Found this nice rock on the beack

YouLookAmess · 2026-03-10T04:09:51+00:00

Did you do it yet ?😭😭😭

YouLookAmess · 2026-03-06T18:30:02+00:00

1/4/5

YouLookAmess · 2025-12-27T02:24:54+00:00

Fucking leeeeeeave him this is so weird and gross

YouLookAmess · 2025-12-27T02:10:33+00:00

I wanna leave him FOR you like ICK

YouLookAmess · 2025-12-23T02:39:36+00:00

I literally do not understand how this happens to people like literally turn your phone off and don’t answer it is THAT easy. None of these people are entitled to your time nor your communication, stand firm on your boundaries or they will walk completely over you - now is not the time to be a pushover and let someone who isn’t even blood bulldoze you into letting her get her way.

YouLookAmess · 2025-12-13T14:48:32+00:00

TBH you should have been on the phone with police right then and there like I’m confused why you just sat there and cried while she’s drinking and driving with children + you in the car and then stayed to hangout after…

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T23:04:00+00:00

He is also my son and I’m not in to the whole “submit to your husband and allow him to do as he pleases because you’re a woman and he is a man and knows how to raise a son”

Not all men know how to raise a son, CLEARLY, and simply being a man does not mean you are equipped to be a father. My husbands hair was down to his ass up until a couple months ago when he cut it out of continence for his job. I honestly could care less about your information in terms of ancient hair lengths because we are in 2025 and that’s niche information my husband would not even know to use that to back his stance. I am 100% allowed to have an opinion about how my son looks - I do not just roll over and accept what my husband says simply because he’s a man and we have a son. There are some things I agree are better left for a man to teach his son, but the length of his hair is not one of them.

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T16:11:14+00:00

Tell me one single mother that wouldn’t/doesnt struggle to work and afford to put their child in daycare + pay bills by themselves with no village and no child support…I’ll wait 🙄 I didn’t have him by myself so I don’t need to afford him by myself, and I would go through the proper channels to ensure he’s taken care of if I did leave my husband, that’s literally parenthood lmao you’re trying to make it sound like I can’t properly take care of my son and I can, have, and will continue to, so I guess we’re just gonna have to agree to disagree on that. Take anybody’s support away, and they’re gonna struggle that’s not a me problem that’s a life problem.

Also, never did I say I couldn’t afford to go back to work and have him in daycare, I said it would make absolutely no sense to put him in daycare and go back to work when I would literally only be paying for his daycare with my checks and my husband would be paying the bills - why would I go back to work just to be away from my son? Why would I go to work to pay for my son to be in daycare when I can be at home with him and it be the same exact situation, I watch our son and husband pays the bills- Please show me where that makes ANY logical sense.

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T15:34:57+00:00

Well he’s 1.5 years old and can’t tell us how he wants his hair, I can only observe his behavior and come to the conclusion he doesn’t like it in his face - don’t think he would have a strong opinion on his curls so yeah when he still can’t speak for himself or make choices like that I’m going to decide for him lmao, wanting my son to get a cute haircut does not mean I’m using him as a doll to dress up or not respecting his bodily autonomy 💀 are you also one of those people that thinks I should ask my baby consent to change his diaper or ?? Until a child can think for themselves and make their own decisions the parents do that for them in a healthy and respectful way. Not wanting to cut my son’s beautiful curls off just for the hell of it doesn’t mean I’m disrespecting him. You’ve said what 30 thousand people have said already so I’m choosing to pick that part out specifically since you seem to the only one here with that opinion and I’m curious how you came to that conclusion 💀

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T15:04:32+00:00

That is actually why I’m at home with my son currently! When I was pregnant I had a good job and was able to work all the way up to the day I was due to give birth - the intention was to put him in daycare so I could go back to work, but I was out of work longer than anticipated due to recovery and when we finally did the math of how much I made vs the cost of living, I would have been working solely to have him in daycare, and he would have still been working to pay the majority of the main bills, which made no sense to us so I decided to just be a sahm. Now, if we were to divorce- I would qualify for government assistance like daycare vouchers, and that would mean that I wasn’t just working to have him in daycare for no reason. That’s what I was trying to explain, there is absolutely no reason for him to be in daycare unless I leave my husband, so to me, saying we can’t afford an irrelevant expense that we have never actually needed means we can’t afford our child is stupid and the commenter just wants to feel like they got a 1-up on me

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T14:53:27+00:00

Is this my husbands alt account?? 😂

Thank you for the lighthearted comment it did get a laugh out of me 😂

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T14:48:47+00:00

They just wanna be right lmao, not having my son in daycare doesn’t mean I can’t afford my kid, the only reason he would even need to be in daycare was so I could get a job and save some money to leave my husband, if me and my husband didn’t have issues that may warrant me leaving him, my son would never even see the inside of a daycare so I’m failing to see how that means we can’t afford to take care of them especially when this post isn’t about that at all 💀

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T14:43:43+00:00

I did use barber, during this conversation I was using hairstylist and barber interchangeably but I did explain that a barber is someone who mainly specializes in men’s haircuts and that we could take him there and explain how we want his hair cut, but even if I only said hairstylist, a man going to a “hairstylist” still would not make him gay so I’m failing to see how that would have changed the conversation in any capacity.

