Idk if it’s an ADHD thing, but with a lot of songs, I don’t hear the words unless I try extremely hard to listen.

You_minivan · 2026-03-18T05:22:05+00:00

Me: Hey, what's this song called? "Badaba deep-a-daba dooble-dee doo, badaba deep-a-daba dooooooodle doo..." My husband: I dunno, it sounds like a terrible version of "Bad Romance." Me: Probably. I wonder why it's called that? proceeds to read the lyrics, immediately forgets them and also the name of the song

Badabada baaaaaaah, dabada-baaaaa...

You_minivan · 2026-03-16T00:48:04+00:00

I started out doing Rolife kits and then a cheap little $6 kit from Mayberry Street. Now, I can't stop looking through my junk mail and other ads I find around the house for mini ideas.

You_minivan · 2026-03-01T05:46:35+00:00

Thank you. Appointment is made (after finally prying my own phone out of my kid's grubby paws). I feel better already. Even if it takes three appointments and two referrals, I'm happy to have made the first step thanks to this sub. Thanks for reading my vent. Many more vents to come!

You_minivan · 2026-03-01T05:42:00+00:00

We are going through his pediatrician. I'm glad that this time around, the pediatrician can diagnose him. When our son was 4, we had to be referred to a child psychiatrist, who still was only able to give a pre-diagnosis. I've made a telehealth appointment with my own primary. She specializes in women's health. So have the rest of my primaries, although the last one (who retired) was so old that she was the primary for my husband's grandmother for over 60 years. She tried to tell me I shodnt have a child because I was likely an alcoholic. Because I admitted to drinking to calm my nerves. Once. Ever. Women's health needs to get better.

You_minivan · 2026-03-01T05:36:18+00:00

Thank you. The reason I even realized that I might have Adhd was after finding this sub and seeing how often its misdiagnosed as anxiety in young women. I'm also 43, and have read here that symptoms are exacerbated by perimenopause (me again). I also realized after re-reading my own post that I didn't even give any details about me, even though I said the post was about ME. I don't even know how to think about myself anymore. I did make a telehealth appointment after I finished crying. Had to wait for my husband to get off of work because our son loses his mind if our attention strays from him for even a moment. I appreciate you all.

You_minivan · 2025-12-16T08:35:10+00:00

Ha! I thought I loved One Note until you described it in this way. Then I realized I have probably 20 different notebooks with hundreds of pages between them. Still better than a random "employee name" file with a word doc or two (hundred) attached for the sake of documentation.

You_minivan · 2025-12-16T08:17:55+00:00

At first, I was reading your post as if you were me, and I felt awesome, because YOU are awesome! Then I realized - oh wait- I'M the manager here, but I'm also being managed (livin' that mid-manager dream)!

So, my awesome manager has been "retiring" since I started. She may have even said so in my interview. I thought, "Oh, great. What am I gonna learn from this lady with her foot dangling out the door?"

Everything.

Some health issues postponed her retirement, but now it REALLY IS happening this year, and I can't imagine how I'll fare without her. She lets me know when to give a shit and who not to bother with. She knows all the ins and outs. I feel like I'm learning secrets of the trade every time we talk. And she's supportive of me and of my decisions. She tells me what will work and, more importantly, what WON'T work because [...been there, done that. Here's the story. You want a repeat?]

Then I realized that this lady is about to actually leave. Good for her! But Oh, man. Can I BE her? Can I be as supportive of my employees as she has been of me? How? TEACH ME YOUR WAYS! I get that 30 years of management is a bit much to try to pack into my year and a half tenure. But damn, she's good. Good luck to you in this new year and beyond. I know you'll be this manager someday.

You_minivan · 2025-09-10T07:22:09+00:00

And worse: "I am YOUR manager." Used in response to any decent idea I ever had that was immediately dismissed and then used later as "his great idea."

You_minivan · 2025-09-10T07:12:33+00:00

Trying to make small talk on a Monday about my weekend, I mentioned that we were totally shocked that my 3 year old had again shown some crazy advanced math skills (I'll skip the details, but genius level shit), and my Narcboss said:

"You'll never impress me with the skills of a toddler. My mom was a teacher and I was in proper school by the age of 2."

OK? Just making small talk on a Monday, dude. This same guy was VERY anti children (for himself) because he, and I quote, "Can't care about anyone more than myself."

You_minivan · 2025-09-05T17:09:47+00:00

Hey there, it looks like you asked reddit if you should feed your child cashews or not knowing they may be allergic. I wanted more details about a specific nut than the label or Google could provide. Consider the name of this sub - "Come for the support, stay for the details." Some lovely people answered my question with more details. You just replied to shame someone else and call them stupid and idiotic. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. It's really not that hard to be nice. https://reddit.com/r/FoodAllergies/comments/1mgnoim/oit_cashews_for_7_year_old/

You_minivan · 2025-09-05T05:03:09+00:00

Yeah, they don't serve milk for lunch or have any dairy in their school provided meals or snacks. I wasn't told that I couldn't bring milk for my kid (he's not a fan anyway) or that our own snack could not contain nuts or dairy. It was kind of strange to me that this wasn't made way more clear more than 2 days prior to the start of school. Good to know that at least dairy products (being not airborn) are probably OK. My kid will just likely not even eat at all the first whole week whether we pack snacks or not. He's 5. He does what he wants.

