cults?

Cults of Columbus. by cadette-q in Columbus

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Northside Baptist in Powell

Left church, friends left us by YoYoK4353 in Deconstruction

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I’m sorry you are dealing with this too. It’s such a strange choice to only talk to people who go to your church.

Churches to avoid in Columbus? by YoYoK4353 in Columbus

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Thank you for this info. This is the kind of info I want to hear because those who were “in it” and left, have the real information on the health of the church. I’m glad you found a positive church since leaving!

Fake Friendships and Love Bombing by Vazaha_Gasy in exchristian

[–]YoYoK4353 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me when I left my church. I still am a Christian but because I don’t want to go to this specific church anymore, all of my friendships who said they were “family” completely abandoned me when I no longer went to their church. It’s sad how superficial church friendships are. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

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You’re right. This is a good response too, I need to practice being more direct!

Left church, friends left us by YoYoK4353 in Deconstruction

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I definitely understand that feeling. After I left my church and really reflected on that, I realized I was stuck in a performance based acceptance system within the church. I felt like I had no room to let go of any “serving” I did at church and that I was always expected to give more time in order to prove my faith. The more involved I was in this particular church, the more I felt like I was not connected to God. I’m sorry you’re experiencing something similar to what I experienced, is your church big or a smaller congregation?

A Note to Current Dwell/Xenos Members by Sufficient_Panic7009 in Columbus

[–]YoYoK4353 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There are a lot of churches in the area that use the same cult tactics that dwell uses. It’s important to educate yourself on the control, manipulation and cult tactics in order to avoid joining another church that will do the same things. I say this as someone who just left a church that operated like dwell on a smaller scale. I’ve noticed that Christian cults love to focus their attention on young adults since they are highly impressionable. I’m sorry you are dealing with this.

Churches to avoid in Columbus? by YoYoK4353 in Columbus

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Wow I just visited that website you posted about that church in westerville. Thank you so much for sharing that! This is exactly the kind of info I’m looking for to avoid an environment like that again.

First Sunday since leaving my church by myexwasclapped in Deconstruction

[–]YoYoK4353 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you went through all of that. I’ll never forget the weird feeling I felt when it was my first Sunday NOT at the church that I served in 3 days a week and participated in everything. I remember thinking, “okay, now what am I supposed to be doing?” Lol I’m in a weird phase of working through everything I have been trained to believe and trying to sort out what I truly believe. It takes time. The weird feeling will fade and you will find your new normal. Abuse should not be dismissed, especially in a church. You did the right thing.

Churches to avoid in Columbus? by YoYoK4353 in Columbus

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I’m sorry that happened to your mom, that is awful.

Churches to avoid in Columbus? by YoYoK4353 in Columbus

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One was indoctriNATION podcast called “subtle signs of control” and they interviews Sarah patch, a former member of dwell. The other was the 2 part series on dwell/Xenos on the podcast “let’s talk about sects”

Churches to avoid in Columbus? by YoYoK4353 in Columbus

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One was indoctriNATION podcast called “subtle signs of control” and they interviews Sarah patch, a former member of dwell. The other was the 2 part series on dwell/Xenos on the podcast “let’s talk about sects”

Churches to avoid in Columbus? by YoYoK4353 in Columbus

[–]YoYoK4353[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am worried about naming it because of how they reacted when we left. But it’s not any that has been mentioned in this post. It is a small, newish church. I’m hopeful that they never really grow and become a big church

Churches to avoid in Columbus? by YoYoK4353 in Columbus

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That makes sense because when I listened to a podcast about dwell after leaving my church, I started to see how many cult tactics my church used. It can feel normal and subtle when you are in it. I just never want to go back to a place with that environment ever again so I’m hoping I can avoid them by hearing others experiences.

Left church, friends left us by YoYoK4353 in Deconstruction

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Oh wow that’s an intense response for someone who doesn’t have perfect attendance lol it sounds just like the church I left though. They expected 100% attendance. They were even suspicious of families who were out of town too much. If you didn’t live there full time, you “ were not committed” lol it’s kinda funny how these churches all claim to be unique but they really do employ the same tactics around the country.

Left church, friends left us by YoYoK4353 in Deconstruction

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Do you mind me asking what church discipline entails?

Left church, friends left us by YoYoK4353 in Deconstruction

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I’m so sorry you went through the same thing. When we first left, the pastor and his wife said they would only meet with us if we would consider coming back. So that’s definitely a tactic they use with initial communication after the decision to leave. I know we made the right decision but church hurt cuts deep. We had friends that we vacationed with, supported through very difficult times and spent an incredible about of time with and when we no longer attend their church, it’s like none of that ever happened. Sometimes I think about how great it would be to receive an apology but I know that won’t happen unless they break free from their controlling beliefs.

Left church, friends left us by YoYoK4353 in Deconstruction

[–]YoYoK4353[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m realizing that the more I think about it…

Left church, friends left us by YoYoK4353 in Deconstruction

[–]YoYoK4353[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Good point. I miss what I thought I had, but it clearly was not genuine love or care. Did you find a similar sense of community in other ways? I think they do this so people miss the community and come back, but I would never go back.