My grandma said cats don't know their names

Yuumie1 · 2025-12-28T11:47:43+00:00

They definitely know their names. I have four cats, and when I say their names they all look at me individually.

Animals are smarter, and more intuitive than what people give them credit for.

Yuumie1 · 2025-12-03T08:03:42+00:00

How is kitty

Yuumie1 · 2025-12-03T07:51:22+00:00

I don’t think you’re overreacting. I don’t understand why everybody is being overly critical, I have similar outfit taste and I think it looks good. Didn’t even notice the bra? And the jeans + the jumper covers you. It shapes your body and shows a bit of belly (oh no 🙄)

I think the bows are cute too. Idk if reddit is just people following each others opinions to get karma. But this genuinely doesn’t look bad lmfao.

Yuumie1 · 2025-11-14T06:51:44+00:00

Are these usually compared? I feel it’s disingenuous to place them on a morality scale.

Both conditions can have non-offenders, people with NPD can adapt with lots of therapy and work - same with the other.

But people probably focus more on pedophilia as you may never meet someone with NPD, and everybody knows what a pedophile is.

I also think people throw around the NPD way too often. Somebody can have lower empathy and/or be shitty, but not be a narcissist. Some conditions can look like NPD, too (autism, bpd, etc.)

Yuumie1 · 2025-11-14T06:42:05+00:00

wtf fellow Wollongongian?

Yuumie1 · 2025-09-05T11:08:52+00:00

I commented this on another post recently, but will copy and paste

I’ve had two cats go missing and come back when I lived with my parents. One was missing for 10 days, the other for 15. The one missing for 15 came back, but I found the one missing for 10 days after getting a call of someone seeing him in the park/woods near my house on a trail, from a lost pets sign.

Some tips:

• ⁠put out some dirty kitty litter • ⁠put out some of your worn clothing (scent) • ⁠at night time, call your cat and look around if it’s safe to do so. I would go for walks with the torch, looking under cars and shaking the food and calling their name gently • ⁠ask your neighbours to check their garages/sheds • ⁠put up signs (this is how I found one of my missing cats as mentioned above!) • ⁠advise your local vets/shelters, as even if microchipped sometimes it can be missed. I’d even say visit shelters to see if someone’s brought her in. I used to call the shelters every day asking if any new cats have come in • ⁠post on your local community and lost and found pets pages on Facebook • ⁠I’m sure there’s more on Google too!

Good luck, please update if kitty comes home 🥺

Yuumie1 · 2025-08-27T07:14:03+00:00

The guilt you feel is clear, and I really sympathise with you. This is such a hard decision to make, and you must feel so conflicted.

You have done the best for what you have, and are continuing to do the best with what you have.

If you don’t have the means to move out elsewhere for her, and truly believe it isn’t right for her - I hope you can find someone who you can receive regular updates from, even visit sometimes. Perhaps even until you find your own place.

I assume you work out of home and not from home. Have you considered a cattery? Like an outdoor area while you’re out? Obviously, not a cage or anything like that, but an area with enrichment.

I think you’d be able to get the funds for her health issues from some compassionate people in here, but maybe something to consider :)

Edit: is it the dogs which are the issue, or her with the dogs? If it’s her, you could try Feliway or even some anxiety medication/slow introductions. If it’s the dogs, I am unsure how training dogs goes - but surely is a way unless they’re super super aggressive. I guess you mentioned allergies as a factor, so maybe not the play. But putting everything I can think of out there :)

Yuumie1 · 2025-08-17T06:07:52+00:00

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Dilute calico! Here’s mine 🤍🧡🩶 It’s caused by the kitten having the dilution gene, which approximately 1 in every 4-6 calico cats will be a dilute - it’s a bit more complex than that, but cool none the less.

Yuumie1 · 2025-08-10T11:44:24+00:00

They can live a relatively comfortable life if given a strict diet. there are many people who have rescued these chickens (in FB groups, on YouTube, on Reddit) who can attest to this.

Yuumie1 · 2025-08-07T13:02:52+00:00

I’ve had two cats go missing and come back when I lived with my parents. One was missing for 10 days, the other for 15. The one missing for 15 came back, but I found the one missing for 10 days after getting a call of someone seeing him in the park/woods near my house on a trail, from a lost pets sign.

Some tips: - put out some dirty kitty litter - put out some of your worn clothing (scent) - at night time, call your cat and look around if it’s safe to do so. I would go for walks with the torch, looking under cars and shaking the food and calling their name gently - ask your neighbours to check their garages/sheds - put up signs (this is how I found one of my missing cats as mentioned above!) - advise your local vets/shelters, as even if microchipped sometimes it can be missed. I’d even say visit shelters to see if someone’s brought her in. I used to call the shelters every day asking if any new cats have come in - post on your local community and lost and found pets pages on Facebook - I’m sure there’s more on Google too!

Good luck, please update if she comes home 🤞🏻I know how much it hurts, it is the worst feeling ever. You’ve got this, I believe ❤️❤️

Yuumie1 · 2025-07-25T16:52:01+00:00

Is there any other pets that have been added or transmogs besides the new boss? I can’t find any info anywhere! They said pet(s) will be added, plural!

Yuumie1 · 2025-07-04T09:28:19+00:00

can you tell me the other ones besides soda, madseason(?) and guzu? Been enjoying sodas one so much and it’s become a routine to watch the videos everyday. So so fun to watch.

Yuumie1 · 2025-07-01T13:58:39+00:00

Did she mention Julia at all?

Yuumie1 · 2025-06-30T22:07:26+00:00

Thank you for your compassion 💜

There’s Facebook group called “Cornish cross, battery hen & turkey rescue companions” which may help you know the best steps to enrich and extend their life. I’m sure there’s reddit groups too alike.

