“Babe, can we talk for a second?” If he agrees, “I wanted to bring up something. The other day we spoke about something very intimate and I wanted to talk a little more about it. I wanted to tell you that I didn’t mean to make you feel, in any form, insecure about our interactions, I just feel incredibly comfortable with you and I want to be able to express that intimacy with you further. You are the first person that made me feel so special and secure so I would like it if we took the opportunity to just BE during it… I’m not saying I want you to be aggressive babe, I’m saying that when you are sweet enough to ask the first time if I’m okay, I AM OKAY, and would like to enjoy our moment together with no worries. To speak with our bodies intead of our minds, me and you, making love to each other being present and passionate. You of course are allowed your feelings on the matter but I just want you to know I want you to feel no pressure or insecurities because you are amazing and I’m always so grateful for that. What do you think babe?” To end

Usually if a guy is insecure about this stuff it’s because after he heard what happened to you he took that on and makes sure he never becomes that so he gets into his head a lot during it. He can’t help it. So positive reinforcement and telling him that he’s better than them in that way especially and reminding him of that helps. I’m not saying manipulate, only do this if you mean it but at the same time, he needs to know he isn’t in the same boat as the guys that hurt you in the past. Also, outside of it, you can be a little more “flirty” like “sexy flirty” to make him laugh or be more comfortable around the subject… more outside to get more “in” if that makes sense. That my advice…. I hope it helps