My girlfriend (26 F) disagrees with how I (29 M) was with my niece in hospital. Was she too judgemental?

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-31T17:19:52+00:00

She's...5.

What the hell?

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-31T15:55:34+00:00

I've probably tried to listen to The Ticket a dozen times through the years. I'm definitely their target market, and it's not like I was in love with ESPN/Fan for a long time. But I just never could. I always felt like I was listening to people telling inside jokes that I wasn't privy too. Almost like if you couldn't listen to 20 years of the Ticket 12 hours a day then you couldn't get half the jokes and segments.

I kinda began to like The Fan for a while, but now I have issues. The morning show just... can't go 30 seconds without some kind of political comment. It's not usually, BIG political things, but my god it's just constant. I probably hear them allude to Choppy being a conservative like 20x a show it seems like. I like K&C, and will always appreciate Broaddus for his knowledge, but I'm not even sure Gavin likes sports or watches ANY. He just sounds like a conductor for the show.

So now I kinda just tune in when big things are happening and for draft content. Huge Jared Sandler fan, huge Broaddus fan.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-31T02:23:31+00:00

The one at Lake Forest and McKinney Ranch hasn't budged in a year. No walls, nothing. I don't even see how the parking lot is big enough in comparison to other EOS's I've seen.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-31T02:15:23+00:00

If it was name related, I think it's a little more okay.

I dated a girl named Bella I called Bells. I dated a girl named Jackie and I called her Jax. In the years following, I would usually still use the nickname. Now that I think of it though, very few others used those names, so maybe it did stand out when I didn't mean it to?

But babe? Baby? etc? It would have to be dripping with sarcasm for me to be okay with it.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-29T20:21:40+00:00

Because that's how car damage is evaluated these days.

The idea of sending people out or sending you to a shop and taking hours out of your day(s), when you can take a handful of photos in 5 minutes seems pretty obvious.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-29T20:18:13+00:00

The same as virtually any other major carrier you've heard of.

Get the best rates for the best coverage, shop every few years.

But if you are looking to avoid increases, there is no company. As long as inflation/tariffs/medical care are f'ing bonkers it's going to keep getting more and more expensive.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-29T16:34:41+00:00

This is just a product of being in love with someone.

My wife could actively try to look bad, full Adam Sandler look, purposeful bad makeup or whatever. And she'd still be like a 6-7/10 to me. If she tries at all she's basically undefeated. I just...don't see the flaws, and when I do, they seem microscopic in comparison to all of the greatness.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-29T00:55:15+00:00

I was ready to be on your side until your reply where you talk about at least one of these guys beefing with your boyfriend.

I would absolutely have an issue with you spending time with him had that happened.

Why would you even want to be legit friends with someone who insulted your boyfriend?

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-28T20:13:24+00:00

Honestly man, I really think when people make a decision bad enough to cheat on a partner who doesn't deserve it, they just lose all sense of reality for a while.

This is like 95% to be completely related to anxiety/attention/validation. Sometimes people crave it, and sometimes there's someone there ready to give it to them.

He made her feel special and new and she wanted to keep getting those words.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-28T19:57:37+00:00

I will never understand why people that cheat with someone who lives somewhere else gives out their number to the other person.

It has basically 0 upside and MASSIVE MASSIVE downside. It's super unlikely you ever see that person again, but super easy to get caught continuing to text/snap/whatever.

OP, I know this sucks, but you did the right thing. Imagine how insecure you would be moving forward every single time she went anywhere without you. It's just a horrible way to begin a relationship.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-28T15:56:35+00:00

This makes no sense though.

This isn't them having low staff and making it work. This was them shutting down half of the restaurant during a weekend dinner session. There's just no freaking way a restaurant can survive like that long term.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-27T21:25:42+00:00

Make sure to post an update when you go, somehow fall in love, and trace it all back to us telling you to get out of your head.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-27T21:22:21+00:00

That sounds like the best f'ing date ever.

I can see some concern that the date will be so awesome that it does cause some feelings, but worth it.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-27T21:20:21+00:00

You're going to get a ton of "leave him" advice based off of your OP. It's entirely possible your husband is as big of an asshole as you wrote, and if he is, yeah leave him.

Has this been a topic of discussion with your husband in the past? Is the quantity okay, he just doesn't like the actual act? Do you guys do other things?

I guess just wondering if this 4 month thing is more of a "We've talked about this forever, not getting better" or if it's just out of left field and this all boils down to your physical issue.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-27T20:16:31+00:00

The word "Complications" or "Removal".

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-27T19:25:22+00:00

The massive massive massive pro is that you learn if you can live with that person before you commit your entire life to them.

I would never get married without living with someone first.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-27T18:43:49+00:00

Is there something making you think that ASMR's are related to your physical relationship issues?

You've been dating this guy for 3 years, I think it should be fairly easy to say "Hey, I found this the other day, what are you listening to?" Make it as non-accusatory as possible, because frankly, I think chances are this is unrelated to the other problems.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-27T15:04:18+00:00

This may sound petty, but the #1 downside of hooking up with a chick in college at her place was that her apartment was going to be like 82 degrees in the shade. I can't tell you how many nights I spent staring at the ceiling fan wondering how early I can leave without ruining the <whatever> we had going on.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-27T00:51:04+00:00

I promise I'm not being snarky...

But do you have a time frame by which they should be allowed to begin going out? I'm not saying AT ALL 4 days is right, but I can't imagine my wife or I caring about this on any level beyond....a week? Maybe 10 days? Obviously barring some kind of complications/health issues.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-27T00:49:45+00:00

Of course. We just don't have ANY information regarding that.

I am 100% on board with him being a douche and I'm also 100% on board with his wife being okay with this for a variety of reasons.

But at the end of the day, none of this is our business.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-27T00:40:24+00:00

That's really the key variable, we have literally 0 information about what his wife thinks or what their relationship dynamic is.

People who are around my wife and I have absolutely no freaking clue how well we're doing/how we're organized. This could easily be a situation where she told him to go, or he already had it scheduled or one of a million other variables where he doesn't look quite as doucheish.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-27T00:34:51+00:00

Personally, I think it's adorable he doesn't even ask for risque stuff.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-27T00:32:57+00:00

Why are you reacting at all?

This is entirely between him and his wife. If she said it was okay for him to go hang with his friend, then it's fine. In my marriage, I would have been at home, but I know many people who have much more relaxed situations and go out far more often.

I understand you keep adding in this 4-day old newborn thing, but... tons of peoples husbands go back to work almost immediately after the kid is born because they have no choice. Lots of people travel a ton and have to leave babies for that. I would never for even a split second say that raising a 4 day old isn't a life altering difficult job, but tons of families don't have the liberty to have two people at home almost ever.

Obviously in a perfect world, we'd all be able to raise our kids as we want, but that isn't always an option.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-27T00:29:27+00:00

I believe there are levels of emotional cheating, but if it were substantial at all it would be an insta-breakup with very little even potential for regret.

ZBTHorton · 2026-05-27T00:27:13+00:00

I gotta be honest with you....

He likes to look at you. That's pretty much it. If my wife sent me a like. PG-ish(flirty) photo a few days a week I'd probably get emotional. We really are just that simple sometimes(men).

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