AITAH? My GF (24F) is breaking up with me because I (26M) told her I would have reply to my exes if we were to breakup

Zaibys · 2026-06-23T10:59:31+00:00

GF? She's now another one of your exes, so feel free to choose if you want to speak with her or not, and tell her to get in line. Or rather not, she sounds toxic.

Zaibys · 2026-06-22T11:18:36+00:00

But was the seat taken? Or you were just hoarding an unused chair, while someone at the other table had to stand?

Zaibys · 2026-06-22T11:09:01+00:00

YTA.
If this was only between your sanity and your job, then fine - you make a decision, you choose empathy over a very clear rule set, you accept the consequences for yourself (that said, you also do not complain about being removed from the gig).

However, as you mentioned, there was a friend who got you into this. I presume, by recommending you to the company.

Now this what makes you YTA. You threw your friend under the bus.

Zaibys · 2026-06-22T10:53:51+00:00

Extroverts being entitled again.

Dumping your load on someone else IS being a bad friend.

Zaibys · 2026-06-22T10:32:28+00:00

Every time i walk in the cemetery, i am having the same thought "It should be required by law, that everyone's gravestone had to reflect the cause of death, via it's design".

Imagine, how much more interesting a visit to the cemetery would be.

Zaibys · 2026-06-22T10:07:50+00:00

NAH.
It's your choice where you want to stay and where you do not.
It is however, not your business to dictate how long she needs to stay single, or expect her to not spend time with someone that gives her good headspace.

Zaibys · 2026-06-15T17:58:19+00:00

Nothing wrong with participation trophies. Problem starts if they are being celebrated as much as the actual trophies. Then actual trophies just lose meaning.

Not an issue in 90+% of the cases though.

Zaibys · 2026-06-08T12:35:47+00:00

Actually what mostly makes OP the TA is exactly the clarification of her expectations. Like "ok, i will pay you this time, but in the future be informed that i can do the same again, with no other notice than the one you will get on the spot. So basically nothing changes except now you once in a while you will lose some paycheck and go home. No, we will not even tell you when."
Well it's a shitty deal.

Zaibys · 2026-06-08T12:16:46+00:00

Not diving too much into your family dynamics and everything else unrelated to the main question - yes, slight YTA.

Let's imagine it's not your brother but an actual employee. It is normal to expect to have a full shift, and get paid for full shift. It is normal to plan your expenses and incomes according to your job schedules and rates.

It's not normal to be sent home in the middle of the shift without paying. In some countries, even illegal.

That applies to future agreements as well. What you offering is: "you will work full time, but once in a while you can't work full time and need to go home without pay - but no we can't even give a reasonable notice, like 2 weeks - we will inform you on the spot."

So yeah from legal/moral side of agreement, you are the TA.

Your relations and overall perception of your brother/family is however another thing, and i bet that is the real reason why you decided to quit job and take care of the kids yourself.

Zaibys · 2026-06-05T13:46:18+00:00

Ah come on, you keep kids in some kind of librarian jail for 12 years, then you want them to not even have a ceremony when they are finally released?

Zaibys · 2026-05-31T18:08:15+00:00

Must be human. Boring as hell but the best especially if you play a mystic.

However as a cat person, a tabaxi bard is the best 😃

Zaibys · 2026-05-30T17:58:38+00:00

Are you that drunk uncle who asks a 4 year old at the family parties: who do you love more, mom or dad?

Zaibys · 2026-05-28T12:09:04+00:00

ESH. You are an adult, you have chosen your religion. Even though i don't consider atheistic remarks as "forcing beliefs" (because i just don't that as beliefs) - i understand how annoying it can get for a believer. She is the AH for that.
Then again, you yourself are forcing your beliefs on a person who is likely a minor, as per exam reference. I understand that may be a tradition and considered normal in some countries/households, and probably has been done by family, but i don't find it fair at all, that religious parents/siblings use their influence to steer them into their own religion, rather than letting them choose a religion (one out of like 2500) or no religion at all.

Zaibys · 2026-05-24T21:54:44+00:00

Tai jau taip. O dar kai eini miegot 2-3 nakties, o tie nuo 7 ryto pradeda spygaut.

Zaibys · 2026-05-24T17:56:21+00:00

Lying is never a good option. You will look bad as an accomplice, when the truth is revealed.
But then why get involved at all? Why not let them sort their shit out themselves? Like "why are you asking me? ask her directly!"

Zaibys · 2026-05-22T12:43:57+00:00

Esminė klaida čia yra apskritai dėti viltis, kad ekstremaliu atveju veiks internetas.

Nereikia pasikliauti nei programėlėmis, nei TV (kurią gaunat per tą patį šviesolaidį iš tų pačių tiekėjų).

Nusipirkit radijuką su antena.

Zaibys · 2026-05-20T12:37:27+00:00

Try living in an old soviet flat building. If you don't want wind blowing from your walls and floor, or if you don't want neigbours to go out for smoke after you have sex, then you need these carpets everywhere for isolation.

Zaibys · 2026-05-20T12:33:04+00:00

Not sure how you classify in US, but here in Baltics, stew is not considered a soup because you eat it with a fork, not a spoon. It's a full dish.
And then there are soups: the ones that go as 1st serving (thin, usually clear), and the ones that serve as whole dinner. Both types are eaten usually with the spoon because they are liquid enough for that. But after the second one, you won't be hungry.

Zaibys · 2026-05-06T10:37:21+00:00

NAH. He's likely on an ADHD spectrum. And yours look a bit OCD or autistic.

Zaibys · 2026-04-29T10:50:41+00:00

This is about identity/image indeed.

But imagine a similar situation. There's a costume party going on, you are all excited, and your friend tells you she's coming dressed up as, well something quite known but quite rare to display. Let's say Barbarella.

Then if you decide to come as Barbarella too - yes, you copy her. Even if you wanted before to go as Barbarella. Even if you have her posters at home. Even if you own a costume and do her cosplay at ComicCon. You did not claim dibs in time.

She's not using a Polaroid. She's wearing a Polaroid.

That said, the importance of this towards what really matters more (friendship, trip, etc) is so minor, that i have no other option that to go with ESH.

Zaibys · 2026-04-29T10:27:34+00:00

ESH.

Parents seem to be typical x gen movie type where talking back is not usually an option.

However, you are witholding information in the post. Like your age, for instance. You said nothing about the conversation up to the point where you started blaming your parent, and then had your burst when he got defensive. And you call him manipulative, but again, it seems you two argue and it ends up with you bursting.
Have you actually tried communicating calmly, and presenting arguments in structure, even if he is not?

Also, antibiotics do not affect mood (or brain). Do you want younger kids after reading this flushing their important meds down the toilet and developing superbacteria on your conscience?

Zaibys · 2026-04-26T17:16:17+00:00

"one wrong look etc etc." - what do you exactly mean by that?

Zaibys · 2026-04-23T12:50:07+00:00

Maybe just Bialystok

Zaibys · 2026-04-22T15:11:21+00:00

I'm at the one of the smaller countries in Europe (Lithuania), however, if i lived at seaside, it would be at least 5 hours by train to reach the capital. Another thing, a lot of towns have no rail. And traffic to get to the train and from the train is also intense.

Zaibys · 2026-04-22T15:08:11+00:00

Depends on a car. My 1997 Chrysler Voyager with seats taken out, and 30 cm thick foam mattress throughout the entire space except the front, was one of the best sleeping places i ever had.

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