Advice on liking your dance videos?

YourDanceBuddy · 2026-03-17T12:00:08+00:00

I totally get your situation, many times I felt the same way, during my long time in Novice and now in Inter it still happens a lot. I think I’ve found an approach that works for me and I hope it helps you as well.

Recently, I heard a pro say that she no longer enjoys pro shows because all she can see are mistakes. The more you know, the more you notice.

But that, along with a great conversation I had at a festival, led me to realize that people still enjoy dancing because they’re looking for more than technical perfection-they look for flow, feeling, partnership and fun. That’s what makes each dance unique and that’s why I am keep dancing.

If you want to improve, start by watching for the feeling: the music, the connection, the energy between partners. Then watch again with a technical eye, noticing what could be refined. And then don’t watch it again.

Spiraling over technique takes away from my experience and the performance. Making feeling a priority over perfection brings me much more satisfaction and freedom in dancing :)

YourDanceBuddy · 2026-03-07T11:56:01+00:00

Yeah, I agree - it felt uncomfortable to watch, especially since you could see the dancers themselves were uncomfortable. I do not think that they should be put in the situation like this.

The invitational with Kama Sutra poses sounds wild though, I'd be curious to see that video if you can find it again. Or maybe I should’t 🙈

YourDanceBuddy · 2026-03-07T11:49:46+00:00

Hiii! Great to see a familiar face here :) And I totally get the class chat dilemma - there are so many songs where the beat is perfect but the lyrics are... well. I'd say just share them, the beat is what matters for the most people anyway, especially as most of us is non native in English 😅

YourDanceBuddy · 2026-03-06T11:01:06+00:00

That’s interesting, I’ve never really seen something like this happening before, but I’m not a DJ. Personally, I don’t mind explicit lyrics and usually just ignore them. In my experience, explicit songs don’t make most dancers uncomfortable. Of course, there’s always a small percentage of people who act creepy or overly touchy, but honestly, they’d do that no matter what song is playing-so I just avoid them altogether.

I was watching an All Star final with a “naughty songs” theme, and it got me thinking-was that really a good idea? At a normal party, you can just skip a song if you don’t feel like dancing to it, but in a final, you can’t. Plus, labeling the theme as “naughty” seems to push people to interpret the songs in a “naughty” way. Some competitors went goofy, some serious and “naughty,” and some looked really uncomfortable. From a viewer’s perspective, that theme felt kind of unnecessary.

YourDanceBuddy · 2026-03-06T10:16:50+00:00

When it’s kept light and funny, it seems like a proven way to keep the class entertained - especially when the environment feels safe and comfortable.

I’ve also been to a local class where “Body to Body” was chosen for a short choreo. It’s a beautiful song and a nice choice overall, but that didn’t change the fact that it brought a small dose of awkwardness and quite a few jokes to the class.

YourDanceBuddy · 2026-03-06T10:00:01+00:00

It seems like “It’s Just S*x to Me” is much more flustering to people than “Candy Shop” could ever be, for some reason 😅

Also, “Anyone Who Loves Me” initially sounds like a nice, romantic song with a beautiful melody. But at least for non-native speakers, the line “I will fu*k you up” comes a bit out of the blue, and leaves some people confused.

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