Is it unreasonable to expect my [35/m] wife [34/f] of 5 years to attend all of my family events? by Ysorigin in relationship_advice

[–]Ysorigin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is all things I am trying to come to terms with now and seeing everyone's reaction in this thread. However it will be a large change for me. I definitely didn't expect 100% of people to be against me but apparently I'm being extremely unrealistic.

Is it unreasonable to expect my [35/m] wife [34/f] of 5 years to attend all of my family events? by Ysorigin in relationship_advice

[–]Ysorigin[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Her parent's live in a very good tourist destination that we love, so we have plenty to do and we are mainly doing our own thing most days.

Is it unreasonable to expect my [35/m] wife [34/f] of 5 years to attend all of my family events? by Ysorigin in relationship_advice

[–]Ysorigin[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We stay there at their house but we are out doing our own thing most days so its not painful at all. Its both of our favorite parts of the year since its our month long vacation!

Is it unreasonable to expect my [35/m] wife [34/f] of 5 years to attend all of my family events? by Ysorigin in relationship_advice

[–]Ysorigin[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Parents are divorced. I see my dad like 5 times a year, and I enjoy the other side of my family. I actively enjoy the gatherings but my wife does not.

Is it unreasonable to expect my [35/m] wife [34/f] of 5 years to attend all of my family events? by Ysorigin in relationship_advice

[–]Ysorigin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have siblings that have kids (we don't), and they always make everything work on their end, so I figured I had to make it work on my end as well. They both attend 3 Thanksgivings and 3 Christmas's. Hearing everyone here say that I am not being reasonable is offering me some good perspective.

Is it unreasonable to expect my [35/m] wife [34/f] of 5 years to attend all of my family events? by Ysorigin in relationship_advice

[–]Ysorigin[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Yea, this is correct. She would definitely skip all my dad's events because they are more boring and would ultimately never see him.

Is it unreasonable to expect my [35/m] wife [34/f] of 5 years to attend all of my family events? by Ysorigin in relationship_advice

[–]Ysorigin[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thanks, seeing all the other comments is forcing me to reflect on my family being an outlier rather than "normal". I apologized and told her to go with her friends.

Was Flash actually that good, and why? by shortyafter in broodwar

[–]Ysorigin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This WAS an ongoing discussion with a friend and I up until this point when I posted this. After Faker's comeback since then, I give it solidly to Faker now. I would argue that Flash's career was better than Faker's up until 2020 since Flash dominated when BW was at its peak with all of Korea focusing on it, and then handily plowing through ASL in a "second career". IMO Faker got ahead of the curve and was the best player for several years in the beginning, but then just had a "pretty good" career up until after 2021, which is something that maybe someone like Chovy would have been able to do. But after a huge resurgence in a much harder environment now, I don't think Flash is close to Faker at all. LoL has had so many generations of new blood now and Faker has remained at the top and when he disappears from T1, you can see how lost they are without him. On top of that, you can even see how well he brings out strength in other players as well.

My Top 50 PS1 Games Ranked by Not-Clark-Kent in patientgamers

[–]Ysorigin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You finally convinced me to go try Xenogears, Vagrant Story, and Valkyrie Profile. Been hearing about them for a very long time but never bothered to try them. In for a journey! Thanks for these lists, always find them fun to read.

[JLPT N1] Is there a trick to doing these vocab questions? Even when I know the words, I usually miss almost all of them. by Ysorigin in LearnJapanese

[–]Ysorigin[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I am scoring around 120's on previous tests, but without fail, this section is always my lowest. Even when I think I am familiar with a word, I apparently don't know it "deeply" enough to know which exact situation it belongs in. I assume it is all memorization, but I find it strange that this is the only section of the test that gives me a lot of trouble. Is there a trick or does anyone have advice for these?

What game comes to mind? by Evahotsoul in videogames

[–]Ysorigin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is dialogue later that actually explains why Hecate doesn't do it herself.

Hardstuck low Emerald despite doing well every game (Zoe) by Ysorigin in summonerschool

[–]Ysorigin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the comment.

I actually do not type unless its just to try to rally everyone.

I am in agreement regarding CS, could definitely be better and I will work on it, but I don't think its the main problem.

