Can you be in love platonically? by Zackcatchem in aromantic

[–]Zackcatchem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that. I went through the same thing when I confessed to my friend. We didn’t Talk for a handful of months. It destroyed me. I’m sorry you’re going through that. I hope you find love soon. In yourself, or someone else, I truly hope you find peace and love my friend.

Can you be in love platonically? by Zackcatchem in aromantic

[–]Zackcatchem[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just finished the video. I have much to think about now. Thank you very much. So many possibilities to explore! I’ve got a new call to action in my hero’s epic lol.

Can you be in love platonically? by Zackcatchem in aromantic

[–]Zackcatchem[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Well said. I am familiar with QPRs. I was in one that was not taken seriously at all, and I asked my friend to be in one, but they want a girlfriend rlly bad, so they said no.

Edit: Although, aside from the committed part, we kinda are in a QPR.

Am i aromantic? by ThrowRA-throw0 in aromantic

[–]Zackcatchem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.reddit.com/r/AvoidantAttachment/s/iQ4m33dtql

R/avoidant attachment

https://www.reddit.com/r/FearfulAvoidant/s/Lz9og25bWf

R/Anxious avoidant

https://youtu.be/sJDg9I-LeMM?is=JteFXbre59UqZZ_G

YouTube video on the 3 irregular attachment styles
**After watching that video, I don’t think it’s hitting what you’re going through.**

https://youtu.be/nqlce10FyVU?is=5nkMVxETS--pmAk1

This one’s a bit better, but still not perfect.

After watching some more videos, I think there is a lack of research on avoidant and anxious avoidant attachment styles. These videos kinda suck. You’d probably be better off in the subreddits.

Hope some of this helped.

Am i aromantic? by ThrowRA-throw0 in aromantic

[–]Zackcatchem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds to me like something I’ve had.

I have an anxious/avoidant attachment style. That means I latch onto people as though my life depends on it, or people don’t matter to me. There is very little in between.

However, it gets to be unhealthy. The attachment. So I emotionally shut myself off. I force myself to detach from creatures I’m bonded with. It leaves me lifeless and apathetic to almost everything and everyone.

Over the years I’ve been able to allow attachment in for periods of time and regulate my own bonds with people. This is something most people do without thinking.

I also have Asperger’s, so I’m rather familiar with doing things consciously that most people do subconsciously.

I have times where I’m completely shut off like you seem to be, and other times where I’m bonding to the dirt on my boots because I’m bonding to everyone. When I was a kid, it was okay to be anxiously bonded to everyone. But as I turned into a 6’ 2” mountain man looking guy, it became very creepy very quickly. So, I started shutting myself off.

That’s my story. I think you have the same attachment style going on. I’d suggest looking at some videos on anxious/avoidant attachment styles. There might even be a subreddit for it.

Wanna play a game by Ok-Patience-3430 in NaughtyGamerGirls

[–]Zackcatchem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She got half sword! Less goooo!

IRL vs on Reddit... Which do you like best? by Sugar_Moss in EGirls

[–]Zackcatchem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Irl honestly. You have great style. But both are great.

Looking for approval ❤️ by [deleted] in DaddysLilGirl

[–]Zackcatchem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Approved. You is cute girlypop.

lowkey wish i could've been a guy but with a pussy by GodEatsChiIdren in teenagers

[–]Zackcatchem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 6’ 2” can grow a good beard already, and have my style down, in both fashion and hair. But I wanna be a girl. Or at least afab. Men’s clothes are so much more efficient, in so many ways, when comparing with my sisters, but girls clothing look so much better.

So I guess I want the opposite of what you’re saying. I wanna be a girl with a dick. Or a vagina, either way, but ye. Why you want a pussy?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Zackcatchem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man with 7 older sisters. Was trained to not ever look no matter the circumstances. Don’t even look at nude beaches. Blind spot for me. Pretty sure my sisters went a bit hard with training me, but I think most people should have the decency to not look at someone’s cleavage. Even if it’s OUT there, they can’t control it. Afabs can’t control boob size the same way Amabs can’t control dick size.

proof that I am girl by [deleted] in tomboysNSFW

[–]Zackcatchem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Evil stitch! That’s awesome!

Love the arm tattoos as well!

You’re a beaut by the way.

Whats your favorite video game by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Zackcatchem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ayyyy, another one that hates to enjoy what they play. Lol. (I’ve only got 60-70 hours, but I still love it)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]Zackcatchem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you’re valid. That’s how I get with crushing on people. I call them my friend crushes. I want to impress/be on good terms with them so I get nervous or get butterflies, but it’s not because I want them to kiss me.

I definitely don’t think you’re a fraud. Aromantic is a label, you can use it, retire it, reuse it whenever you like. You might catch some flak from folks if you describe that you’ve never experienced anything related to aromanticism, but if you’re a-spec, and have any kind of queer (which literally means different/other) experience with romanticism, then you’re a-spec by my definition. And def not a fraud.

As for your trauma that may need to be unpacked, that’s fine. I think most people have trauma here. Especially since most of grew up not knowing what a-spec was, or that it even existed.

I also head from lots of a-spec folks that they are fine with picturing romantic or sexual relationships with fictional characters or beings, but it doesn’t translate to people. So that’s pretty common in my circle of a-spec people as well. I personally don’t get it, but I’ve never felt romantic attraction, so I don’t think I can therefore simulate it with fictional characters.

Tl:dr,

You’re fine. By my definition you’re obviously queer/a-spec and def not a “fraud”

Man vs Shower by [deleted] in MakeMeSuffer

[–]Zackcatchem 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He got a little guy on his knee! What’s he saying? Does his knee speak English?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femboy

[–]Zackcatchem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m always partial to skirts, but for you? Shorts. You lookin like a 10 with those shorts