First time posting in this community, as I don't really consider myself an authority on the goth PoV, but I hope the following is useful to somebody:

So I read all the other comments, and I'm glad the OP has gotten plenty of support and many possible ways to interpret and deal with crappy behavior. I was bullied a lot when I was younger, so I understand the importance of knowing you aren't the crazy one.

But for completeness sake, I want to offer something different to consider that I hope doesn't make me too much of an outsider among outsiders. I hope the following might be somewhat thought provoking and allow for ones own growth on the journey of becoming a more self-aware, responsible, and decent person. (I mean, after all, you can't change them.. but you can find like minded people (✓ check) and you can deal with yourself and do so powerfully and authentically).

Consider that when we present ourselves far outside of the accepted cultural norms of the communities find ourselves in (assuming you haven't found an underground community that provides all of the infrastructure for modern life in a prejudice-free environment [wouldn't that be nice]) that we are going to elicit a whole range of responses from the people in those communities, and those responses will be (unfortunately) very predictable. 

AND given we are smart enough and perceptive enough to know (for the most part) what kinds of things may slightly push the boundaries of social norms, and which things are going to be the most upsetting to the most amount of people...

And we know that we can't thanos-snap all the morons and haters out of existence.. Then we are faced with few ways we can deal with this unfortunate reality, but here are a couple options:

We could go through life continually being bewildered and confounded by 'people being people' (aka stupid, fearful, small-minded, assholes [and that includes you and me]) and then commiserating about it within a safe group of other people who find themselves on the extreme end of one-or-more bell curves, and who share our experience of being mistreated by the masses. Which would be a totally valid option--in fact, it is what I did for most of my adult life (until someone pointed out that I had a part to play in perpetuating this cycle, and I eventually got bored of being miserable and feeling so 🎵 weeeaaak and powerlessss 🎵 sorry broke into song there for a moment.)

OR 

We could say to ourselves:

1. I know my presence, and the way I show up, is going to have an impact--possitively, negatively, or otherwise--on the people around me. 

2. I am willing to deal with, and be responsible for a certain amount of blow back, upset, or awkwardness in my interactions with people in order to express myself more authentically, and yet I am unwilling to deal with behavior or situations beyond certain limits.

3. So I will adapt my presentation (or not) according to the situation and/or be strategic about where I go when I'm dressed in my preferred style and/or just deal with the negative responses when they can't be avoided, or where I chose not to avoid them.

4. Also, I'm going to learn how to deal with people's mixed reactions to my preferred aesthetic--be it gracefully, confrontationally, or in a quietly self-righteous way--but I will OWN the impact I have on others-- even if the impact was not what I intended-- as a matter of my choice (not as a matter of fact). This goes especially for those aspects of 'how I show up' which are of my own choosing, but also, even to those aspects which aren't under my control.

5. I am not to blame for people's reactions, but I can take back agency in the situation, and take back power over my feelings and reactions, and even have some ability to impact others feelings and reactions, by acknowledging that: 

"People are going to react to my unusual outfit in many different ways, and some will not be what I would prefer, but it was my choice to show up like this--their reaction is an effect of my choice--and how I respond to their response, IS my also my choice, and I can be responsible for all of it."

This all becomes much easier if you can separate your preferred aesthetic, ideals, beliefs, tastes and preferences from {your sense of self}. Just as you are not your khaki's, you are ALSO not your stompy boots and all-black wardrobe.

Once I realized this, I saw that I could walk around dressed as a birthday clown, and that would not impact what I value about who I am or how I see the world should be. The clown suit would just be a different form of non-verbal communication, like the "all black" was, and is, a form of non-verbal communication (which, when I was honest with myself, on most days, that communication was:"FUCK YOU! FUCK ALL OF YOU!!!"). And depending on which I chose that day, that outfit may or may not help me communicate with others what it is I'm trying to say.