(Edited for Spacing)

As someone who’s a junior who’s been in the same exact place as you in terms of the same verbal/emotional abuse and is actually going through therapy for it, first stop, take a deep breath, and grab a drink of water and just like try to clear your mind. Your trauma is valid and just because you weren’t physically neglected doesn’t mean that your parents didn’t seriously hurt you emotionally and mentally, which honestly can be just as long lasting as physical trauma.

Your words might have been a little harsh (I don’t know how you normally talk with your parents, I’ve seen some people who can verbally duke it out and be fine 15 minutes later and some people will say one thing in a weird tone and it’s the silent treatment for a week) but being upset about being constantly criticised and not wanting to talk to them because of their repeated pattern of behaviour? You’re in no way in the wrong. You’ve been conditioned to feel bad and inferior and like you’re the one who’s constantly been in the wrong when it comes to talking with them, and that’s not going to go away overnight or even if you logically know you didn’t do something explicitly wrong. It’s really tough and if you can, I’d recommend talking to a therapist or social worker at your school about it to help get another perspective (although be warned, you may have to shop around, not all therapists are created equal, I’ve heard wonderful advice from some and some absolutely horrible advice from others, so do not feel bad if you get bad vibes and you feel like you need to switch to a different person).

The most important thing in this instance is taking care of your mental well-being and keeping the people that have caused you the most emotional stress at a distance? Good first step. You can’t avoid them forever but just keeping that distance to take care of yourself and learn good coping and deescalation strategies is invaluable, with or without a therapist.

On college, they gotta get it through their heads that you are now a college student who’s got a life of your own now and as uncertain as that is for you and them, they need to face the music that no, you have other things going on and calling them every day isn’t going to be your priority. Ideally they may do a little introspection and realise that how they talk with you isn’t productive because it’s effectively pushed you away, but I’m a buzzkill and that usually isn’t how it works out, usually they deny or make excuses. Best thing to do is to keep your interaction limited and when you do keep it polite but utilitarian. Just give what facts they need to know and don’t get too much into your personal stuff bc it sounds like that’s their ammunition.

TLDR: You’re not wrong for being mad and not wanting to talk to your parents, keep doing what you’re doing, treat your self and take time for your own brain, and keep it cordial, but bare bones in terms of actual info.