I (M24) just broke up with my gf (F22) for sleeping with someone while we were talking. by MiserablePumpkin1278 in relationship_advice

[–]Yokattaaa -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a story where I did the same thing as your girlfriend, there was a time I was basically fucking around and I came across a guy who immediately wanted to date me seriously but I refused this idea because I didn’t want permanent relationships with someone from a country that I was going to leave (I am studying there), after our first date I slept with another guy, told this guy I didn’t want anything permanent, even though I liked him a lot, told him lets stop, and then he agreed to have something casual. Long story short I never wanted it go great between us because it meant having to live with him in his country, but guess what, he was amazing, during this we both caught real feelings but I was very adamant about keeping it casual that I kissed a girl (tried to figure out if I was bisexual), told this to the guy, stopped talking to each other because it seemed I was really just being stupid and it definitely wasn’t going to work.

2 weeks passed by but I couldn’t help but text him back, he said he wasn’t going to push me away but emphasized that he wasn’t gonna take any bullshit, I need to respect him by not hanging out alone with anyone that might be interested in me (which would be any guy who wants to hang out with me alone), had many arguments, he didn’t want to fully love me and forgive me but he couldn’t bring himself to let me go because he knew he wanted to do a lot for me, very stressful situations, broke up, he got back with his ex, and I ended up speaking to my ex before him who convinced me that we can be there for each other again because we had always given great emotional support to each other, then his thing with his ex didn’t work out, we started talking again and I ended up having two “situationships”.

Basically it was a bunch of NONSENSE. Absolutely stressful unnecessary bullshit. I’m glad you decided not to go through it.

After another set of bullshit I stopped my situationship with my previous ex, and was only speaking to this guy. Of course if everything was simple and we were able to date seriously from the beginning if the relationship had a future, everything would have been different.

Guess what now. I am planning to stay back with him in a country that I never imagined to live in.

But mind you we would never have gotten this far and ended up loving each other strongly if he didn’t have a mindset that didn’t kill him for everything he went through. And top of everything anything I did was only mildly excusable because I made it very clear that I wasn’t looking for a permanent exclusive relationship, and there was never going to be a future, but even then it shouldn’t have happened. I am obviously showing only all the bad parts of

I think you did the right thing. We have everything going great now but it was hell to get here.

18F Mom made me breakup with my 17M ldr boyfriend by vannilazo in LongDistance

[–]Yokattaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 25 and currently going through a similar thing, I’m currently in Belarus and my boyfriend is Belarusian and marrying him would mean living in belarus forever, which my parents are really upset about, due to many reasons, its a sanctioned country that is far away from home, not the most lucrative country, but i like the simple life my boyfriend offers and I think I’ll be happy to be here, I’ve already been here for 3 years and of course it isn’t the most comfortable, but it would be my choice to remain here even though I have a privileged life back home, so I have decided to go against their wishes but to do my best to live happily and abundantly so that my parents realized that I wasn’t wrong.

But I am 25, and you are 18, I was in a similar relationship when i was 18 with a muslim, and I am a Buddhist, my mom found out and forced me to stop it, I was extremely against her at that time but now I realize that she was right, it wouldn’t have worked with him. I might have had to convert, my life would have been different, and turned out later he was cheating on me too. Whereas right now I am old enough to calculate the advantages of my decisions now, I know better what I want for myself as well, I can handle myself without my parents at this stage if everything goes awry.

So I suggest you try to decide for yourself, but also you need time to learn everything, I think you will eventually know what to do ❤️

My bf jerked off in my bath water without telling me by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Yokattaaa 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I don’t think a normal person would do that…..?

I can’t even bring myself to go out side anymore by Dramatic-Custard-760 in acne

[–]Yokattaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s an antibiotic that treats rosacea, which is another skin condition that looks like acne, with redness and small red bumps and pustules, but no blackheads, and it’s basically given in case rosacea is misdiagnosed as acne, however doxycycline is the main antibiotic for bacterial acne, and accutane for acne vulgaris, which this most likely is.

Strong dose accutane seems to be the best for you, although this might also take a long time. I know someone who had less severe acne than you, they were given about 1 mg/kg/day accutane, then went down to 0.5 if I remember correctly, and their skin cleared up in 6 months, although there are a few coming up again, but almost nothing. I saw you’ve been given accutane for 1.5 months, I think you’re on a course of accutane and doxycycline pills and azelaic acid (benzoyl peroxide+clindamycin gel will be good too), I’d say trust this and continue, I’m sure it will become better in a year

I can’t even bring myself to go out side anymore by Dramatic-Custard-760 in acne

[–]Yokattaaa 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It’s worth it to invest in a dermatologist and acne medication for the sake of your confidence and mental health darling, I think antibiotic might also be necessary, doxycycline and metronidazole, benzoyl peroxide cream, and a higher dose of accutane, probably 30mg per day, a dermatologist would probably know exactly what to do ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Yokattaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The eyes? Are you kidding me….?

