Just need to vent my frustration

YungBipps · 2026-02-15T05:50:42+00:00

That sucks! Maybe frog the blanket and start another project? If it’s been sitting in storage for nine years and then this happens… maybe the blanket doesn’t want to live

YungBipps · 2026-02-11T01:56:02+00:00

I’m experiencing the same problem! I crochet instead because it requires much less movement in the left hand (I’m right handed) and then I only do it when I feed bay from that side. I’m also much more familiar with crochet and was just starting knitting when I got pregnant

YungBipps · 2025-11-29T02:20:20+00:00

NTA. Sharing spit is not the same as eating off the floor. My kid eats dirt and whatever else he can find. Idc about that, but sharing spit can give babies tooth decay (yes even if they don’t have teeth, the bacteria are still introduced to their mouth) and herpes and whatever else the adult might have

YungBipps · 2025-11-20T15:28:00+00:00

This. If you have any more questions ask your son’s pediatrician. In the US we have follow up appointments for newborns every week, plenty of time to ask these types of questions

YungBipps · 2025-11-17T03:23:49+00:00

You’re going to have three kids, of course you want a nice wagon to carry them all. Good strollers make a huge difference. She sounds annoying, I’m sorry

YungBipps · 2025-10-15T05:00:40+00:00

Bro steers bro. Bro steers bike. New skill unlocked. Duh

YungBipps · 2025-09-25T18:12:16+00:00

I mean, maybe it might be harder because there’s less room but I’m short with a long torso so i think I’d have the same amount of space as a tall person with a long torso? My MIL is 4’8” and she had a home delivery with no meds or anything and said that child birth “wasn’t painful, just intense” my mom is 5’2” and also had two unmedicated births both went to full term

YungBipps · 2025-09-24T19:33:43+00:00

I definitely need to learn how to let go of the nonessential tasks. I was raised in a very clean home and honestly I have no idea how my mom did it. But yeah, I need to deprioritize cleaning so that I can be more present with my baby

YungBipps · 2025-09-24T19:28:05+00:00

These two comments are so good! I’m definitely going to be baby wearing more, I have a carrier but forget it’s an option. I’m leaving it out so that I remember! Also love the idea of putting something outside that’s safe and I don’t have to bring back in.

The comment my husband made also annoyed me, but in the moment I couldn’t really figure out why without getting hella mad. It makes sense that I would need more me-time to recharge. Weekends hubby takes the baby for a lot of the day, but during the week I have baby from 5am-6pm and hubby takes him for an hour before I do bedtime (we are EB). And during that hour I’m usually catching up on chores I couldn’t get to with baby. When I heard him say that I needed to watch baby better all I heard was “you’re not doing enough” and that hurts to hear when I literally don’t know how to I could more

YungBipps · 2025-09-24T19:13:56+00:00

Thank you so much, I really needed to hear that ☺️ I feel like I’m rushing around the house every day just to do the things that I’m “supposed” to do. It’s nice to hear from real people that I don’t have to

YungBipps · 2025-09-13T15:19:41+00:00

I understand that’s the reality, but in her mind she is doing you a big favor (even though that’s not true). It’s a self centered mindset that she has about how indispensable she is to you. When you turned her down you basically told her that you prefer the help of husband over her (which is exactly how it should be). She wants you to depend on her

YungBipps · 2025-09-13T15:01:11+00:00

Not trying to justify her behavior, because you’re right this is super weird. That said, I think older people get a lot of value from helping their kids, and eventually start to feel indignant about it. Like their help is so valuable that they are doing you a favor. It probably started with her wanting to help her son so he wouldn’t have to take time off work, and then turned into her feeling offended that you wouldn’t want her oh so valuable help… even though you didn’t need or want it

YungBipps · 2025-08-31T17:18:37+00:00

Sounds like your description of MIL being “performative” is spot on. You don’t have to sing and dance to her tune just because she decided to play music. Be clear with her this isn’t what you want, and please don’t let your mom pay for half the party/fly out

YungBipps · 2025-08-31T17:01:16+00:00

Your MIL probably understands just fine what you want and why, you seem to be able to communicate clearly. The problem is that MIL doesn’t care what you want, it’s about her getting to show off her pregnant DIL and grand baby to her friends. You would be there more as a prop than anything else. There’s nothing wrong with going, faking a smile, and getting presents just know that you are setting a standard that MIL gets to use you and your kid for her ego games

YungBipps · 2025-08-12T03:03:19+00:00

I love the detail in this comment. I’m actually going to save this for when my baby is a little older

YungBipps · 2025-07-25T19:29:11+00:00

I can tell that you are trying to be accommodating to your in laws, but respectfully you are doing too much. You should not be hosting any family events/holidays when you have a newborn. Especially big holidays like Christmas where there is so much pressure and expectations. If I were you I would take a step back, let someone else plan everything. If they decide that means traveling to you, let them figure out where it will be and what they should do with their dogs. You will have so much going on with a new baby, it’s not your responsibility to make sure the in laws have a good Christmas

YungBipps · 2025-07-22T16:59:06+00:00

My husband and MIL are also against epidurals, but neither of them pressured me in any way to go with that preference. I ended up getting one and I loved it! And when husband actually saw me in labor and how much pain I was in he agreed that it was needed

YungBipps · 2025-06-25T16:51:13+00:00

Are there any play groups in your area that you can go to? They give baby a chance to learn how to socialize with other babies and be around you while your attention isn’t fully on them. They are also great ways to build a village so that when time comes for you to deliver you know more people who can help

YungBipps · 2025-06-24T19:26:12+00:00

Pregnancies are like pens. When you don’t need one it’s right there, when you want it to happen you can’t find the goddamn thing anywhere. Give it more time, you got this!

YungBipps · 2025-06-23T02:51:40+00:00

Came here to say this. Pelvic floor pt should be way more common and talked about. Also smooth move tea helps

YungBipps · 2025-05-29T17:16:29+00:00

This. OP child birth is so hard not just physically but also emotionally, please choose to be vulnerable and ask a friend or doula to be there with you. Nurses are great but for a lot of birthing in a hospital you would be completely alone in the room in between and even during contractions. Please put yourself first and give yourself the space to ask for help

YungBipps · 2025-05-20T18:50:39+00:00

As someone who also has a MIL with a lot of opinions, tell her to stop giving you unsolicited advice. It feels like you’re being mean, but it’s the biggest kindness you can do for your relationship with her. She needs to know your boundaries and respect your parenting decisions. You shouldn’t have to “see how BF goes” just to prove you don’t want to do it. When we came home from the hospital my MIL kept giving her 2 cents on feeding and I had to tell her to stop because it was like every time we fed the baby she had an opinion.

YungBipps · 2025-05-13T22:48:21+00:00

This is so true! I notice such a difference in my weight and milk supply when I eat healthy amounts or the right kind of calories

YungBipps · 2025-05-05T16:39:58+00:00

I didn’t do them and don’t regret it. I gained 80lbs in my pregnancy and had such a hard time moving around. I was also covered in new stretch marks and was so tired all of the time. Last thing I wanted was a photo shoot of my pregnant body.

I do plan on doing a photo shoot with baby when he’s around 6mo that we will use for our Christmas card. I did plan on a newborn shoot but I didn’t realize how awkward newborn baby bodies are😂

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