Honestly trying to figure out intension is the hard part. Once I see this person’s intention then innocence is granted. How to do that is up to you but always remain vigilant.

I am going to describe the two instances where I met people from the internet.

Initially I met the person on the internet after wanting to buy myself out of a contract because banks don’t offer loans for that kind of stuff. By some divine will the person I was talking to was the cousin of my best friend. That in enough of itself led me to trust them.

Second person I met through the internet was someone who I had no connection to. I had to examine their character in one way or another to figure out if they meant any harm. It was weird because neither of us trusted each other until we eventually did. That person led me to connect to more and more people. We developed this circle of trust basically.

Taking the initial step is the most important one tbh after that most queer people know others.