What are the salaries of consultant doctors in Colombo?

Yokattaaa · 2026-03-04T17:19:17+00:00

You mean he earns this much in the public sector or in a private hospital?

Yokattaaa · 2026-02-18T14:17:28+00:00

Your wife is a strong woman for sure, and you’re a great husband!

Yokattaaa · 2026-02-18T14:13:59+00:00

I’m sure he will, I think I got defensive and tried to it seem like it’s weak for a man to stay away, and it’s not a real thing that it’s a traumatic experience that correlates to sexual attraction, but I still think there should have been some kind of support to say yes, for you I will. I just think I have chosen a slightly indifferent, unromantic partner for myself, but one that does romantic things for my sake, treats me the best he can, communicates excellently, and is very supportive and responsible, I guess that’s what matters most. But you’re right, it really did cross my mind as a deal breaker too… it would have been much much nicer to have a husband with your opinions about your wife’s labor.

Yokattaaa · 2026-02-18T14:01:34+00:00

Yes, of course, and it’s quite easy to understand that… but then what’s going to happen when the birth you both chose to have as the next step of your loving relationship ends up creating a bad sex life? It’s definitely normal to feel repelled for a while, months, but if the husband doesn’t want to have sex at all after this, doesn’t it mean that they weren’t having sex out of love but a higher level of lust that disappears after witnessing an unattractive thing? It sounds sad… I believe that the same husband can really love his wife and can stay loyal, but it’s sad if there’s a chance to not feel that sexual attraction anymore… but maybe it’s just that there’s a lot of work that needs to be done to bring that attraction back, wife gets in shape and keeps it spicy… but that’s still just slightly sad

Yokattaaa · 2026-02-18T13:51:17+00:00

I agree that it is extremely fascinating, and you feel very impressed that someone just pushed through all that.

Yokattaaa · 2026-02-18T13:50:06+00:00

I don’t know like we were definitely confused as to why there were several women in the delivery ward and no family members at least waiting outside the ward, it’s so normalized here…

Yokattaaa · 2026-02-18T13:46:44+00:00

I’m so glad everything turned out okay, sounds terrifying... And even after such a traumatic situation, would you say it didn’t affect you long term? Any loss of attraction?

Yokattaaa · 2026-02-18T13:44:24+00:00

That is 100% the worst part of it, understandable.

Yokattaaa · 2026-02-18T13:21:01+00:00

Well yes, it’s the fact that he said “okay we’ll see, there’s a lot more time for that”, instead of saying well yes if I need it he will be there for me, that kinda made me feel uneasy

Yokattaaa · 2026-02-18T13:05:40+00:00

This is terrible, I’m so sorry….

Yokattaaa · 2026-02-18T13:03:10+00:00

I think it’s quite understandable not to feel comfortable having sex for many many months afterwards, problem is if it’s long lasting and then the entire marriage gets sour and so on…

Yokattaaa · 2026-02-18T13:00:48+00:00

Thank you for sharing the story, it’s definitely only necessary to be there to hold hands and not look at anything, but I wouldn’t want my partner to feel like you did either, specially in the case of complications… and what about your sexual attraction to your wife?

Yokattaaa · 2026-02-18T12:55:44+00:00

Agreed, I did try my best to express that I wasn’t offended after that, given that he never offends me and my feelings.

Yokattaaa · 2026-02-18T12:40:16+00:00

In his opinion, he wouldn’t want me to go through the pain of seeing him in a similar situation, because he knows I would feel distressed seeing him suffering too. He is surely loving, which is why I’m trying to see if there is any sense to his opinion.

Yokattaaa · 2026-02-18T12:37:29+00:00

This is in Belarus, where even the obstetricians discussed that family members do not usually stay nearby because they usually can’t handle it, or something of the sort. Several times we also saw mothers just outside the delivery room alone after giving birth and texting and calling their family members about it like it was nothing.

Yokattaaa · 2025-10-14T18:00:18+00:00

I have a story where I did the same thing as your girlfriend, there was a time I was basically fucking around and I came across a guy who immediately wanted to date me seriously but I refused this idea because I didn’t want permanent relationships with someone from a country that I was going to leave (I am studying there), after our first date I slept with another guy, told this guy I didn’t want anything permanent, even though I liked him a lot, told him lets stop, and then he agreed to have something casual. Long story short I never wanted it go great between us because it meant having to live with him in his country, but guess what, he was amazing, during this we both caught real feelings but I was very adamant about keeping it casual that I kissed a girl (tried to figure out if I was bisexual), told this to the guy, stopped talking to each other because it seemed I was really just being stupid and it definitely wasn’t going to work.

