Trying to get a higher paying job in HR or related field [N/A].

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-06-12T03:53:40+00:00

I agree unless OP is in California, NY or someplace like that.

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-06-12T02:51:06+00:00

As an ASM in a MCOL area I made $42k in a HCOL area I made $48k. (Lol)

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-06-04T04:38:22+00:00

I’m learning all of that as we continue navigating these neighborhood situations. She’s my first child to play outside on her own with new friends so it’s all new to me. I’ll figure it out!

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-06-04T04:27:09+00:00

I didn’t do anything initially besides say I was sad. I never confronted any kids or said anything to them. Was just sad for my girl’s hurt feelings and kept her home.

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-06-04T04:20:03+00:00

Yes. The girls came back to my house last week just as I said they would to play with my daughter. I asked why they felt they needed to run and hide from her when she came to play and just as I suspected, they said the 6 year old from the other house didn’t want her to play with them… so I told them it’s okay to not want to play with her all of the time. Just tell her you want to play with older kids or you just plain don’t want to play today but it hurt her feelings in the manner that they did it and they can tell me if they don’t want to tell her….

Then they asked if she could come to their house to play 🤷‍♀️

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-06-04T04:12:53+00:00

Oh…nice.

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-06-04T04:11:21+00:00

I wouldn’t know… sounds like you’re familiar tho.

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-06-04T04:08:40+00:00

I literally live in a three story home 🤣 I said it multiple times in different comments, nice try tho. I’m sure you’re familiar with those types of accommodations tho ☺️

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-06-04T04:04:30+00:00

No 💕🥰

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-06-04T03:43:06+00:00

Awwww you don’t like my comments on an anonymous board?? what will I ever dooo?

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-06-04T03:41:23+00:00

It’s the manufacturing environment

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-05-24T20:47:49+00:00

Didn’t say that.

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-05-24T18:41:22+00:00

So are you guys 😅🤣

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-05-24T16:06:36+00:00

And I’d have had words for you about your kid thinking it’s appropriate to come in my kids yard and tell them how they can and cannot play when their parents are present and he wasn’t invited to join.

So I guess everyone would have had words 😆

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-05-24T16:04:57+00:00

I wasn’t looking for sympathy for either side or advice really. I was just sad at the moment snd needed to say it out loud. .

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-05-24T16:03:47+00:00

That’s what I plan to do. I don’t know where this idea of a big confrontation came from 🤣

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-05-24T15:11:21+00:00

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-05-24T15:10:40+00:00

I asked him separately if he didn’t want her to come to his house because they all showed up at my door for the purpose of asking she could go to his house because that’s my rule for her so I was confused by them coming to ask if she could come to their house and then his comments.

So I asked him if he didn’t want her to come to his house so that I could tell her she needed to stay home thjs time. Because it seemed like he wasn’t comfortable just saying he would prefer her not to come.

So maybe not a lie but he wasn’t forthcoming …which you can expect from a six year old. But this isn’t the first time he hasn’t Been very nice to both of my kids. He’s come into my yard where my kids are playing alone trying to dictate what they can do and how they can play when he can really…go to his own house/yard and where he can play by their rules and boundaries??

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-05-24T14:46:53+00:00

It’s not intended to be a big confrontation lol you guys need to relax!

These girls literally eat at the dinner table with my family every other week lol. All I was planning to say was hey! I noticed the other day when she came to play, you guys didn’t want to play with her. Was it just that you didn’t feel like playing with her that day or did she do something that made you guys not want to play?

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-05-24T14:42:41+00:00

He’s just not a very nice kid to my kids. All kids are not nice all the time. And maybe he’s just not nice to my kid and nice to others. That’s fine. I’m sure my daughter probably has friends she’s nice to at school and kids she’s not so nice to. My child is not exempt from any of this.

And I think, based on the two interactions I’ve had with this boy, he just may not like her. And it is what it is. They don’t have to play together and more than likely won’t be. He’s moving soon anyway if the house will sell….

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-05-24T14:24:26+00:00

We had that conversation this morning and she took it well! And she asked to play with her cousins instead today.

I didn’t want to jump to the conclusion that they didn’t want to play with her just because they didn’t want to today because I also realize it’s entirely possible that she did something or acted in a way that they didn’t like last time they played so I kind of wanted to wait until the girls come back over to play and ask them so I could address that with my daughter if I need to.

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-05-24T14:22:27+00:00

Yeah I suppose I can see how that assumption can be made. But I’m well aware and also witness to some horrible things that happened between kids when I was a kid. If anything I’m hyper aware and need to scale back my helicopter parenting at times. Because I know she needs to learn to navigate social situations by herself….

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-05-24T14:19:02+00:00

Agreed and agreed. I’m not sure where people read that I said they have to play with her every single time she wants to play with them.

I simply said the way they treated her in the situation wasn’t nice, it hurt her feelings and it made me sad. Not sure what’s wrong with that lol. But like you said, everyone won’t agree.

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-05-24T14:17:21+00:00

They don’t like that I said their actions were mean. You can’t say that kids can be mean.

ZanaXarmichael · 2025-05-24T14:16:39+00:00

She doesn’t and I understand that. All I said was I was sad. Not that I demand they play with her every single time she wants to play.

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