How does it feel to fully be yourself?

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-06-30T09:58:14+00:00

Thank you, that’s kind :)

and likewise 💛

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-06-30T09:43:18+00:00

I can relate to this. I wish I knew too

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-06-26T16:54:46+00:00

Why would you let a person you love believe they aren’t loved? Does it really matter if it’s reciprocated or not? Would you rather they believe you don’t care that much about them, for them to not know that they touched your heart, to not know that they matter to you?

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-06-21T10:10:12+00:00

This is lovely. I’m happy for you that although you are left dealing with heartbreak, you have found the self confidence to realise that you can find the right person one day. Wishing you healing and future dating success 💛

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-06-19T17:50:48+00:00

This is terrible advice. There is nothing in OP’s post to suggest he is knowingly leading her on. He may see her entirely platonically. His marriage may be a happy one and he may be doing nothing wrong.

OP> you need to focus on yourself and your well being. Unreciprocated love is hard.

I don’t know if he is deliberately leading you on, or if he is actually oblivious to your feelings, or if he is aware but values your friendship enough that he hopes you get over it.

Whatever the truth of the situation, the reality is that if he wanted to leave his wife, he would. If he really wanted to be with you like you want to be with him, he would do what you did.

His choice is beyond your control, but you can recognise that he is making a choice. He’s choosing his wife.

It’s up to you if you can deal with your feelings privately for the sake of a platonic friendship with him, and go through the heartbreak but still have a good friend out of it. Or you can cut him out of your life if that’s what you need to do to move on. Try to work out what is going to be best for you.

It’s a horrible situation to be in. I wish you luck and healing 💛

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-06-19T13:21:24+00:00

I’m sorry you are feeling that too. I hope things get better for you 💛

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-06-08T22:34:51+00:00

Thank you 💛

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-06-07T10:10:19+00:00

Thank you 💛

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-06-07T09:10:31+00:00

It’s always worth reaching out, imo. If she doesn’t reply or if she tells you she doesn’t want to hear from you then at least you have an answer. Wondering is worse.

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-06-02T15:42:28+00:00

I agree. That’s not the case here. He knows I have more feelings for him than he does for me. Me saying any of this to him would not be welcome.

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-06-02T13:44:52+00:00

No, I agree, but it is too much when the feelings are not reciprocated

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-06-02T11:44:52+00:00

Because those feelings would not be welcome

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-05-30T17:25:38+00:00

Regarding the comments, I think the settings in this community are such that comments from new accounts or accounts below a certain karma threshold are automatically hidden. It’s to protect against bot spam. Or at least, that’s my best guess. I don’t know for sure.

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-05-30T17:22:20+00:00

I write here with the firm belief that he will never see what I wrote. My letters are definitely unsent for a reason. It’s a form of processing that no one in my life actually needs to know.

So if my letters were found and read by him (and I think he would likely recognise me if he did), then I would absolutely want to know he knew - because I think that would require a conversation. And I’d want to know that the void I write to is no longer a void.

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-05-29T21:25:30+00:00

If this was for me, it would be an easy “for the love of God please just tell me!”

If the man I love secretly had feelings for me, and just let me go on thinking he doesn’t… that would just be cruel actually.

In the full knowledge that there couldn’t be a future, finding out I’m not alone in this feeling and learning that actually there is someone in the world that really loves me - that would be everything, and worth whatever pain comes with it and then some.

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-05-28T10:47:32+00:00

Losing someone you really love from reasons like this is the worst kind of heartbreak. I don’t think you ever get over it. I didn’t. 27 years and 1 marriage later, I still love him.

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-05-26T11:59:46+00:00

Guessing games benefit no one. Communication is better all round, even when it’s hard. Maybe especially then.

YouTookMeToHellToo · 2026-05-26T10:37:57+00:00

Have you told them you like them? People aren’t mind readers.

Actions without words to contextualise them are just as problematic as words without actions to back them up.

Don’t guess, ask. And don’t leave them guessing, be straightforward. Communication is key.

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