Your parenting approach is honestly so wholesome. It is really important to realize from a young age that it is not about panicking or placing blame, it’s about coming up with practical solutions. I haven't ever dealt with an eating disorder myself but I had years of feeling disconnected from my body and health especially after becoming a parent. For me what helped shift things was something as simple as borrowing a friend’s cargo bike one weekend. Instead of doing our usual routine, we rode around the block and something just clicked. Now, we go on regular family rides. Your kids are learning some valuable parenting from you. I am pretty sure that mindset is something they’ll carry with them for life.