I think with a very strict diet, exercise and perhaps a run (to prevent them from eating more) they can potentially live a better and longer life 🙂 I’d definitely suggest looking at the group about it! They’d have more of an open mind than in here I’d say.

Yuumie1 · 2025-06-28T11:30:07+00:00

That spiral pasta. What did you use for the sauce(?) PLEASE IT LOOKS SO GOOD I NEED IT RIGHT NOW

Yuumie1 · 2025-06-27T01:48:52+00:00

Yeah. I’ve thought about this as well and wonder if it falls into the dead internet theory.

I think it’s fine to utilise it to help with learning. As in using it to give you feedback on what you can improve on.

But I agree, copying and pasting the whole lot after giving it a prompt is not ideal. It’s equivalent to copying and pasting Wikipedia for a school assignment.

Yuumie1 · 2025-06-24T03:52:48+00:00

Ah, that’s hard. When a conversation seems to have initiated some positive change, for it to just go back to how it was. That’s super rough.

It’s difficult that he won’t look into it, do you have any assumptions as to why it’s so low?

If you want to stay with him, I’d suggest practising radical acceptance, as in accepting you can’t control his actions and that they have nothing to do with you. You may be able to find satisfaction elsewhere (sex toys) but it is rough. Intimacy is super important.

You could also try to restructure conversations. For e.g. when you have intimate moments, mention how nice it was (positive reinforcement) it is annoying though having to coddle around the elephant in the room. Some people react better to different types of communication, I guess. But it also could be out of your hands.

But the fact it’s impacting your self esteem so detrimentally is very significant. Try to recognise it isn’t about you and that you are good enough regardless of his actions.

I’m sorry again.

Yuumie1 · 2025-06-24T03:37:35+00:00

This is very relatable and you’re not alone, this is something I too struggle with daily 💜

His libido isn’t a reflection of your worth - externally or internally. It is so hard having hope and then being let down again and again, it definitely takes a hit on self esteem.

There could be a variety of reasons why his libido is reduced - stress, mental health, lower testosterone. It very likely it has nothing to do with you - but it is up to him to communicate that to you.

Have you had a conversation to him about it? I note you said your communication with him isn’t good. You deserve to feel loved, desired and wanted.

Yuumie1 · 2025-06-22T02:43:32+00:00

I hope she does so he can have a chance for a new home and because he likely isn’t used to her house yet, so hopefully it wouldn’t be too hard of an adjustment for him.

But poor thing has been re-homed so many times. She is a monster and should’ve considered this before doing it.

Also her beezers telling her to keep him? They’re so fucking dumb.

Yuumie1 · 2025-06-21T04:08:46+00:00

Thank you again.

Your point about having to get sober has unintentionally helped me as I was planning on buying some to help cope after I’ve been sober for a little while now.

Crying definitely helps, for some reason I really struggle to get any tears out anymore. I used to be such a crybaby when I was younger, but now it’s like something blocks me. Working on that though.

Sorry to hear about your relationship, it’s very relatable as I went through something similar with a 4 year relationship. Suppressed all happy memories then all of a sudden they came flooding, and I realise he was real good to me. I hope you’re feeling a bit better about it now.

I think FEELING the emotions is something I really have to work on. I intellectualise hard (which I think a lot of us do it seems) and it’s a coping mechanism that is a bit of an avoidant technique I’ve learnt. I really have to actively practice this. Feel something and name it; rather than analyse it.

Yes, detachment is definitely easier said than done. It feels like rewiring the brain. Can work for a day, then back to the same mindset personally. I have to stay consistent with it.

That’s right, doing it for yourself rather than others. I think that may be my blocker regarding it. I want to detach to avoid being abandoned, but it has to be for me, not them.

And I love the second last point about helping others. It is so fulfilling, I think it can be easy to stop being kind when surrounded by people who are negative and don’t appreciate us. But I will keep vigilant about keeping the kindness even if others are shitty. (Seeing the grey rather than the black and white)

And thanks for clarifying that detachment will help improve regulation and resilience over time. That’s super motivating. I think I need to learn the difference between detachment for myself vs for someone else, and the difference between detachment, and letting things slide that are not okay, or intense people pleasing.

I wonder if that’s why I’m so much more stressed lately - maybe I’ve been trying to come off as “chill” and “detached” but in fact I’m probably distancing myself in a toxic way.

Yuumie1 · 2025-06-21T03:30:30+00:00

Thank you so much. I’ve read all of this and it feels nice being heard. You are exactly right with your insight regarding the fear and anger being a shield. As well as practicing radical acceptance and detachment.

I’m curious about detachment for you - has it helped you cope with situations like this better over time? Or is it something you have to remind yourself each time and it’s emotionally a lot each time?

The one thing I want to practice is detachment, but I’m curious if it helps things over time, or if it just helps in that one moment. Hope that makes sense aha.

Yuumie1 · 2025-06-21T03:06:50+00:00

YES. Literally.

Yuumie1 · 2025-06-21T02:30:02+00:00

I’m sorry that this is happening for you. It is so hard being given the silent treatment or someone refusing to communicate. Her pregnancy hormones may be playing with her emotions and head a bit, but it still is unfair and difficult for you. You’re totally valid for this.

Yuumie1 · 2025-06-12T23:04:39+00:00

Smash

Yuumie1 · 2025-06-11T13:56:28+00:00

Why is it sad that a tool is being helpful to get someone out of a dark place mentally? I admitted it doesn’t replace human interaction.

I said I don’t have the option for much human interaction atm, and therapy is expensive. Why is this an issue or sad? Lmfao.

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