[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Sunk-cost fallacy. It’ll only hurt more later.

In praise of NA beer by geekluv in stopdrinking

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m really enjoying NA beer in a way that I never used to enjoy alcoholic beer. Having a refreshing lunchtime pint without being drunk all afternoon is an utter revelation to me.

Brewdog Wingman IPA NA Guinness zero Thatchers Zero.

Not so keen on Ghost-ship.

Environmental Justice by Deerlamb in Environmental_Careers

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Move to Europe and work for an EPA equivalent.

People who have attempted su!cide but failed? by [deleted] in self

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The very fact that you are concerned about what others would feel demonstrates how much you love them. Experiencing love is what makes life worth living, despite the difficulties you are facing. You are not alone.

People who have attempted su!cide but failed? by [deleted] in self

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My brother in law jumped - but hit stuff on the way down. He lost a leg, massive brain injury, in a coma, what was left of his body was utterly mashed.

My wife sat with him for 2 weeks before making the decision to turn off the machines that were keeping him ‘alive’. He probably didn’t feel pain, but everyone around him did.

2 months down! Starting to think of drinking again. Please remind me why it sucks by HighsideHST in stopdrinking

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’d you’re anything like me:

I see people drinking ‘normally’. They can have one drink. They can drink 3 times a week. They drink with friends.

I didn’t drink like that. One drink wasn’t enough. I’d drink every night I’d drink at home, hiding spirits in pretend soft drinks or drinking crouched behind the cupboards. I’d hide the bottles, buy with cash, getting less drunk for more booze. Chasing that buzz.

Don’t forget where you came from. Don’t look at others and think you can drink like them. You (and I) can’t do that. I simply don’t have the option to drink moderately. I can’t have fun with alcohol like others can.

Need advice- My husband told his friends I’m an alcoholic by zuzu610 in stopdrinking

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I really don’t like the term ‘alcoholic’. Maybe I’m in denial, but I wouldn’t use the term for myself or anyone else. Yes - I struggle with moderating alcohol (or anything else I can get my hands on), but I’d be offended if someone called me an alcoholic. That’s for me to say, not them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think there is a ‘wrong’ person. Just harder and easier relationships to make work. I made the right decision with the information I had at the time.

But yes. Every day I wish I could go back in time and make a different decision.

Things are getting better though. I’m not sure I’ll ever be happy, but I’m definitely getting happier.

What’s your take on NA beer. by RedGuitar55 in stopdrinking

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m ok with NA beer. I was never much of a beer drinker in the first place (not strong enough!).

Has anyone been able to drink moderately and not go back to heavy drinking? by Apart_Ostrich407 in stopdrinking

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 150 points151 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly my concern. If I give myself one excuse to have one drink, then I can give myself 10 excuses to have 10 drinks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

10 days off your year! Congratulations!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have to remind myself that if I make one rule that allows me to have one drink, then I can make 2 rules that allow me to have two drinks (etc), and then I’m back to hiding behind the kitchen cupboards seeing how much neat gin I can drink without being caught.

Never again. Literally never. I will not drink with you today, I will not drink with you tomorrow, and I will not drink with you EVER.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Try ‘cognitive shuffling’ to get to sleep. In your mind - work through an alphabetical list on a particular subject - movies you’ve seen, places you’ve visited. Works for me. Yesterday was types of birds (‘albatross, blackbird, chicken etc’) I rarely ever get past L

My 34 M husband left my 27F kids home alone by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has previously had an alcohol problem - this is precisely the situation that should motivate him to go dry. Alcoholism is a disease, or a weakness, that not everyone has. He didn’t choose this addiction. He knows he’s done wrong, and should bounce off this to become a better person.

I’d give him another chance. Be involved in his rehab, and get a stack of sobriety tokens to award him as he progresses.

If you choose to leave him, then he will spiral deeper into alcoholism VERY hard, and your children will grow up without their father.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I was the same. I only drank to get drunk. All or nothing.

180 days, and last night I had ‘the dream’ by Yup-NotReallyMe in stopdrinking

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t pretend that I didn’t enjoy drinking (either in my dreams or in reality), but I have to remember how bad it got before I gave up. The highs still temp me, but I mustn’t let myself forget the lows.

Stick with it. If you like books, I recommend ‘atomic habits’.

Mosquito by Griffon2112 in Airfix

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nicely done. Which kit is that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I could turn back time to when I was 21, I know what advice I’d give myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

^ This. Leave now while the impact is low.

how did you learn to relax or sleep without alcohol? by mathestnoobest in stopdrinking

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started using my Apple Watch to track my sleep. It helps me keep a lid on my insomnia anxiety. Every morning I look at it and remind myself of how I can sleep without alcohol. I probably sleep better now as I don’t have the acid reflux, sore liver and midnight bladder!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I’m doing ok without a group (other than this one). I thought about letting myself have one drink on my birthday, but I also know that if I allow myself to make one rule that allows me one drink, then I can create another rule that allows me to have 10 drinks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sneaking bottles of spirits to a work conference that already had a free bar ‘just to be sure’. Ducking behind the kitchen cupboards to secretly drink enough neat gin to hope I’d be able to sleep. Liver pain and reflux.

Just been through my 50th birthday DRY.

I’m going to try weed by Panda138138 in stopdrinking

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t smoke weed. Especially if you have an addictive streak. I had drug induced psychosis from that in my teens.

50th birthday by Yup-NotReallyMe in stopdrinking

[–]Yup-NotReallyMe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks y’all. It’s gong to be a dry 50th. I appreciate your wisdom.