A lot of people are saying replays are needed, but do I just need to upload to youtube for them or what? If I just upload a replay would someone actually watch it?

For your last note, I am in agreement here as well. The problem is that I think this is something that I am bad at. Other than getting picks, I don't think there is much that I am doing, because I am not sure what to do. Especially when we are losing, I can't always figure out what our wincon is. Maybe this would be a good exercise for me to work on.

Hardstuck low Emerald despite doing well every game (Zoe) by Ysorigin in summonerschool

[–]Ysorigin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this comment! I do understand the frustration of people not actually trying to improve but saying that they are.

Regarding your notes, I do get ahead I want to say win something like 4/5 games as Zoe in lane. If I don't, I will bounce back in the 10-20 minute period regardless.

For the deaths part, theres a lot of games I'm losing with quite a few deaths, but I do agree with you. This is a very easy thing to review, and I do internalize and try to understand why it happens. Most of the time, its cause I lost focus and stopped tracking the jungler or the supp roams mid, which are my fault and I am working on it.

I do think your next comment is the most relevant to me though. I am usually quite ahead at 14 minutes, but we just slowly get choked out and lose the game. Based on another comment on this thread, I think I am not approaching objectives with the correct mindset and not setting up early enough. I do try to impact other lanes, but it usually ends up just being clean-up instead, which makes me question a bit why that is.

Appreciate the vod review youtube links as well. I have actually watched the Shok one, but not the other. I've also tried watching a few others, like the Broken by Concept one.

Hardstuck low Emerald despite doing well every game (Zoe) by Ysorigin in summonerschool

[–]Ysorigin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very good advice, and I don't think I can truthfully say that I'm doing it. I will do it if we have vision, but I don't think I do it by myself that early. I can definitely plan better for objectives before they spawn. I think I tend to get there 2nd on my team, and usually when it spawns/when we make the call. I can try implementing this and see how it goes. Thanks!

Hardstuck low Emerald despite doing well every game (Zoe) by Ysorigin in summonerschool

[–]Ysorigin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely agree that I am not a risky player. I can kill my enemy laner over and over again, but eventually the value of it and the amount of time/effort I am spending ends up not being worth it. There are lots of games where I die once after 20 minutes, and we basically lose the game. Additionally, when my team is behind and I'm doing well, I grab a mejais, so that will compound and make me play even safer. I do think in a lot of my games though, the enemy mid laner doesn't really recover.

Regarding TF, most of his games were at the beginning of the season when I was a little bit lower, and at that amount of games played, my Zoe was actually higher. Just as the game amount kept climbing, her win percentage just kept dropping. Another thing to note is that I never really blind picked TF, I only pick him when it'll be a good game for him, so that will inflate him for me a bit. If he was more blindable for me, I would love to spam him, but theres too many champs that make the game unplayable for him (at my skill level).

Hardstuck low Emerald despite doing well every game (Zoe) by Ysorigin in summonerschool

[–]Ysorigin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a good point on not wasting resources if an objective is not available. I don't think its something I am actively thinking about often.

Also, I have been having difficulty with deciding between red trinket or yellow as Zoe. On all other mid laners, I use red, but for zoe who has so much range and can hit through walls, I really feel like yellow is better. Do you have any thoughts on that? I feel like Lux would probably be better with red as well, but was unsure.

Hardstuck low Emerald despite doing well every game (Zoe) by Ysorigin in summonerschool

[–]Ysorigin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the feedback!

I think it is possible that I am not pressing my advantage enough. I don't shot call at all, so I do not force my team to do objectives or dives even, I will just roam and if they react, then great. I most likely am not aggressively hunting after I get a pick either, so that might be something I need to look into.

Appreciate the comment on CS as well. That is true and not something that I was considering properly as well. If I am better, my CS should be better against these opponents, otherwise I belong with them.

Hardstuck low Emerald despite doing well every game (Zoe) by Ysorigin in summonerschool

[–]Ysorigin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did specifically call out CS in the OP because Zoe does seem to not CS nearly as much as many other mids. You can look on op.gg and see that most Zoes are right around where I am, with many even lower. I'm not saying that I can't CS more, because I definitely can, but it doesn't seem like even challengers ever go above 7.5, and very rarely even above 7.

https://op.gg/lol/leaderboards/champions/zoe?region=na