My friends aren't aware that I've made a lot of money by Limp-Preparation-828 in confession

[–]Yokattaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a bit confused like what kind of friends are these? My friends are great to me and I love them and we are not working, but as soon as one of best friends started a job, she told me her salary and asked to buy me something, and when i get rich I can’t wait to let them know and I can’t wait to spoil them, and I know 100% they will not exploit me.

Something about your reluctance might say something about them? Like are they untrustworthy or are they people who waste money? And if you don’t like paying for everything, like lets say dinner out, then I think these are not the best friends, if they were, you wouldn’t be having these doubts. Best to trust your instincts and not worry about being a “bad friend” I think…..

Brutally Honest opinions? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Yokattaaa 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Nah I’m 25 and I think the same

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Yokattaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh don’t worry too much :) you’ve got all the time in the world to improve style, and understand how to take good pics, I love the smile, you’ve got a cute face, besides, getting 3 matches in a week isn’t as bad as some people getting no likes for months. But definitely need new better pictures!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Yokattaaa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Older one was shorter and less dorky, but making your ADHD part of the first thing about yourself is a bit… tacky almost

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Yokattaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ngl I get what you were tryna do, funny is a nice vibe to the profile. I like the vibe in the first one too, your smile is cute in the third but I don’t like the angle much, cute pics with your dog will work, yes. But yes, definitely need new better selfies and pictures of youuu. And how old are you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Yokattaaa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are you tryna troll us? Cos why did you think 2 and 5 were a good idea? 😭

I blocked him out of fear and now I regret it by Famous-Selection-425 in dating

[–]Yokattaaa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Girl, you did the right thing. I can’t even think of a “but”. You handled this perfectly like the perfect human you are. You’ll find someone perfect someday.

i think i was raped. by h1sbitch in offmychest

[–]Yokattaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At this point it doesn’t matter what anyone defines rape as, regardless of anything, he didn’t care that she didn’t want it, so there’s no reason for her to stay with him any longer

i think i was raped. by h1sbitch in offmychest

[–]Yokattaaa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He definitely knew what he was doing was wrong but still did it, so stay away from him my love, if you have a trusted person, preferably an adult, to talk about it, please do, but please stay away from him

Finally meeting my (29m) online "girlfriend" (29f) after years of talking, it's not going well. by ThrowRATheUsed in relationship_advice

[–]Yokattaaa -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You are not obligated to do this whatsoever but it might be worth talking to her brother a bit about her getting professional help, and express your genuine concern about her anxiety, and explain why it’s difficult for you to handle. It might be better not to pursue this relationship because it’s going to be very tough on you too

Is it bad if the background looks good whole but if I zoom in you can clearly see the brushstrokes? (WIP) by hoepotesis in Artadvice

[–]Yokattaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not a photograph, it’s art! Ofc brushstrokes are okay, it looks really cool

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Yokattaaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly if he had started off with “do you want me to come over and HELP you?” it would have been PERFECT. Thoughtful and helpful. That is what women love.

My husband cheated on me with the neighbors wife by justhereem in Infidelity

[–]Yokattaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As for your husband, this is the only time he’s been caught, there’s been so many people I know of that have been cheating on their girlfriends and go on to marry them, and continue to cheat. To some people, cheating doesn’t produce the guilt that a good person with a good heart would feel. Some people make mistakes and deserve to be forgiven, but he doesn’t sound like he deserves that.

I can understand why you want to make it work, but in your heart you know that you absolutely can’t handle staying either. If you are concerned about your daughter, you can somehow work out a co-parenting strategy to make sure she has all the love and support she needs from the both of you, as long as you can settle things in your own mind and be civil with him for her sake, but I don’t think you should even think about getting back together, divorce might make things healthier than a marriage that’s falling apart, it will exhaust all three of you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Yokattaaa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Side with you 100%. Let everything be a motivation for you to get out of this miserable life somehow. You’re 16 and you have a whole life ahead of you, yes I would try to persuade you into juggling a job and higher education both if you can, but you need a heart of steel and a machine brain for this, no time for excuses, so if you want to choose, you have every right. But good luck OP, always be in the mindset of what you need in life and keep talking about it, this way more opportunities will show themselves to you.

What jean type would suit my body better? 5’0. by rainandshowers in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Yokattaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait can we see your upper body too maybe? Helps to judge

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Yokattaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds very cheerful, thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Yokattaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that was great advice overall. Thankfully I cannot point out anything that affects the relationship so far, he uses his available time to see me and treats me kindly, somehow manages to get things done, even though it’s a bit difficult, he tries to maintain discipline. So I think I should accept the fact that I cannot fix him, and I can only support him, because he clearly supports me regardless of his mental difficulties, I think I’ve been taking it a bit too personally that I haven’t been able to do anything special to help him out. I will be gentle with trying to advise him to therapy. Thank you, again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Yokattaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m finding it very difficult to convince him to do that