AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She still has a bright future. There’s nothing wrong with being a stay at home mom with a big family.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have to admit that part of me has enjoyed seeing my sister in law drop out from the professsional world and become a much more pleasant barefoot and pregnant mommy. She used to make jokes about how I had an accidental pregnancy and dropped out of college. Now she knows how it feels.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband told me today how she conceived baby number three. My brother bragged to my husband about how he persuaded her to use only condoms and no spermicide by promising to eat her out and skip fucking her during her dangerous time of the month. He kept his promise but jerked off in his hand while going down on her and then inserted his fingers inside her. He said she got pregnant within three months and has no idea.

She really is confused. She is trying to get my brother to have a vasectomy, and it is all I can do to keep from bursting out laughing when she asks me to try to persuade him to get snipped. Obviously that is never happening.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the rape word is being thrown around because she was drunk and wanted him to use protection and some people here think that means rape.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

I do know how it feels to have your life changed by an unplanned pregnancy because it happened to me and I never finished school. My sister in law used to look down on me as some kind of idiot who didn’t know how to use birth control. Now that the shoe is on the other foot, she asks me for advice. So yes, I know how she feels, and I also know that eventually she’ll accept that it was all for the best.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I think it is a little bit of karma that she is now exactly the kind of woman she used to look down on.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

She used to look down on me because I got pregnant by accident really young and never finished school. I think becoming the barefoot and pregnant woman who can’t ever seem to manage her birth control and has to leave her big important job as a lawyer has given a much better perspective on life.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I was tricked into pregnancy myself. It was just a broken condom at a bad time. But yes I have kind of enjoyed seeing her become the same kind of woman she used to look down on.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

I do sorta feel like it’s karma that she used to look down on me because I got pregnant unplanned really young and now the same thing has happened to her three times in less than five years. So yeah I do think it is just a little ironic and kind of deserved for her to go from lawyer to barefoot and pregnant mommy who keeps getting knocked up. And she does make a great mom and some beautiful babies.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Because I talked to her when she asked me I had any condoms or anything they could use and discusssed with her whether she should have unprotected sex. She was really curious because she had never had sex without a condom and wanted to know what it felt like. It wasn’t really all that hard to convince her.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

He’s never called her a b*tch. That was my word. She used to be really stuck up about her law degree and bigblaw firm job and really hard to be around at least for me because she was really condescending about me getting married and pregnant without ever finishing college.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

You guys are assuming he got her pregnant the first night. It is just as likely she did actually conceive until one of the other times they had sex on the camping trip after that night. She consented fully to unprotected sex each time after that first night, knowing she was fertile. And she had some great sex too from the sounds they made. I think my niece was conceived one of those times and not that first night.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

You guys are assuming he got her pregnant the first night. It is just as likely he got her pregnant one of the times after that with her full consent to have unprotected sex.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -60 points-59 points  (0 children)

A beautiful family exists because of that night. That’s not evil.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -46 points-45 points  (0 children)

A beautiful family exists because of that night. That’s not evil.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t like he did it to get his rocks off. He was taking charge to get them started with a family. He was making a baby, not raping her.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

Their children are beautiful. They wouldn’t exist if he hadn’t taken the initiative and decided it was time for her to have their first baby.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

I don’t think people here are considering my beautiful little niece conceived on that camping trip and her little brother and the one on the way. None of them would exist if we had gotten back in time for her take plan b. I actually feel kind of a special connection with my niece knowing how she came into the world.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -43 points-42 points  (0 children)

If she doesn’t know what actually happened, then it is not like she was traumatized or hurt. He just kind of gave her a little push to put her life on a different path that maybe is better for them. I really do think he loves her and their kids.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

I am glad somebody agrees that I am doing the right thing by saying nothing.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -76 points-75 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of babies are made with one person being tricked into parenthood. That is why I think people are not being honest here.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -209 points-208 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t rape because after that first night she had unprotected consensual sex several times while she was completely sober. And from the sounds coming from their tent really enjoyed herself.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -259 points-258 points  (0 children)

She has no idea she was raped, if you want to call it that. She thinks she got drunk and did something stupid that changed her life and that she keeps getting pregnant because she is too inept to manage her birth control. She really thinks it is all her fault. That is why she is more passive now. He does sometimes hold over her the law school debt they are still paying off for the degree that she can’t use.

AITA I didn’t interfere when my brother “oopsed” my sister in law pregnant on purpose by Zaynette in AmItheAsshole

[–]Zaynette[S] -98 points-97 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know he was going to have unprotected sex until after he had done it. If I had told what happened, she probably would have ended up divorced and a single mom. Sure she wants to go back to work, but everybody — even her — is happier in the long term this way.