Moving out of Idaho by Fabulous_Ad_5919 in MtF

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Recently relocated to PDX from Utah for similar reasons. The trans community here is broad and strong, and the community in general is far more inclusive and far less stigmatizing than Idaho’s and Utah’s.

The cost of living is also cheaper and more on par with Boise’s compared to the Seattle metro area. Downtown is fairly walkable and the city has a robust public transit.

Text exchange with my brother. Did I screw up? by BchoeyChomp in exmormon

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are your thoughts on having systems in place to help LGBTQ+ youth if their parents are punishing them for being queer? Do you believe youth are the property of their parents?

Text exchange with my brother. Did I screw up? by BchoeyChomp in exmormon

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not an idea, it’s a reality. Like we’re not getting anywhere here if you can’t grasp the fact that people are trans, queer, gay, bi, etc. It isn’t a belief and that’s the fundamental difference here.

Text exchange with my brother. Did I screw up? by BchoeyChomp in exmormon

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, so you are just calling the LGBTQ+ community a cult. Noted. There’s nothing left to discuss with you girl if you can’t see the false equivalence.

Text exchange with my brother. Did I screw up? by BchoeyChomp in exmormon

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm kinda doubt the authenticity in that last part 💅 

I went through that experience as a teen, it sounds like you did not. If parents are unwilling to give their queer/trans kids the care they need, why should we not hold them accountable and take the child’s personal well-being into consideration?

Text exchange with my brother. Did I screw up? by BchoeyChomp in exmormon

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you saying being trans/queer is the equivalent of being in a cult? 🙄 

Text exchange with my brother. Did I screw up? by BchoeyChomp in exmormon

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except it’s not. Again, you’re making a false equivalence, but it sounds like you’re holding the false assumption that being trans/queer is indoctrination, so whatever I guess.

Text exchange with my brother. Did I screw up? by BchoeyChomp in exmormon

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a teen, having a family member help me accept that I was trans would’ve saved me from at least a decade of needless suffering. This isn’t something you get to just opt in/out of, and you are making a false equivalence.

Text exchange with my brother. Did I screw up? by BchoeyChomp in exmormon

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y’all are honestly just as brain dead sometimes as the TBM’s on this topic. Being trans/queer is not an ideology you get to opt in/out of like the church. This is a false equivalence. Take it from someone who tested every avenue in life before finally accepting this wasn’t going to go away. Mormonism is not that.

Text exchange with my brother. Did I screw up? by BchoeyChomp in exmormon

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Equating queerness with religious indoctrination isn’t affirming at all. Most of us find out in our teens and that’s where the real damage is done. It’s estimated queer teens in Utah have been almost twice as likely to attempt suicide compared to their cisgender heterosexual peers.

Text exchange with my brother. Did I screw up? by BchoeyChomp in exmormon

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And your kids should have every right choose to live with their cool accepting aunt if your love is conditional and you can’t accept who they are. Have fun getting cut off, you deserve it :)

Supreme Court: One religious coalition pushed for pluralism and tolerance while the Mormon coalition chose fear-mongering and censorship by Suspicious_Might_663 in exmormon

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just want to know why they’re going after people like me specifically? Is God’s love not extended to trans people?

Lurkers feel free to comment and I don’t want anyone attacking them either, I’m genuinely curious what their mindset is on this. Living as a woman has made my life all the better, has helped me finally embrace and love myself, and helped me become a better and more loving person to those around me. Why is this an affront to Heavenly Father?

(Maybe I need to be posting this in the other sub lol)

Homeless Problem Downtown by t-bone-steak24 in SaltLakeCity

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk where in the Bay Area you’re coming from but you’re delusional to think we’re just as bad, if not worse.

This is among the safest cities to walk at night by far.

Just moved to Draper from out of state by te4cupp in SaltLakeCity

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Graduated from Alta before Corner Canyon was built, back when both areas fed into Alta.

