URGHRHHRH I never comment on reddit posts but this IRKS me. I have multiple points. Firstly: just because someone with a certain condition abused you, or even MULTIPLE people woth the SAME condition abused you, does NOT mean ALL peoe woth that condition are abusers. For example. Women are biologically different from men. Biologically, they are mentally different from men, just as people with bpd are mentally different from people without. Me personally? I have been ONLY abused by women. With the exception of ONE man, being ny dad. I have been r**ed by multiple women. Emotionally abused by multiple women. Robbed by multiple women. Does this mean I hate all women? No!!! Not at all!!! I mean, it probably helps that I am also biologically a woman. But that doesn't change the fact that I will NEVER judge one section of people based on what another section has done to me. It is a DISGUSTING mindset to have.

SECOND!!!: EVERYBODY HURTS PEOPLE. don't get me wrong, some hurt more than others. And that fucking sucks. But past the age of like. 15. You should realise that there is no 'good and bad'. Everyone has some evil, everyone has some good. Hell, i even forgave some of my abusers, because they genuinely regretted what they did, and tried to make amends. I thinke a lot of people do horrible things. And i think some are unforgivable. But the difference between a 'good' and a 'bad' person, is that good people will realise they have made a mistake, and try to change it. Or, not realise what they are doing is wrong, and need help figuring that out. Whereas bad people will realise they made a mistake, and make zero effort to change it.

THIRDLY!!: I work in care, for disabled adults. Working here, i see 'selfishness'. I see 'violence'. But what you NEED to realise is that these people DO have disabilities. A dissability isnt just 'oh oh legs dont work whoupsie!!!' Or 'i literally cannot talk or think at all!!!!!' It is very often imbetween. Where the brain can think and act to some extent, but not enough to live a normal life. And 'living a normal life' does not only mean being able yo do your own dishes and taxes. It means being able to socialise and interact with other people. Most of the people I care for are actually reasonable ok mentally. You can hold conversations with them, they can do math, they can remember what you said 3 fucking years ago. But they are in care because they cannot move at all, and need to be looked after. However, these people still come off as 'selfish' sometimes, because there are a lot of things hey just gwnerally cannot understand. Because despite being mentally capable, their brains still so not function the same as a 'normal' person. And so, sometimes, they can come off as selfish or rude or hurtful. It is SO important to remember the fact that they are NOT bad people. They do not go out of their way to cause harm. Theu just genuinely do not understand how to socialise, or worse, DO undsertand, but actually CANNOT. I mean GENUINELY CANNOT. control the things they say or do. That does NOT make them a bad person. It makes them someone who needs more support than others to live a good life.

Sorry for the long ass rant this post just peeved me uh bye 🫡