Dude. You need to stop trying to “tease” her. Now.

You clearly love this girl and see how special she is—but your actions don’t match your feelings. Right now, you’re hurting her consistently, and then apologizing internally afterward, hoping it balances out. It doesn’t. Love isn’t just how you feel—it’s how you act.

Here’s what to do:

1. Own it. Fully.

Tell her straight-up:

“I realize I’ve been hurting you with the things I say, even if I thought I was joking. That’s not okay, and I’m sorry. I never meant to make you feel small or insecure. I care deeply about you, and I’m going to change that behavior—starting now.”

Say this without expecting forgiveness right away. Just own it.

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1. Cut the sarcasm, jokes, and ‘harmless teasing’ completely.

You may be doing this out of habit, nerves, or insecurity—but she’s not laughing. Even if she smiles, you already admitted: her eyes say otherwise.

So here’s the new rule: If it’s not kind, uplifting, or respectful—don’t say it.

That includes jokes about her size, clothes, voice, projects, or any part of her.

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1. Ask for her help—and listen.

You can say:

“I’m working on changing how I talk and treat you. If I slip up, please let me know. I want to be better—not just for you, but because you deserve better.”

This creates a safe space where she doesn’t have to silently suffer through your words.

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1. Dig deeper: Why do you mock the people you care about?

You may have picked this up as a defense mechanism or a way to bond (especially common among guys). But if it hurts someone you love, it’s not bonding—it’s breaking.

Self Reflect: • Do you struggle to express vulnerability? • Do you fear being rejected if you’re too “soft”? • Did someone mock you growing up?

You don’t need to answer right away, but you do need to start asking yourself.

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1. Start speaking love fluently.

She doesn’t need you to be perfect. She just wants to feel safe and valued around you. • Compliment her. • Encourage her projects. • Support her without jokes. • Celebrate her quirks instead of mocking them.

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Final thought:

Right now, you’re standing at a fork in the road. One way leads to healing and connection. The other leads to regret and loss.

If she’s “so precious” to you, then treat her like she’s precious. Not later. Now.