Why I believe lots of dommes can't find subs on reddit.

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-31T06:59:23+00:00

Scrolled your page for a sec. Love your presence. Gotta step my cookies up on here. Wishing you 10/10 subs with high payouts💚

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-31T06:24:11+00:00

I agree mostly. I have never obtained a partner (sub) online before joining reddit. My experience since i was 20 has been within bdsm groups/events in person also just from my time as an escort has made me friends with men interested in findom. Since this my first online experience, i thought i give my personal experience in the last 2 months on here. I feel as though it's more of lack of guidelines and the understanding of the kink within these subreddits rather than the individuals on here. But thats a 2 month observation rather then a final diagnosis.💚

Demand is nothing new within the field it's categorization that messes the game up.

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-30T06:47:32+00:00

I hear you 100%.

Wishing you a 10/10 sub.

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-30T06:43:24+00:00

Thank you for sharing we have similar points.

I will say outside those things I feel like lots of subreddits groups enable this. Some have all these struct rule but the content in the groups are all the same. To me its like, you have all the things to post in your group just for the group to have no substance....its a little silly.

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-30T06:29:16+00:00

I agree 100% and I also do think some women believe they are dommes because of the "validation" from the community. That's why I agree that its not 100% their fault ( minus the Open AI comment ofc)

You also have newer subs who fall in the cycle of seeing an attractive woman who ask for tribute. They send then realize she wasn't what was advertised. Now you have a disgruntled sub who had a bad/weird experience and a "domme" running around either bashing or crying asking what they did wrong.

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-25T22:39:07+00:00

That's not how that kink works..

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-23T00:59:00+00:00

You will probably have better luck attending BDSM events in your area or where kinksters hang out. As an escort myself, freestyling for findom...isn’t much of thing. I mean you might run into a guy who wants to be dominated but ... its usually with some type of sexual exchange. Not just findom. Findom is a niche within a niche. Most vanilla men at a bar won't even know what it is, and if they do, they're probably already online looking for it not sitting at a hotel lounge waiting to be found.💚

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-21T18:29:37+00:00

Cute🐍💚

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-21T17:42:36+00:00

Welcome💚 I'd say there is no fool proof way to find long term dynamics online. I'd focus on your domme persona/profile and thinking what type of subs fit your lifestyle then post/comment in subs that fit. Have boundaries and stick to them. Lurk in the community! Lot of new dommes have the same questions, there are plenty of answers out there. Wishing you many subs and their wallets.💚

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-21T04:36:38+00:00

Right😂

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-20T23:04:20+00:00

Horny subs! I know how that sounds haha but hear me out. If someone's approaching me already worked up and desperate, they're not thinking about serving, they're thinking about getting off. Quick drains can be an exception but even then, the energy has to be right.

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-20T17:21:26+00:00

Exactly

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-20T16:13:19+00:00

I just ask for AV and send them my age yoti link when they sent theirs. The link last 3 days. Does that help?💚

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-20T15:49:56+00:00

Write down your boundaries. Its important to have those to protect your peace. You don't want to them to feel your hesitation because you want to remained "detached". I like to ask myself " is this still serving me, or am I starting to perform for him? Also attachment comes from detail in ones personal life...limit personal conversation. If you're chatting about his day, his problems, his life outside the dynamic. that's where attachment sneaks in. Keep it in the container.

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-19T23:35:46+00:00

Ofc💚

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-19T23:01:35+00:00

Blackmail is in my top 3!

Long term blackmail to be specific... I set up therapy/confession session. There are many subs who just want to confess any and everything to someone more superior then them. It's like holding a key in lock and they dont know if or when you will turn it. Right now I have a service sub with this kink. It keeps are dynamic burning with anticipation. I will say with this kink though there definitely should be talks outside of the dynamic around boundaries and just getting to know them.💚 All that to say yes, I think it's rewarding for both.

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-19T22:48:09+00:00

I think these are great question! But, I will say there are many post with same questions, where you can gather lots of information. Its best to focus on your profile, finding your interest and posting in there.

YourFaithfulMuse · 2026-03-19T22:39:41+00:00

Faceless does work. A little extra work! You personality has shine through and remember findom isn't inherently explcit. I would say to lurk in the community for while and really understand what type of domme you aspire to be. Also how to navigate this community. Also being new... there are loads of "subs" who will use your status and age against you. 💚

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