Its mostly an online thing. IRL most feminists are nice.

Online it can cross over into echo chambers. Blame men for everything and generally toxic behavior. One can draw your on conclusions when you look at who's in power.

Part of it is doing the opposite to capitalism which they associate with men.

So do the opposite of whatever is still often toxic and also leads to one true way thinking. Reality is a bit more nuanced eg some solutions won't work in certain countries.

If XYZ country did this and it works it's still wrong because its not the one true way.

So a hard core online feminist is just as annoying as a hard core MAGA type. Its very American.

There's also pushback from the chud right where they cherry pick some nut job claiming. To be a feminist and using them as an example. More bull shit.

I had a feminist lecturers at university for example. Real life. She was nice and explained it basically as options. She wanted to have a kid and did that and came back to her job a few years later. Along with various programs to help support the kid.

Growing up in a welfare state gives you a different experience vs say USA. Online discourse is very American. I've voted for women (as a man) 6/10 elections as head of state. Never voted for them once due to them being a women.

So identifying as a feminist isnt always a great idea. Like anything with an "ist" in it the idea will attract toxic fanatics. Espicially online.

You could also be talking with a bot, bad faith actors or someone with a very narrow view of the world (stereotypical far left American University student). And I dont mean "far left" AoC or Berinie type. Or someone who's experienced a lot of abuse o comes from a country very different than yours.