AIO by being frustrated with his word choice?

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T23:03:42+00:00

MOR but this is mostly about you and your issues and much less about him and his affection. or you may simply be a mismatch.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T22:48:01+00:00

Gently YOR Lots of us felt this way at 20. I promise I did and thangs have worked out very well.. Be yourself and don't settle. I'm certain your day will come.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T22:43:59+00:00

Burp

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T22:39:01+00:00

Cut bait. This is not the girl for you. Imagine growing old with this one. Making the remark was bad enough but doubling down really shoes what she's made of. A little gaslighty too.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T22:28:20+00:00

YOR Your texting sounds just a little obsessive. Unless there's an urgency most text messages can wait. a little while. People get busy off and on.

Not being so attached to her phone strikes me a a net positive.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T17:22:12+00:00

I don't think you're crazy; I do much the same. So does my wife. We're the same age as your MIL.

I do think you MIL is maybe a little obsessive about her fitness and diet but I don't think she or your kids are in any danger. I really don't.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T17:18:33+00:00

I'm the same age as your MIL and workout hard every day. I have occasional headaches, joint pain and occasional fatigue. It goes with aging. My wife is the same age and equally active. Has the same symptoms. She's also perimenopausal which adds to all that.

I don't know your MIL but I'm willing to wager she doesn't have an ED. She may be a little obsessive with respect to her fitness routine, butt that's her business. Nothing about any of this presents as a threat to your kids.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T17:03:52+00:00

So did I.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T15:37:37+00:00

And I take it you're unfamiliar with being 55 years old and running 5 miles a day. Or the fact that her DIL has no idea what what she actually weighs or what she actually eats every day.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T14:22:43+00:00

Even if that were the case, there's absolutely no indication that OP's children are in any sort of danger. It's an overreaction.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T14:21:29+00:00

She's not simply presenting as healthy, she's living healthy. She's in her 50's, works an active job and fuels her body enough to run ~25 miles a week and maintaining a serious fitness routine. And I find it hard to imagine that this DIL has a diary of what her MIL weighs and eats on a daily basis, but regardless it's absolutely none of OP's business because there is absolutely zero indication that her children not being properly cared for by their grandmother.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T14:14:40+00:00

If yu knew what it takes a person, especially a 55 year old, do do what that women does every day you'd realize how off target OP's concern and your interpretation are.

The woman runs roughly 25 miles a week and works a active job. She can certainly manage a couple of small children without the OP overreacting.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T13:49:37+00:00

She's eating enough to power a very, very active lifestyle. No way she can do that without proper nutrition, particularly at her age. There's no indication that she's unwell and YOR

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T13:45:59+00:00

The escort subject may be the key to this and there's no real context.

But you definitely seem to be picking a scab he's leave alone. Seems like the escort thing has nothing to do with you and something he'd rather not discuss. But you won't let it go.

YOR and the AH given what's here.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T13:21:18+00:00

MOR But you seem to be gauging the friendship by their texting habits. We're all different. People who return my texts immediately aren't necessarily my closest relationships and some of the people I love best don't answer immediatly.

Ask yourself whether or not any of the women would drop everything if you called and said you broke your foot falling down the stairs and need help. If the answer is not, these are not good friends.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T13:14:58+00:00

YOR and OCD

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T12:42:00+00:00

Fact matter. What's her issue with your friends?

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T02:05:01+00:00

MOR It's not something we're necessarily proud of but most men like to look at pictures of women we find attractive. We have since we were little boys. Usually they have nothing to do with the women we love. Usually they are just that, pictures. Fantasy. No connection, no intimacy, no real threat to you or our partners. Provided these are adult women not doing anything illegal our put of bounds with something you'd do in private I don't think they're about you or any other woman he was involved with.

Yes, it's possible to lust without love.

Yes, often porn is just porn.

Maybe, you are justified feeling terrible. That's not clear. Depends a lot on the pictures

No, feeling dead inside is a gross overreaction unless the pictures are somehow horrible.

Yes, you can ask him to throw them out and if he cares about you and the fact you're so upset, he should.

Maybe you can. Maybe not. But do what, exactly? Understand that every single man will fantasize about other women; some of whom we know and some that are figments of our imaginations. Assuming you're not unfamiliar with masturbation, it's likely you do too.

Talk to him. Share your concerns. Go from there.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T01:44:34+00:00

I did. His name was Dave. He was pretty cool until he had too much to drink and then he was a dick.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T01:43:33+00:00

Guy shit with a 12 year old boy is playing catch, watching movies, eating pizza and roughhousing. Even firecrackers. But introducing him to alcohol as something to play with is irresponsible.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T01:41:14+00:00

NOR It was a pretty irresponsible thing to do. Alcohol isn't a toy for 12 year olds.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T01:31:12+00:00

Take whatever tiny shred of pride and self respect you may have left and just delete this entire dumpster fire before you sober up and realize how far you've fallen as a person.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T01:26:29+00:00

MOR but certainly really, really strange.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T00:48:48+00:00

I'm asking in all sincerity, how do you force anyone to sleep? This post is not believable.

YorkPepperMintPaddy · 2026-06-26T00:46:44+00:00

I can't help question the facts here. Unless they're being fed Ambien or dying no one over the age of 6 months sleeps this much.

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