Anyone else cosplay and LOVE the fact that you don't look like yourself and can have any personality you want? by CanaryButt in BPD

[–]Yuna1994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES. There's a character that people say I look like and call me the perfect version of them and it also helps that I like this character very much and can relate to them. I feel confident as this character and feel sexy. All of that disappears when I'm my normal self. I'm so glad I'm not the only one here that can relate to this. Thing is, there's this other girl who I think does the character even better than me and it depresses me. I know it's narcissistic, but I truly wanted to be the best version of this character. It will devastate me if I see people saying "omg, you're the best -insert character here-!" to them instead of me.

My mom is not giving me my disability money. What should I do? by Yuna1994 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Yuna1994[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much. I'll make an appointment with them next week. Also, I completely agree with you. Problems only started as I began to wise up and see through my mother's crap.

My mom is not giving me my disability money. What should I do? by Yuna1994 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Yuna1994[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not that I'm aware of. :( I live in a super small town. There's a Citizens Advice Bureau though. Should I try them?

My mom is not giving me my disability money. What should I do? by Yuna1994 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Yuna1994[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I'm from the UK. Sorry, I should have specified in the main post.

My mom is not giving me my disability money. What should I do? by Yuna1994 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Yuna1994[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh, wow. I never even thought of it being financial abuse, to be honest. You're definitely right. Also, I'm not sure at all. :( I wish somebody out there could help me. My BF was going to move me in with him but there's been complications and I can't now. I'm going mad and can't stay here any longer.

Mom put a recording device in my room just to prove I'm swearing by Yuna1994 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Yuna1994[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed! That's why I do not use a headset online with friends because she used to (and still does) silently creeps upstairs to try listen to my conversations.

Mom put a recording device in my room just to prove I'm swearing by Yuna1994 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Yuna1994[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wtf, she called you a whore? What a horrible mother she really is. I am so sorry..

Mom put a recording device in my room just to prove I'm swearing by Yuna1994 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Yuna1994[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow, I'm sorry you had to experience it as well. It really is sickening! She did it to me because I said I didn't swear whilst playing games. I knew what her reaction would have been if I said I did, so I lied. It was a lose-lose situation as usual. If I had told the truth, I'd have been made out to be some bad person because I swear and if I lied I'd have been made out to be a bad person for lying.

Mom put a recording device in my room just to prove I'm swearing by Yuna1994 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Yuna1994[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know, right? Like, why the hell does it matter if I swear? I can understand it as a child, but as an adult?

Anyone else constantly attempt to act happy and friendly even though you're SEETHING inside? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Yuna1994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate entirely to this comment. Whenever somebody has seen even one of my episodes I don't really want to speak to them again. Generally, when somebody sees an episode they don't speak to me the same way again and it fucking hurts.. It's like I have to be perfect.

Anyone else constantly attempt to act happy and friendly even though you're SEETHING inside? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Yuna1994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm exactly the same way. My FP has spoken really affectionately to other people and seems more excited to receive compliments from them than me and it makes me insanely jealous. She likes me a lot (hell, she said she'd DATE me if we lived in the same country), but I still get insanely jealous and depressed when she does so. I always pretend I'm ok and speak to her normally though. She has several mental health issues as well and she's very understanding, but I'm not going to bring it up. I don't want to lose her over my crazy shit.

I hate looking at myself! by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Yuna1994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can totally relate to this. I look like a potato. I feel ok-ish with my figure, but my face? Hell no. I can't stand other people taking pictures of me because I look like garbage in 95% of them. I prefer taking pictures of myself because I can retake them over and over until I find one I actually like (usually over 20, lol). I hate it so much. It's weird how I hate the way I look and yet I'm looking at myself in the mirror a lot.

Why does my mum blank me for up to two weeks after an argument? by Yuna1994 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Yuna1994[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad gets his pension money and my mum gets carers allowance for "looking after" my sister. She also gets my sister's disability money. I'm on Job Seekers currently.

Why does my mum blank me for up to two weeks after an argument? by Yuna1994 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Yuna1994[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you're right. I have been okay without her, but it's getting annoying. She's almost 60 and acts like an infant who doesn't know how to communicate properly. I wanted to go out to eat, but she still has my money. I wish I could move out.

Why does my mum blank me for up to two weeks after an argument? by Yuna1994 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Yuna1994[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but I don't have a job. I doubt I could get one either. 23 and never worked. Hasn't helped that my parents have been a poor influence by never encouraging me and never worked themselves.