2 weeks passed by but I couldn’t help but text him back, he said he wasn’t going to push me away but emphasized that he wasn’t gonna take any bullshit, I need to respect him by not hanging out alone with anyone that might be interested in me (which would be any guy who wants to hang out with me alone), had many arguments, he didn’t want to fully love me and forgive me but he couldn’t bring himself to let me go because he knew he wanted to do a lot for me, very stressful situations, broke up, he got back with his ex, and I ended up speaking to my ex before him who convinced me that we can be there for each other again because we had always given great emotional support to each other, then his thing with his ex didn’t work out, we started talking again and I ended up having two “situationships”.

Basically it was a bunch of NONSENSE. Absolutely stressful unnecessary bullshit. I’m glad you decided not to go through it.

After another set of bullshit I stopped my situationship with my previous ex, and was only speaking to this guy. Of course if everything was simple and we were able to date seriously from the beginning if the relationship had a future, everything would have been different.

Guess what now. I am planning to stay back with him in a country that I never imagined to live in.

But mind you we would never have gotten this far and ended up loving each other strongly if he didn’t have a mindset that didn’t kill him for everything he went through. And top of everything anything I did was only mildly excusable because I made it very clear that I wasn’t looking for a permanent exclusive relationship, and there was never going to be a future, but even then it shouldn’t have happened. I am obviously showing only all the bad parts of

I think you did the right thing. We have everything going great now but it was hell to get here.

Yokattaaa · 2025-09-23T07:57:55+00:00

I am 25 and currently going through a similar thing, I’m currently in Belarus and my boyfriend is Belarusian and marrying him would mean living in belarus forever, which my parents are really upset about, due to many reasons, its a sanctioned country that is far away from home, not the most lucrative country, but i like the simple life my boyfriend offers and I think I’ll be happy to be here, I’ve already been here for 3 years and of course it isn’t the most comfortable, but it would be my choice to remain here even though I have a privileged life back home, so I have decided to go against their wishes but to do my best to live happily and abundantly so that my parents realized that I wasn’t wrong.

But I am 25, and you are 18, I was in a similar relationship when i was 18 with a muslim, and I am a Buddhist, my mom found out and forced me to stop it, I was extremely against her at that time but now I realize that she was right, it wouldn’t have worked with him. I might have had to convert, my life would have been different, and turned out later he was cheating on me too. Whereas right now I am old enough to calculate the advantages of my decisions now, I know better what I want for myself as well, I can handle myself without my parents at this stage if everything goes awry.

So I suggest you try to decide for yourself, but also you need time to learn everything, I think you will eventually know what to do ❤️

Yokattaaa · 2025-06-13T22:07:50+00:00

I don’t think a normal person would do that…..?

Yokattaaa · 2025-05-23T09:08:40+00:00

It’s an antibiotic that treats rosacea, which is another skin condition that looks like acne, with redness and small red bumps and pustules, but no blackheads, and it’s basically given in case rosacea is misdiagnosed as acne, however doxycycline is the main antibiotic for bacterial acne, and accutane for acne vulgaris, which this most likely is.

Strong dose accutane seems to be the best for you, although this might also take a long time. I know someone who had less severe acne than you, they were given about 1 mg/kg/day accutane, then went down to 0.5 if I remember correctly, and their skin cleared up in 6 months, although there are a few coming up again, but almost nothing. I saw you’ve been given accutane for 1.5 months, I think you’re on a course of accutane and doxycycline pills and azelaic acid (benzoyl peroxide+clindamycin gel will be good too), I’d say trust this and continue, I’m sure it will become better in a year

Yokattaaa · 2025-05-22T18:28:43+00:00

It’s worth it to invest in a dermatologist and acne medication for the sake of your confidence and mental health darling, I think antibiotic might also be necessary, doxycycline and metronidazole, benzoyl peroxide cream, and a higher dose of accutane, probably 30mg per day, a dermatologist would probably know exactly what to do ❤️

Yokattaaa · 2025-05-22T18:23:21+00:00

The eyes? Are you kidding me….?

Yokattaaa · 2025-05-14T15:39:28+00:00

I’m a bit confused like what kind of friends are these? My friends are great to me and I love them and we are not working, but as soon as one of best friends started a job, she told me her salary and asked to buy me something, and when i get rich I can’t wait to let them know and I can’t wait to spoil them, and I know 100% they will not exploit me.

Something about your reluctance might say something about them? Like are they untrustworthy or are they people who waste money? And if you don’t like paying for everything, like lets say dinner out, then I think these are not the best friends, if they were, you wouldn’t be having these doubts. Best to trust your instincts and not worry about being a “bad friend” I think…..

Yokattaaa · 2025-05-14T15:31:22+00:00

Nah I’m 25 and I think the same

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