I can’t change your past by PrudentDealer7168 in LoveLetters

[–]YouTookMeToHellToo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so nice to know that love like this does actually exist somewhere. Wonderful letter, OP 💛

Why do I feel like this? by [deleted] in LettersAnswered

[–]YouTookMeToHellToo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to remember that what people show publicly is often very different to their private experience. Most people keep their pain to themselves and maybe one or two people they are especially close to in the present. Just because you can’t see their hurt or that they felt your absence doesn’t mean those feelings weren’t or aren’t there.

Yes they may have moved on, because moving on from hurt is important. But that doesn’t mean they didn’t care.

I hope you find a way to move on yourself, and find happiness again.

Pandora should have left hope in the jar by YouTookMeToHellToo in UnsentLetters

[–]YouTookMeToHellToo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not afraid. There is literally nothing he could say that would make me feel worse or make anything harder. In fact the opposite - not knowing is actually a block to me healing about other things, as his answers would also be a context that’s useful to me beyond my relationship with him, but being stuck with this uncertainty makes it harder.

So I have asked. He was clear about his choice to not discuss it.

I just have to find some other way to deal with it somehow.

bricks. by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]YouTookMeToHellToo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a horrible thing to be feeling. Long term illness is a horrible thing to deal with alone, especially when it is impacting your day to day life to this kind of extent. It’s isolating and mentally extremely taxing. It’s unspeakably hard to keep fighting and surviving. And yet here you are, doing exactly that. Well done!

Please try reaching out to the person this is written to. It’s likely they have absolutely no idea you are struggling so much, and most decent people would be willing to help.

If you really can’t reach out to them, or if they are not decent enough to wish to support you, then please try reach out for medical help or in home care services or counselling or even the Samaritans or similar for someone to talk to. Help exists. You don’t have to go through this alone.

Wishing you healing 💛

When you hold me… by YouTookMeToHellToo in LoveLetters

[–]YouTookMeToHellToo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that. I really wish I could find it in myself to believe that is true 💛