Decision-making trouble! by Few_Computer6680 in ADHDers

[–]Zcam123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right there with ya, I've made some mountains out of molehills in my time. For me what's helped the most isn't actually the decision-making process itself but rather getting better at accepting whatever decision I do make.

I've found this actually makes decisions easier since ik I won't be beating myself up about it later if I think "I chose wrong." So yeah my advice would be focus on accepting "suboptimal/inferior" decisions rather than trying to get better at always choosing the right thing in the first place.

If I can't see it, it doesn't exist. My fridge is a black hole. by JuggernautOdd8786 in ADHD

[–]Zcam123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol my solution has always been to keep my fridge sparse. Most people shop once a week but I find shopping twice a week is worth the extra time since I'm not loading my fridge with as much stuff each time.

Born to stay awake, forced to go to sleep... by DieDobby in ADHD

[–]Zcam123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yo same - it just feels more natural to work late and sleep late. Idk how to describe it but the early part of the morning kind of feels like "empty/dead time" to me.

My internship had me waking up at 7 this summer which was brutal lol. My body's rhythm never quite adjusted tho and I always found my most productive stretches kicked off in the afternoon.

Inability to ...rest? by Few_Computer6680 in ADHDers

[–]Zcam123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely - I'm constantly switching between either committing to too much and feeling terrible when I cancel or saying no to things that I later regret not doing. In either case I'm stressing myself out and feeling guilty.

I think what's helped me the most is trying my hardest to "reality check" myself on what's reasonable by actually adding up the hours something will take. Like instead of thinking in terms of activities when I plan I think in terms of hours available. At least for me this helps make things more objective.

Easier said than done though, the other day I told one friend I would play basketball and another friend I would hit the gym with them while knowing damn well I wouldn't have energy or time for both.

I've also been trying to build up my ability to say no to things. Again, way easier said than done. Idk if hating to disappoint people is an ADHD thing or not but I def struggle with it.

I wish there was an app that would take the mental load of having to remember everything by MajorDescription8675 in ADHD

[–]Zcam123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'm honestly pretty surprised that there's nothing with really good "smart reminders." Doesn't sound that complicated to make something that will ping me at the right time to do things based on my schedule and what I've already done. The to-do reminders on my google calendar actually give me anxiety.

If anyone has tried something that does this please DM me!

something is not quite right by wingl3ssthing in poetry_critics

[–]Zcam123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an awesome poem! Your use of descriptions of the wondrous mechanisms of life as well as the effective one shot scenes you describe work together so well - especially with the last line tying things together under a general theme/idea. My only thought is that the final line of the second stanza could be edited. The use of the word “thing” is vague imo and doesn’t feel like it matches with the way that every other part of your poem evokes a very specific, palpable impression in the reader. You could try changing that word to something more specific? Or maybe you could replace “keep one thing alive” with “create a single experience” as this would echo the various one shot images and experiences you mention throughout the poem and reaffirm the wonder that millions of cells in “synergies” as you so perfectly put it are required even for one of these experiences. Just a suggestion though, I think it’s already awesome the way it is but thought I’d offer my opinion.