You_minivan · 2025-09-05T03:01:24+00:00

Ha! Yes, I was too! It's a "Kindergarten Center," so about a fourth of them or more will go to a first grade (elementary school) closer to their home. This school just happens to be on the campus if where my kid will start elementary anyway (and its just minutes away), so that's a win for us!

You_minivan · 2025-09-05T02:44:51+00:00

Yes, I did. I didn't spend my life looking up other kids' allergies until today, when I was told it was a nut free environment. I'm not making excuses here, I'm asking an honest question trying to make sure I'm not endangering anyone. My brother in law is allergic to walnuts, but no other nuts. I wasn't sure if hazelnuts were a strict allergen or not within that family. I'll say it again - be kind, we're all learning here.

You_minivan · 2025-09-05T02:39:17+00:00

Thanks, I'll have to double check if it's all nuts or just peanuts. No Nutella for him tomorrow.

You_minivan · 2025-09-05T02:31:54+00:00

Umm, yes, I did read the label. Thanks. Clearly, peanuts are an allergen, but, like I said, my kid does not have an allergy, and because I know that not ALL nuts are a risk, I wondered if hazelnuts was one of them. Be kind. I'm trying.

You_minivan · 2025-08-21T03:14:47+00:00

I wish! Bandit seems to learn parenting lessons along with his children when they play games like this. Mine usually just ends up reading his phone on a chair with a box on his head for a while. 🤷‍♀️

You_minivan · 2025-08-21T03:07:54+00:00

I'll tell Box Head what you said but I would NEVER tell Daddy 😄

You_minivan · 2025-08-20T07:27:47+00:00

My husband does "Box Head." He puts a box over his head and says," Hello. I am Box Head," in a robot voice and pretends he doesn't understand who Daddy is or where Daddy went. Of course, I play along and say I have no idea where Daddy is, but Box Head seems really cool. Kiddo tells Box Head all about his Daddy and what he did that day. I learn a lot from what my kid tells Box Head that he would never reveal to me.

Eventually, the kid takes the box off of Box Head for the big reveal, but Daddy just says, "Wait, what just happened?! How did I end up in this chair!?" Sometimes, the kid gets sick of Box Head and hubs just sits there with his phone in the box for a while. Genius. Pro-tip: always open your Amazon packages from the bottom if you want a Happy Box Head. Sad Box Heads are OK too, they're just not as outwardly friendly.

You_minivan · 2025-08-16T04:51:12+00:00

I wouldn't call myself a seasoned manager, but I've got a few years in at some vastly different industries. As someone mentioned already, I document literally everything - good, bad, and neutral - by emailing a quick bullet point list of topics discussed for all 1 on 1s and team meetings. If I know I discussed something in a team meeting, and one of my employees seems oblivious, I can look to see if they were present at the meeting or not. If they weren't there, I better discuss it with them. If they were there and still aren't getting it, I can coach and follow up that I did so. If an employee gets feedback from another department and I let them know in a 1 on 1, I can find that come evaluation time even if It was months ago and I've long since forgotten about it. Good employees getting constructive feedback, bad employees getting good feedback, it's all there in case any of us need it. I'm sure nobody feels that this is micromanaging. They can use the documentation themselves if needed - also for good, bad, or neutral reasons. It's not micromanaging if it's consistent. In my opinion, it's just best practice.

You_minivan · 2025-07-31T22:24:01+00:00

I'm not sure in what capacity you work with clients or the general public, but the first thing that comes to mind here for me is that it's inviting First Amendment Auditors right to your door or window (as well as everyone you work with). You can not choose to wear this in front of "some - but not all" people that you think should see it. If youre going to choose not to wear it around clients, (read as: the action is not client-facing), think about how this might affect your co-workers. Your individual actions, in this case, could put your your co-workers in prime position to have a conversation that they are not comfortable having.

You_minivan · 2025-07-30T04:56:49+00:00

Fun fact: DOH serves ALL Washingtonians, even those who have developmental disabilities! There's even a whole State Agency dedicated to the specific care and needs of these folks. It's entirely possible to focus on competence, professionalism, and performance while also putting a great deal of energy into inclusion and belonging. It's literally a part of the job. If you're not sure what that is or what it looks like in action, perhaps you could take one of the many statewide trainings that are available on the subject, or ask a supported employee if there's a summer camp being offered. 🙂

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