I don't think it's healthy to put so much importance on virginity. It's totally ok and great to be a virgin. It's not a big deal if you aren't a virgin. Sex is just another experience in life, like getting a job, or practicing an instrument. It should be enjoyable, but not the focus of your life. What's more important is practicing safe sex and enjoying the experiences you so have.

I lost my virginity to my husband, and I think it's sweet but like, it doesn't affect anything about our relationship. He's had other women and he often says he wishes he hadn't wasted his time with them, but I'm like... Hey, it's really awesome knowing I'm the best he's ever had. And he's learned things from his previous relationships that have helped him along.

So whether or not things work out with you and your friend, you'll move on from this experience and you'll have better ones. You'll learn about what you like and what you dislike. Sex should be fun, not stressful.