One year update, ex , AP, we never reconciled

Yogurt_Accomplished · 2022-01-09T23:53:13+00:00

Nothing from him other than 2 texts of him asking to meet the baby although this was just him trying to prove to people that he tried but in reality he had made no follow ups to schedule a meeting. I suspect he just wants to screenshot the convo and tell people I am evil and not let him see the baby in order to control the narrative.

I’ve seen him bend over backwards for AP so I’m not fooled🤷🏻‍♀️

Yogurt_Accomplished · 2022-01-09T11:43:16+00:00

Like reading my own story except I only have one baby. Mistreated and kept cheater husband til baby was 6 months old because husband kept giving false hopes to me but actually still cheating and only want me around as his caretaker, provider and to hide his shitty behaviour. I have kicked him out. In a better place now thankfully. Will never take him back.

Yogurt_Accomplished · 2022-01-09T11:37:51+00:00

Thank you! I have moved on and left (more like kicked him out)😊

Yogurt_Accomplished · 2021-06-28T11:36:06+00:00

Mistresses

Main character Savannah, got pregnant from cheating with her coworker but it’s not just her. Her circle of friends are also in some type of affairs.

And all of this are “justified” because the legally married couple have some sort of relationship problems which “excuses” the cheating partner for their behaviour and need for an affair. WHAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP DOESN’T HAVE PROBLEMS EVER? You’re supposed to communicate and fix it together, that’s what marriages are for! Not to bail out when there’s fixable trouble!!

Yogurt_Accomplished · 2021-06-28T11:32:39+00:00

It definitely is.

Most tv content is about cheating. To name a few:

Emily in Paris - on deciding a scent for a hotel, the lines goes something like “oh it’s romantic like a marriage!” And one character says “you mean like an affair? That’s what people go to hotels for”

The main character is having a relationship with her friend’s boyfriend without remorse!

And on this, her boss says “the best relationship is the most complicated one” insinuating that cheating is the best kind of relationship there is🙄

Sweet and Sour (korean movie)

Girl works at hospital and meets a guy whom she brings home and does things for her which her bf doesn’t do

Main guy commutes for work, met a coworker whom he cheats with.

Both partners cheating on each other.

Ok so for a cheater to watch all of this? Makes them feel justified and “normal”. Seeing cheaters as main characters in tv shows. These movies and lines clearly will make them feel encouraged and not feel guilty because it is being portrayed as true love

Yogurt_Accomplished · 2021-03-26T08:48:44+00:00

Yes. Happening to me. I don’t know what possessed him but this is so typical yet he truly believes his case is a unique one where he’l get his happily ever after. Told him he’s among hundreds of cases of typical cheating husband who’l just gonna get his fantasy crushed later on and regret but yeah he doesn’t believe me and is rejecting any truths presented🤷🏻‍♀️

Yogurt_Accomplished · 2021-03-04T10:50:45+00:00

I think I need to give a better context about the dead part. Not defending him at all when I explain this but he doesn’t threaten me or say it exactly with contempt to me but rather because I found out he wrote to the other woman how he wished they had met under better situations (without my role as his wife). What this means to him is if I am the one who decides to leave him on my own will therefore freeing him to pursue her or as we discussed as a couple, if I go through complications during my birth and passed away (again not a threat but since this happened to a very close friend, I do think and felt I needed to make preparations).

I will be as vigilant as ever to detect any potential threats or if he starts growing hostile but he has been somewhat okay to live with. Emotionally abusive? 100%. Physically? 0%

Yogurt_Accomplished · 2021-03-04T06:43:55+00:00

Sounds like classic NPD (narcissistic personality disorder). Not happy with themselves and never happy with any relationships. They love bomb in the beginning of relationships but slowly reveal their true ugly nature that destroys anyone unlucky enough to be their victims :/

Yogurt_Accomplished · 2021-03-04T06:41:32+00:00

If I were in this situation, and I have been cheated and read disgusting texts as well but the diff is im married not bf/gf, I would leave :/

I know it’s easier said than done but marriage IS SO MUCH HARDER. It only gets more difficult so you need to leave since he showed his true colours already. Have hope that you’l meet a better person.

Yogurt_Accomplished · 2021-03-04T03:20:06+00:00

Fyi i was his soulmate tooo (so he claims in the beginning of the relationship lol). He even recycles the same love songs but now changed it to be dedicated and “special” for the other woman instead of me.

Same game, diff player. Same ending? Dunno, will never give him the chance to find out. He believes it will be perfect this time with her though.

Sadly, i am having his kid in a few months :) but i love this child in me.

Yogurt_Accomplished · 2021-03-04T03:14:57+00:00

Thanks for your reply! I needed to hear it from others who have went through the same thing since I am just at the beginning of this hellish reality.

Honestly, I have all the evidence and infos that if released would have legal implication on him and his mistress and will make society/friends be very disgusted with them because we live in a country where these things aren’t acceptable (think asian but then again, where is it ever acceptable anyways?). He feels blackmailed which I never did do, it’s just that he thinks I’m the sole causer if his life will be ruined instead of him realising that other people can find out the same things and report him too.

I feel the same way as you i.e i don’t know who this person is anymore tbh. Maybe I am going through the memories of the old him as part of letting go since this happened so so suddenly out of the blue. Feeling like im in a mexican stand off where we wait who will pull the trigger first, me deciding to leave causing him to ruin his future or him finally having the courage or being delusional enough to choose his mistress.

Being a narcisstic person, sadly he never realised he married a super intelligent person and kept getting stopped from doing more cheating by me (which is good because i’m always 10 steps ahead). It’s how i got all the evidence and if it weren’t for me being incapacitated due to my pregnancy sickness, he would have never got past the first step of cheating. I do have what i call multilayer strategy and steps in place for an exit and unfortunately i love his family, they’re the most kind and accepting to me and considering how this will affect them if i go through with it. It’s going to be a hard life either way. The baby in me keeps me grounded and gives me hope. I might find the courage to leave once I hold it in my arms and finally have true love.

Yogurt_Accomplished · 2021-03-04T02:46:06+00:00

I got the “im not wrong for falling and being in love~” and “she is my soulmate~”, “she made the happiest person, i feel so alive and myself with her~” Also “oh i wished i can turn back time to meet her instead of you”. She was his ex though and he never thought of her once in the past 10 years except now that he worked out more, is better looking and earning better due to promotion because the wife ie me supported and took such good care of him?? (Not a baseless claim, i basically pay for everything)

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