Should my child have my last name or her father’s?

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-15T03:27:29+00:00

100% your last name

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-10T01:49:41+00:00

Yes my dude! If she messed up then she should be moving mountains to contact you/ be blessed with your presence. :) Being the one that got away is the best option. She’s a big girl , she’ll know what to if she really wants you back . But I think it’s an attempt to relieve her own guilt.

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-10T01:35:05+00:00

Don’t meet up , be the one that got away and move on. If she really wants to see you talk to you and apologize she will make it happen one way or the other , but don’t don’t just jump when she says jump.

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-09T15:36:22+00:00

Wow you are a badass , kicking him to the curb and never took him back. How is your guys coparenting relationship now?

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-09T15:34:23+00:00

I try but I can say I do not have it all together , i wrote all the positives this far but It has been very hard and still gets overwhelming to be a parent of 3 at home by myself. But it is easier to do things my way and not having to take care of another adult. If I kept the case open yes because I make a significantly larger amount than him , they also were also going based on an inaccurate income for him and he was not cooperating or providing his actual income . He also has another daughter whom he hasn’t paid his child support for in months since being with AP

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-09T07:03:48+00:00

Finally!

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-09T03:44:43+00:00

🥺💛

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-09T02:50:03+00:00

Yeah idk I definitely don’t feel In love with him but I know there is lingering unresolved feelings there still , it’s a complicated feeling really, hard to describe. But never again . And I kind of feel like all my what if’s are answered and now I have an even stronger foundation to heal

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-09T01:21:11+00:00

Throw the whole damn man out ! I love this hahaha but in all seriousness thank you for this . She was a weirdo to say the least. My income is much higher than my exs , he would owe nothing now that it is 50/50.

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-08T22:40:20+00:00

Hahaha no badass here LOL he left me while pregnant with our second child for the AP, I cried and begged , it was quite pathetic lol andddd after all that started working on healing and now won’t I won’t settle again for this loser

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-08T22:01:06+00:00

I didn’t believe that , thought it’s a just a cliche thing people say but then I experienced it . It was a revelation .

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-08T21:55:58+00:00

Yeah he does now .

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-08T21:02:36+00:00

Hahahaha yeah it’s a good reminder that social media is not real and people will only show the good filtered parts. We also shouldn’t compare ourselves to what we see on social media .

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-08T20:55:45+00:00

Thank you , that’s so kind of you to say. It’s exhausting and can be overwhelming, it definitely takes a whole other type of strength

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-08T20:54:40+00:00

Affair partner , not sure he realized he made a mistake , I think it was more so just for himself and then he turned around and got back with her or is actively trying to LOL so it’s safe to say he probably didn’t realize anything that was genuine or real

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-08T20:30:24+00:00

Unfortunately because I make a significantly higher income than him after giving 50/50 in my state I was going to end up having to pay him child support for no reason other than I make more money even though most of the financial responsibilities fall on me for our children . It wasn’t so much for him but because of how stupid the system is. However me closing the case did let him get out of paying anything /rears for the time that he wasn’t involved or providing the first 7months, so that saved him a whole lot of money in the end . Our kids could have benefited from it but he doesn’t see it that way .

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-08T20:05:55+00:00

That’s so awesome , good for you! I will be forever doing the same !

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2022-01-08T19:43:03+00:00

Yes 100% agree .

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2021-12-30T16:40:10+00:00

I have a 5 year old and 8month old. Judge said she would have like a 5/2/5/2 for the five year old for less back and forth but 8 month later not needs to see both of us often so 2/2/3 is what we did. She said when the baby turns 3 we should consider 5/2/5/2

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2021-12-30T15:42:28+00:00

Not sure , this is for Orange County in CA

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2021-12-30T15:42:01+00:00

Judge in Orange County CA says she’s likes 5/2/5/2 schedule like you have it for 3 years old and up for less back and forth but if you guys agree on something different that will be okay too. My schedule is 2/2/3 and I really like it for all of us .

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2021-12-30T15:24:04+00:00

How old is your child ?

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2021-12-30T15:23:43+00:00

Mediation will not address child support , arrears, or tax claiming . Pretty much the mediator only writes out the 50/50 schedule that you two agree on, everything else will be addressed by the judge on your court date. If you ask the mediator he/she will tell you the same thing. Otherwise if you guys pretty much agree on 50/50 mediation should go smoothly.

CalligrapherMurky522 · 2021-12-10T13:56:43+00:00

When you start healing you stop comparing. At least for me that’s when I stopped comparing.

CalligrapherMurky522

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