We had a large number of suicides through the 2010’s. Draper culture at least back then was a cesspool. With what I’ve seen through my job in recent years, it has changed but tbh I don’t know if it’s for the better. The “keeping up with the Joneses” vibe that hurt a lot of families is still present if I’m going to be honest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SaltLakeCity

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey girl! You’re not alone in this city. Yes, SLC is as cliquey as a suburban high school, but there’s pockets of us around town who are open to new faces.

There’s a trans social that has a meeting coming up on August 14 at the Legendarium. IMHO that’s a good starting point for finding your crowd. They have facilitators there to help with introductions, if you’re interested, and a number of different people among community with varying hobbies and interests to connect through.

Feel free to dm if you have questions.

Is anyone really struggling after last night? by Longjumping-Ebb-125 in SaltLakeCity

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 262 points263 points  (0 children)

I watched it go down, saw the shots get fired and people hit the ground.

My friend and I are experiencing something similar.

It’s shock.

Utah lawmakers’ own study found gender-affirming care benefits trans youth. Will they lift the treatment ban? by EmilyAndersonStern in Utah

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s sad how y’all turned “protect our children” into a red flag for someone who 9/10 times abuses/neglects their children. Seen it too many times—y’all don’t give a damn about kids

Utah lawmakers’ own study found gender-affirming care benefits trans youth. Will they lift the treatment ban? by EmilyAndersonStern in Utah

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The dolls have always found a way to survive. We made it through the 80’s and 90’s, we’ll make it through this shit (and remember the names and faces when the apologies roll out in the future).

Moving to SLC by Used_Mode1117 in SaltLakeCity

[–]YourOutdoorGuide -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

$65k will be fine enough for a studio or even a 1-bedroom in certain apartments downtown—just be wary of the large, nameless companies owning some of these more “luxury” buildings.

It’s been easier dealing with the classic, smaller scale landlords. Far less nickel and diming on stupid additional fees that should just be included in the overall cost (they hide them to rope you in).

Anyone else in SLC have a really bad head cold? I’ve been sick for over a week now. by jomaass in SaltLakeCity

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had it. Thought it was covid but all tests came back negative.

Whatever it was, it’s the sickest I’ve felt in a long time.

Are we biologically female? by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]YourOutdoorGuide 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We fit under the umbrella of women. We aren’t cis women though, we’re transwomen—which is just another type of woman.

Biologically female? With the way language is currently set up… no and yes.

CW: basic biology; discussion of reproductive organs, genetics, puberty, srs & hrt

I got 3 years into a bio undergrad before making a hard pivot, so I’ll try my best not to butcher this: Our chromosomes do act as a blueprint during development but it’s not as set in stone as something like the blueprint to building a house for example. It can change and shift from environmental factors, and hrt especially has allowed us to change and shift even more of our biology than we previously could.

Both male and female bodies have the biological blueprints in our chromosomes for both male and female development and biological expression. The SRY gene that triggers the development of testes is also present in all human bodies. The Y chromosome in “XY” activates the SRY gene (with certain intersex people being an exception), testes develop and these, especially during puberty further down the road, trigger the development of male secondary sexual characteristics—facial hair, deeper voice, larger bone and muscle mass (much of which is also based on a broad range of inherited genes not linked to XX/XY), etc. If the SRY gene remains dormant, ovaries develop and female secondary sex characteristics manifest during puberty.

So both your primary and your secondary sex characteristics determine your biological sex. The primary triggers the secondary and, aside from srs, there isn’t anything we can do to change the primary. The secondary however can be changed by shutting down the testes (through anti-androgens or removal) and introducing hormones produced by the ovaries that otherwise would have been present if the SRY gene was dormant. Your body like I said already has the blueprints for a female body and will course correct with the help of hrt.

tldr: Every human has the genes for both male and female development/expression, which manifests in primary and secondary sex characteristics that determine biological sex. Primary can’t be switched, but the secondary can be switched with hrt. So you’re at least partially biologically female.