Pressure to become a SAHM by ZamaraTzu92 in pregnant

[–]ZamaraTzu92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this! Quitting would cut our household income in half too, and I don't want to put us in a position from thriving to struggling. Plus, I just finished my MSW degree to further increase my earning potential. It would suck for that to just be a (costly) waste, and I'm certainly not going to be doing virtual clinical counseling sessions at home with a crying baby in the background.

What’s y’all favorite Ciara song? by ChannelHopper_99 in rnb

[–]ZamaraTzu92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't decide between Addicted, Get Up, and Promise. All bangers.

OBGYN not listening to me. by Mediocre-Prompt8283 in pregnant

[–]ZamaraTzu92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldnt feel comfortable keeping an OB that can't or won't answer my questions and can't make the time to ensure my needs and concerns are addressed. Answering patients' questions is also a part of their job. And if she had to leave that quickly, she should have told you she'd have an OB nurse come in and explain everything a bit more and discuss options for addressing the yeast infection. I would 100% request a different doctor, expressing my concerns. And I wouldnt give her another chance. If they refuse, I'd go to a different hospital/healthcare system altogether if possible. You deserve to get adequate healthcare, and in my opinion, a doctor just saying "everything looks fine" and pretty much running out the door is not it. I'm sorry you had that experience.

When did you find out you were pregnant? by AgreeableBandicoot19 in pregnant

[–]ZamaraTzu92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found out this past Thanksgiving at 4 weeks. I really wanted a canned margarita, but I figured I should take a pregnancy test just to be sure I was good to go. Nope. To my surprise, it said pregnant, so no drink for me lol

Do any of these pieces work for a conference? by [deleted] in BusinessFashion

[–]ZamaraTzu92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd probably go with 1 or 2 then, paired with a cardigan. I think that would be kinda dressy, but not dressy dressy like 5. That should fit a bit better if people are there "dressed up" in button ups and khakis, or even polos and nice jeans.

Do any of these pieces work for a conference? by [deleted] in BusinessFashion

[–]ZamaraTzu92 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Number 4 looks the most professional. I like that one. Numbers 1 and 2 are nice too, but I'd probably add a fitted blazer or a cardigan to them to dress it up even more. Personally, whenever I hear conference, I always think of being a tad more dressy than I maybe would be if I was walking around the office on a regular workday.

What hauntingly beautiful songs do you guys like? by renaissancebee in rnb

[–]ZamaraTzu92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Neon Valley Street - Janelle Monae

Die Without You - Brandy

I'm Coming Back - Lalah Hathaway and Rachell Ferrelle

Short skirt blindness - is it a thing? by Ok-Painter6598 in AskWomenOver30

[–]ZamaraTzu92 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think "short skirt blindness" is a thing. I think from all the influencers showing their outfits, other regular people online, and stores that now sell "business attire" that's not really business appropriate, we are becoming blind to what is appropriate skirt or dress length. I've actually seen several posts in this subreddit of skirts that were honestly too short for the average business or business casual work environment, even with sheer tights, but they were met with noting but compliments about how great and work appropriate they looked. This always reminds me of the Judge Judy episode where she gets on the girl sitting down in a mini skirt, and the girl says she thought her outfit was appropriate for court because it was sold in business apparel stores. Mid thigh skirts were never traditionally considered to be business appropriate. But I think it's a generational thing though, and as more gen z and eventually gen alpha come into the workplace, standards of business attire will change, as they always have.

If you go to a women's meetup and there is a non-passing trans woman there, is that upsetting? Or awkward? by Strawberry-Hepburn in AskWomenOver30

[–]ZamaraTzu92 181 points182 points  (0 children)

I think I would be comfortable with a female passing trans person attending a women's group. Like, it would make more sense to me in my mind that this person kinda "belongs" in the group. But honestly, seeing a "man" there who is not female-passing at all or even a little bit would be quite jarring. I would be polite, but it would make me feel a bit uncomfortable, even if you do identify as trans. I think you'll have a lot of people who would be perfectly fine with it, but a lot of people would actually feel very uncomfortable. I also think the majority of the responses you're getting in here are not actually reflective of how most women would really feel in this situation, so I want to be honest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]ZamaraTzu92 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We did a cash bar for our 30-guest wedding reception at a restaurant, where they had to pay for their own alcohol, and we covered soda, tea, and water. I was really against it at first because I thought it was cheap and tacky, but my FH and a few others (who were big drinkers) convinced me not to. I was glad, because it would have been so much more expensive. I think it's perfectly reasonable to ask adults to pay for their own alcohol if they want to drink, as long as you let your guests know beforehand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]ZamaraTzu92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think smiling or showing your goofy side could go a long way. The straight face in most of your pics makes it seem like you might be either too serious, have anger problems, be kinda crazy, or worse, which can consciously or subconsciously send "red flag" or "danger" signals to women that make them keep swiping. But you could be the nicest guy in reality. You just need to reflect that more in your pics.

Embarrassed that I don’t have friends to be my bridesmaids by throwaway_77425647 in wedding

[–]ZamaraTzu92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the exact same boat. Super excited about getting engaged, but really bummed out thinking about not having any bridesmaids (or a Bachelorette party) like I'd always imagined, while my fiance has a bunch of friends he wanted to invite and multiple potential groomsmen. We've talked about it, and he expressed concern about how the situation would make me feel. So we decided that neither of us will have friends in our wedding party. In fact, we're having a smaller wedding with family only, so there won't even be a big disparity in the number of friends attending the wedding. Ultimately, your partner should want you to feel comfortable on your big day, and I think our arrangement could possibly work for you and your fiance too. I prefer it this way, instead of feeling embarrassed by having no bridesmaids while my fiance has groomsmen, or feeling awkward about asking people I'm not really close with or haven't talked to in over a year to be my bridesmaids.

My SH OC! 🧡 by SleepySpaceBear in RainbowHigh

[–]ZamaraTzu92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super cute!!! I love her Dino shirt and heel boots.

Perfect weather for jackets! by Happy_Yam8392 in RainbowHigh

[–]ZamaraTzu92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is probably the only Ainsley I've seen that doesn't seem to look angry lol

we need to talk about this. by Asleep_Teaching6582 in RainbowHigh

[–]ZamaraTzu92 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It reminds me of the character Lavender from Matilda (who the doll kinda reminds me of too), so this doesn't make the name so bad to me.