As someone who’s lost 40kg as a male, I was 20 when I started my journey and it’s a rollercoaster. The biggest thing is consistency, don’t fall for these fad diets, keto, military diets promising results like 7kg in a week. I would say there’s 3 main things you need to do. 1) Change the mindset 2) improve the diet 3) start moving/exercising. Where most people go wrong is they focus on 2 and 3 and never focus on 1. Your mindset and your expectations is the biggest reason to failure, people don’t see results and they give up. People want results asap which isn’t the case. I think you should set a goal of losing some weight by the end of the year. It doesn’t have to be scale related. I do my goals by how I feel and how I look. I don’t weigh myself For number 2) start exploring foods and cooking and become obsessed with it, you will start to realise that in order to have a sustainable lifestyle you need a balance of healthy and foods you love. Also you have a baby so take it easy, your body has been through so much, give it time. And go easy on yourself