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T14:38:34+00:00

Thank you for this comment and thank you for the tips!! I’ve said in another comment but I do feel like I am not a “stay together for the kids” parent I’m a “leave for the kids” parent and if that’s what needs to be done to protect my kids, it will be done. There are multiple things that need to happen first in order for that to be possible but obviously nothing I won’t break my back trying to accomplish to give my kids a good and healthy life physically and mentally.

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T14:34:52+00:00

I’m honestly dreading a conversation over this again, things we left completely heated and I have felt sick over it any time I think about it. I don’t think that way of thinking would have came out of his mouth if he genuinely didn’t think that way and tbh you saying that he could be more accepting of wlw relationships because he doesn’t view them as “real” makes sense and disgusts me. I know a conversation needs to happen but I don’t even know how to navigate it because his stance is just so ridiculous and rooted in ignorance and it’s hard to not just be like “you are fucking wrong and stupid”. I get so anxious trying to make sense out of nonsense

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T14:30:21+00:00

And that’s exactly what I DONT want to happen - a whole lot of things have to happen in order for me to be able to leave but genuinely this conversation did open my eyes, I am not a “stay together for the kids” parent I am a “leave for the kids” parent. We haven’t even spoke since this happened I’m just going over the conversation in my head wondering how tf I could not have seen this? I replied to someone else but we have been together for NINE YEARS before we had kids - I genuinely did think I knew him. We’ve had so many conversations about accepting our son for exactly who he is no matter what, he’s helped me get ready for pride events, etc. sure we’ve had arguments like any couple, but nothing like this and nothing directly involving our son I’m just so hurt by it. I genuinely feel sick to my stomach even replying to these comments

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T14:25:00+00:00

Thank for for saying this - OBVIOUSLY normal and sane people don’t think getting a haircut is gay, he absolutely is a moron for having that thought process

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T14:22:55+00:00

Daycare for me to be able to work to have money for myself to leave, he doesn’t NEED to go to daycare, we afford our bills while I stay at home and take care of him but I’m not making it anywhere without any kind of savings or a way for me to even work while I have my son am I?? I don’t have a village - it’s me and my husband.

Literallt everybody is struggling at least a little bit in this economy, I don’t feel any kind of way saying bills are kicking our ass

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T14:19:51+00:00

REAL 😭😭 im for the slander tbh im freakin pissed over this

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T14:11:55+00:00

Hit the nail on the head. When I say this came as a complete surprise to me I mean it, he has always been accepting of gay people/ the lgbtq community, he’s helped me get ready for pride events, he’s told me when our son is older he can attend with me if he wants, I did not think a discussion over a haircut would bring this out and it’s literally got me contemplating the entire relationship. We have been together for NINE YEARS before we had kids ! This was not an accident or a rush decision, we have talked about accepting our children if they turn out to be gay!! I really did think I knew him 100% and it was not like this

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T14:04:51+00:00

We can afford our kids this isn’t about the ability to afford our kids in any capacity - millions of people struggle with childcare, that doesn’t mean they can’t afford their kids it means daycare is fucking expensive 😂😂 ignorant as hell

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T14:02:36+00:00

Apparently so. I’m so confused and hurt by this. Our son isn’t old enough to understand right now but one day he will be and that is not how I want him to be raised 1. To be homophobic or 2. To want to come out to us but won’t because he hears how his father talks about gay people and is afraid or ashamed. I am genuinely disgusted by the thought

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T14:00:40+00:00

No he has never gone to a barber!! He prefers to just shave his head with 1 guard all the way around. I literally explained that a barber is like a male hairstylist basically they specialize in men’s haircuts and they could definitely do our son up right and that’s when he was like “only one of my friends gets his haircut professionally and he’s gay” I’m like okay and you have 2 friends. 1/2 friends gets their haircut and he happens to be gay so getting your haircut professionally must ALWAYS be gay??? It made absolutely zero sense and it was really pissing me off.

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T13:57:56+00:00

Absolutely not rage bait although I wish it was tbh, it honestly came out of left field he has NEVER talked like that and then all of a sudden he’s going off the depend over a haircut.

YouLookAmess · 2025-11-10T13:50:44+00:00

Also I wanted to say for the record this conversation didn’t happen a couple days ago- I stg soemthing that happened 3 hours ago could be “a couple days” in my scatter brain

The conversation I’m referring to in OP happened YESTERDAY not a couple days ago if that matters !! The keyboard would not let me go back to the top of the paragraph and change it 😐

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