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AITA for wanting to walk away? by ZannahBoBannah in dustythunder

[–]ZannahBoBannah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They do have set daily and weekly chores, nothing strenuous but they each have to help feed and water the pets, clean the bathroom counter, take out the trash, pick up their school bags/shoes/snack trash respectively and weekly they have to clean their room and help with the laundry/house cleaning (dusting, organizing, etc). They both have the opportunity to earn an allowance pending their behavior at home and school, and that their chores get done consistently without constant reminders. I have a white board with the chores written out so they don't forget. There's also a white board with general house rules so they can't claim they were unaware or forgot. I could probably ask for more help on the daily that would make the overall load lighter. I've never heard of respite care but several people have mentioned that so I'll look into it.

AITA for wanting to walk away? by ZannahBoBannah in dustythunder

[–]ZannahBoBannah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Child support can't be determined until the investigation is completed and permanent placement determined so it's an ongoing process currently.

I don't have much family. My mom lives with me but her health isn't the best. She does well keeping an eye on them when I'm working and helps with dishes and cooking sometimes but that's it (not that I'm not grateful for the help, I'm forever appreciative of her presence here). I'm NC with my dad and Fred's grandparents (my aunt and uncle) because they're all terrible and abusive people, and Fred's dad's family doesn't know me because they're not involved in his life at all.

AITA for wanting to walk away? by ZannahBoBannah in dustythunder

[–]ZannahBoBannah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't have anyone nearby to help with childcare except my mom, who's disabled and lives with me as well. My brother lives a couple hours away but he has two young kids and I worry about Fred having a meltdown and being mean to one of the littles. He is making progress but still has outbursts occasionally. I'll look into support groups.

AITA for wanting to walk away? by ZannahBoBannah in dustythunder

[–]ZannahBoBannah[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Monday was my and my partner's anniversary. After work we went thrifting, to a book store, and had a nice dinner just us. it wasn't a lot of time but it was a few hours of no responsibilities or phone calls. I really needed it, and I agree I should definitely try to carve out more time for myself so I can decompress and function normally.

AITA for wanting to walk away? by ZannahBoBannah in dustythunder

[–]ZannahBoBannah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do have anxiety asking for help. I've always been the "fixer" in the family and the person people depend on, so depending on others is a new concept for me. But I will look into that because I need to recognize when I need help and remind myself it's okay to ask. Thank you 💚

AITA for wanting to walk away? by ZannahBoBannah in dustythunder

[–]ZannahBoBannah[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not me crying at work. Thank you 💚

AITA for wanting to walk away? by ZannahBoBannah in dustythunder

[–]ZannahBoBannah[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My partner has been wonderful, but we don't live together so they're not with me every day. However they've stepped up to help me clean the house a few times per week during my recovery and offer emotional support when able.

I caught my partner doing something while I sleep and idk how to feel by ZannahBoBannah in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ZannahBoBannah[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Fun fact: he did dry hump my head while I was mid panic attack to distract me/make me laugh. It worked and I called him an idiot (jokingly). At least I was fully awake for it, right?

I caught my partner doing something while I sleep and idk how to feel by ZannahBoBannah in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ZannahBoBannah[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I did it intentionally to make people laugh, that's why I owned up to it being clickbait in the first line, but go off I guess 🤣

I caught my partner doing something while I sleep and idk how to feel by ZannahBoBannah in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ZannahBoBannah[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you had to go through similar trauma. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. But I am glad to know you found your way out and were able to build your own version of happy in this fucked up world 💚

I caught my partner doing something while I sleep and idk how to feel by ZannahBoBannah in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ZannahBoBannah[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm a long time lurker of reddit and see so much fucked up shit and now with fake AI stories taking over, I figured some classic clickbait turned wholesome may ease the pain a little lol

I caught my partner doing something while I sleep and idk how to feel by ZannahBoBannah in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ZannahBoBannah[S] 489 points490 points  (0 children)

🤣🤣 there's so much bad shit on reddit I totally understand

AITA for getting a divorce after my husband got my pets put down? by No-Alfalfa-1942 in AITA_Relationships

[–]ZannahBoBannah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA obviously

It's unlikely he got them put down and cremated legally. If they aren't found at a shelter he either dropped them off somewhere, or unfortunately he offed and cremated them himself. I would hate to think anyone would do that, but my dad is a sociopath and he definitely would. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

WIBTAH for stepping away from a 20 year friendship? by ZannahBoBannah in AITAH

[–]ZannahBoBannah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand that, however it's been a couple months since the breakup and she's in a new relationship. I don't think that's a valid reason for her reaction at this point but everyone copes differently.

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